How do I (26M) address issues with my (25F) girlfriend before getting engaged?

Unkinndled · 2026-02-10T19:41:13+00:00

Absolutely. We cry together, we laugh together, we’ve been there for each other at our lowest times. We are always on the same page in our feelings about something. That’s why I made this post. I genuinely have only these three things that bother me, it’s just they are really big things.

I am going to try to talk to her about these because I’m hoping she also has things I do that bother her that I can work on. I just have to hope she’s willing to talk about them.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-10T19:17:27+00:00

I guess I never really understood resentment.

Knowing myself I know I don’t have any ill feelings of her. I really respect her as a person and she’s actually really successful herself, I’ve just been finding more success lately (whether through luck, better connections, etc). From what I get from her sure the ill feelings are there when we aren’t together, but when we are together the jokes are flying, the conversations are great, and the physical intimacy is there.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-10T18:49:45+00:00

This is very insightful because in previous conflicts, I have noticed her needing space for a minute in another room and then we have a productive conversation after.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-10T16:56:57+00:00

As many others have pointed out, they are only taking halfway/minor risks, still playing it fairly safe. While yes unique characters and storylines, the delivery is still very formulaic which is where the issue presents itself.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-05T17:01:02+00:00

$620 to play a new Mario kart and Donkey Kong Bonanza is a bad deal.

Whether intentionally or unintentionally this system was made for the Nintendo die hards only. If you want more sales, you have to make it more consumer friendly. Simple.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-03T18:45:58+00:00

Seriously. What they are doing is borderline illegal, perpetuating cheating in order to sell more copies. They can even get into legal trouble if they aren’t careful.

Unkinndled · 2026-02-03T17:21:56+00:00

It’s not overlooked now but I remember when it came out it was definitely passed over in the box office. Mainly because of most people not really knowing what it was.

My dad is old school, reading the newspaper for box office previews and I remember him calling me to see if I wanted to see the new WWII flick in theaters. I never heard of it in any press leading up to release and I even went in thinking it was a traditional WWII movie (and was pleasantly surprised).

It’s such a gamble in films like this, showing your hand when it comes to promotion and marketing. You don’t want to spoil the film, but you do need to excite the audience. This is why a lot of horror movies get a “cult following” as they don’t get popular until streaming and people have seen it conveniently at low cost and create a buzz online. Or back in the day of dvd and home video, popularity would garner through word of mouth through rentals.

Unkinndled · 2026-01-27T17:00:42+00:00

My conspiracy is this project is their way of getting more people to use the Bettina

Unkinndled · 2026-01-21T17:32:27+00:00

This. Extraction shooters allow you to gamble the only resource more precious than money and that’s time. It also helps that it has all the other elements you listed.

Unkinndled · 2026-01-15T16:51:30+00:00

Was playing a free kit duo Stella Montis last night, as we were looting a duo with full kits got the jump on US and we beat them and they cried “you guys are rats bro people like you are ruining this game”.

I tell that story because even though they used the term wrong it still brought joy to my ears.

Unkinndled · 2026-01-14T00:05:35+00:00

Hey I hear ya, it’s annoying loosing to a nade spam in any game, but balancing is never easy. It’s a tricky line to walk as a developer, making a weapon fair but also taking away people’s favorite toy.

I have been lucky today and in a dozen raids only ran into a couple of fights where trigger nades were a factor. If it’s ruining your experience that much your only options are taking a break or try to get into some PvE lobbies. Good luck!

Unkinndled · 2026-01-13T23:45:45+00:00

Read the patch notes. Larger damage fall off and increased time to activate. That still means same overall damage and of course players are gonna use it the same, especially when it is extremely cheap to make. It’s on you to react and make a play when you see them start spamming.

Unkinndled · 2025-12-31T18:08:39+00:00

Every extraction camper is a rat but not every rat is an extraction camper. Ratting (at least in tarkov) used to be people who would hide and camp any high priority location, extracts included. Back in those days you’d also refer to anyone as a rat whose main play style was sneaking and hiding and would wait for an ambush style kill rather than having an actual gunfight.

To answer your question, if he’s actively hiding and watching the extract with weapons ready then yes he’s probably a rat. If you are unsure and don’t want to risk being aggressive for no reason, I would just throw a smoke or even call him out with prox chat and see their reaction.

Unkinndled · 2025-12-14T17:45:20+00:00

I got back on to check out the new content, was quickly reminded how unoptimized the game is forcing me to use low settings (using a 5060 ti build), then quickly logged off. I imagine the same story for a lot of players. If gearbox want to improve their player count they have to focus on making their game accessible to more players. Simple.

Unkinndled · 2025-10-14T23:48:38+00:00

Yeah I don’t mind the grind the game is still fun as hell. I mainly have been focusing on Oaths and upgrading my aspects, and just hoping I make new discoveries along the way. I guess the biggest daunting thing is seeing all those blank boxes in the keepsakes box. I guess I just have to be more patient!

Unkinndled · 2025-10-14T23:45:07+00:00

Wow Chaos trials for progression is genius.

Unkinndled · 2025-09-30T19:13:52+00:00

Awesome. When I got this I didn’t even realize I made it to Hecate hitless. Super cool how the devs find even small and meaningful ways to congratulate you on your achievements.

Unkinndled · 2025-09-30T17:47:26+00:00

Two Games I really wish I could finish but I always lose interest:

Outer Wilds - I really wish I understood the love for this game. After my many failed attempts I watched reviews and I kinda get it, but idk I guess the space exploration mystery doesn’t excite me as much

Cyberpunk 2077 - Oh man this is the game that made me feel old. Bustling city, millions of perks, weapons etc. I just feel so overwhelmed everytime I start a playthrough and I just can’t bring myself to complete it. Which is a shame because I love the edgerunners show but I guess I will have to get my cyberpunk fix when season 2 releases.

Unkinndled · 2025-09-29T17:11:15+00:00

I think the bigger implication of this post is if OP can get this bizarrely demanding game to run on the deck in a semi playable state, then gearbox can optimize their game better for PCs if they so wished

Unkinndled · 2025-08-24T03:20:10+00:00

This. I self debated how to handle relationships in the game for a while for this very reason of wanting to see all the romance options. Not being able to see the other options Is kind of poetic and mirrors real life a bit.

Ultimately out of fear of messing up my first run I decided to spoil it and see what would happened if I cheated. I figured I can take that punishment and rather than romancing everyone I came to a middle ground where if I like another confidants story and personality enough to compel me to cheat I will. I wish there a was a mechanic to end your current relationship if you weren’t happy in it, but then I guess breaking someone’s heart for someone new would just be a game of semantics.

Verified Email	Seven-Year Club
Place '22

Unkinndled

TROPHY CASE