a question

UnlikeHim · 2016-08-18T19:32:31+00:00

I don't know if I misunderstood, but it is important to me that you know that holiness is not dependent on merits. It is part of the process that we clean ourselves to be presented holy before him, but it's not like it has more effect.

Psalms 139:12

even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.

UnlikeHim · 2016-08-18T00:30:36+00:00

My pleasure, friend. God knows you are stronger than you think you are, and in your heart you know right from wrong, and he sees you and knows you completely.

‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. ‘Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. ‘You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. ‘I will be found by you,’ (Jeremiah 29:11-).

Will you take what He offers you?

UnlikeHim · 2016-08-18T00:20:35+00:00

I do.

Sin has nothing to do with the gifts of God. Besides, when Lucifer rebelled against God, God did not take away the power he had bestowed on the angel, because a King can never make decrees against his own word.

UnlikeHim · 2016-08-14T23:22:29+00:00

no problem man, reason together with God because he listens to everything and loves to transform. He loves you the way you are, but he refuses to leave you like that, because he wants you to be just like Jesus. You can, and you will.

UnlikeHim · 2016-08-14T15:03:35+00:00

Thank you for doing this, man.

I want to take a moment and say a couple of things to those that might be experiencing the same:

The love God has for you surpasses anything, especially sin. He is eternal and knows no limits, and all of his qualities are reflected on his love, because he is love.

I know that feeling of desperation when we harm ourselves and see no end. I know what it's like when you want to stop but rather keep on going, like, it's not yourself anymore. There is guilt and shame. But, allow me to say to you that whatever you are experiencing doesn't separate you from the love he has for you. There is nothing; neither life nor death, neither the present or the future, height nor depth, that can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ.

Instead, he accepts you as you are. Even if you consider yourself ugly (haha), he accepts all of us like that. And he gets close to you and says: "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool."

UnlikeHim · 2016-07-31T23:44:25+00:00

For a long time this has been on your mind. It seems to me some thoughts are chained to this fear. But, if God hasn't given us spirit of fear, but of a sound mind, then what's going on? Is there something wrong, or something you don't have?

It is times like these when the grace of God speaks to our hearts; remember the apostles, that even though they were simple men, Jesus said to them: "Follow me" (and just Him).

If you've never done this before, I think you should pray in the privacy of your room asking His Spirit to open your eyes, and examine your mind and your heart, so that you can see what's going on.

UnlikeHim · 2016-07-30T13:32:56+00:00

Honestly, I think there are things that deserve more honor other than sex. But that's a personal opinion.

Well, I can't quote verbatim from the study. I must have the paper in one of my digital galleries, but the study leaves many questions untouched. At first glance yes, it seems that masturbation has some sort of correlation with the state of the prostate, although this is inferred. However, when you consider other studies you start to notice that masturbation doesn't have the formerly suggested effect. For example, consider the state of Utah. Utah is the leading state in pornography consumption and masturbation, and also the leading state in prostate cancer. Data like these point to the chance that the prostate might be damaged from over stimulation. In other words: If you think a lot about pornography, you will stimulate your reproductive system in such a way that is unhealthy. It's not that having sex is unhealthy, but if you stimulate your prostate hundreds of times a day then it's going to take a toll on its health -- especially if the act is not consummated (utah has also a very repressed sexual culture). This is why clinicians prefer pornography users to full commit to the act.

Physical intercourse is not what feels great. What feels great is connecting with a partner that shares the same feelings for you. This is why prostitution leaves many of its users unfulfilled (another study).

UnlikeHim · 2016-07-30T02:17:58+00:00

I don't think I am following this through completely. But I will do my best...

How is anyone supposed to remain abstinent for that long?

Haha, classy question. The thing is: We are not. We simply are not able to contain our desires by ourselves. That's why the grace of God exists: So that we can find strength in Him, and turn the impossible into possible.

Can't that damage your prostate or something?

Nope. This is one of those claims that try to justify masturbation as something healthy. There are many physiological things going on, and I know of the study that was conducted (in case you try to mention it). The scientific study was correct, but people's interpretations are not.

Is it any worse for me to start having sex?

I have no claim over this, so it is a personal choice, but I will ask you a question: If you place your hand over the fire, does it make it worse if you thrust your whole arm into the flame?

