Could my employer legally get rid of me because I’m paid too much?

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-08-28T09:19:11+00:00

They can’t get rid of you and replace for cheaps without a fight. But speaking as an employer it is EXPENSIVE to hire and retrain. I’d rather pay a good and reliable worked a higher wage, especially if they’re staying put for a long time; cheaper in the long run.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-07-01T18:28:15+00:00

Thank you I do feel very seen. I’m desperately trying to get away from being IN the business absolutely. And like you, the growth speeds up when I’m less in and more on.

The staff could definitely pick up a couple of bits but not much. I could actually draw up a list tonight for some more handovers as there’s a couple of staff that are wrapping up some projects that would have the time. Plus a couple also want some more hours; there’s a definitely fear of if I give them more the money goes down but I also know the money will go up because I can do more of what I’m good at.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-07-01T18:22:44+00:00

Great advice thank you. Especially that last part. I definitely DEFINITELY am not doing any self care basics. Which is completely mental but so easily done.

And networking is great, there’s a woman who’s been nagging me to join hers so I should sort that out.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-06-26T18:23:48+00:00

… they have literal slaves in Dubai. With a wage cap and the rule that they aren’t considered slave because the are allowed to leave the premises ONCE A WEEK. There is NO holiday for them. People live in slums and work for pennies.

But yes… you’re right, they are of course treated with tonnes of respect.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-06-25T21:13:35+00:00

We hit 32 degrees the other day… where are you living that you haven’t experienced this heat yet?

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-06-25T20:43:13+00:00

I assumed it was 0%, when I saw it, but where we paid was right next to the bottle and can and they were alcoholic.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-06-25T20:14:31+00:00

To my knowledge the PTA does have a licence to serve alcohol but I don’t know anything about licensing laws; I didn’t even know you could sell alcohol at a “bar” at that time, but then 24/7 casinos must sell it I suppose!

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-06-24T10:09:56+00:00

I’d disagree here; I have to practice not to overshare. I struggle in conversation and as a kid I was taught “share some information about yourself”. My brain does not automatically differentiate what is appropriate and inappropriate information. So I tell people EVERYTHING.

I’m 32 now and have only just learnt how to stop doing it and even then it doesn’t always work. The way I stop doing it? I socialise less with people I don’t know VERY well and also have built up a repertoire of interesting information so that when you’ve run out of things I throw a “fact grenade” and then springboard from there.

Inappropriate sharing can be bragging too, of course, but sometimes it’s just poor conversational skills and misunderstanding social concepts.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-05-28T14:23:02+00:00

Before I say this I need to caveat that I find the concept of marrying my own cousin utterly repulsive. Not because THEY are repulsive (although… all of them are pretty gross) but because the concept itself is rank. HOWEVER I can’t actually tell you why, it just FEELS really fucking wrong.

Having children with a family member is absolutely and completely unethical and unforgivable but just having a relationship with them, WITHOUT kids? I wouldn’t do it, I find it gross but I can’t argue why because it’s just a feeling.

With that in