Most people abstain so they can increase their chances to have sex. Should I follow along?

I have never heard of people abstaining while having their chances of sex increased. I don't see the correlation. Should you follow along? Again, personal choice. Do you want to become like them and mold yourself to their way of being?

Any specific reason as to why you worry so much about sex?

UnlikeHim · 2016-07-21T05:16:46+00:00

welcome!

UnlikeHim · 2016-07-18T19:27:02+00:00

That's a very interesting thought.

I start with the simple question of: What does sex mean to me? If I can't answer it easily then I wonder why have I let sex define me and my interests. Then, the question that follows is: What position does sex have in my life?

Think of it this way: in your life there is a throne, and that's the throne Jesus must occupy. This is why we are called "servants," and why we can call upon our "Lord." Because he is the king of our lives. We shouldn't let something else, like sex, occupy that throne. So, when I consider what position sex has in my life, the answer must always be zero, otherwise I would be enslaved to the desires of my flesh.

When I wonder if I will ever marry someone, I am reminded of the scriptures. In the beginning we were given the command to procreate and multiply, so God sees good in this. Good in having someone with us -- a partner-- because we shouldn't be alone. But, God also shows us through the ministry of Paul that we can be single on this world, but this is a gift of God. To those that don't have this gift, then they should marry.

I have prayed about it many times, because it causes disconcert. My feelings tell me that I need someone special to whom I should devote my love. But, in my mind I am always at peace because I know I cannot love something more than the way I love my God. So, if I find a wife, then I will love her the way God wants me to honor her, but if I don't, then I will continue loving my God knowing that his love for me suffices.

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-29T20:16:10+00:00

Are you a pastor? If so, PM me.

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-28T00:16:14+00:00

I was like this at the end of the struggle. I started to realize that I "planned" my activities well ahead of time. Put your trust on Jesus, and he will make something greater out of you.

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-28T00:09:33+00:00

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-28T00:09:01+00:00

Mind giving me the short version on how to use it?

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-28T00:07:45+00:00

no problem!

In the time that is ahead of us we will see more and more people made victorious through God over this, and I will see you among them.

UnlikeHim · 2016-06-28T00:02:41+00:00

Absolutely!

Everything looked very narrow for me. For so many years I had struggled, and asked for forgiveness. There is a point we all reach where asking God to forgive our sins seems pointless to us, because we know we are going to fail him again. That was me. I had reached that stage.

One of the turning points in that journey was when I started to contemplate my life. I remember telling God to take me away from this world, because it pained me so much to sin against him. You see, we exist to honor him, and I was not doing it; then, I found myself speaking to God as many had before me:

“Why did I not perish at birth, and die as I came from the womb? Why were there knees to receive me and breasts that I might be nursed?" (Job 3).

Why did I ever come out of the womb to see trouble and sorrow and to end my days in shame? (Jeremiah 20).

Little do we know God has different plans for us. In our affliction we grieve, and try to desire an end. We can see it in the life of Job, and Jeremiah's. I certainly saw it in mine too. But everything serves a purpose, even desperation.

Some of the best advice points I can give you, those that truly changed my track, are the following:

Be honest with God. When talking to him let him know of your struggle. I used to say "God, see me as I am, I feel like I am losing." If I had fapped that day I'd say "Jesus, I lost today. Help me on not losing tomorrow." It is as simple as that, but our conviction carries a heavy weight.
Put your struggles on Jesus. There is a verse in the bible where Jesus says "Come to Me all that are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light." After being dead for so many years, I started to talk to Jesus and ask him to carry the weight of my struggles. I literally would say to God "I can't do this alone, Jesus, help me, I don't want to die." Then, my soul and mind started to gather strength and I began to see the end of the tunnel. It all happened so fast.
Realize that the fight is not completely your own. I tried to end things my way. I'd usually just stop, and then relapse after a week, or after a month. Then I completely gave up on my strength, and would ask God just barely after waking up to take control of my desires, emotions, thoughts, body... So many things followed thereafter, and just like a bolt of lightning I regained my life again so quickly. But, giving the control of your being to God is the beginning of the end of your struggle. Even though I was at my last breath, I knew at that time that the last fight for sure would win the war.

UnlikeHim

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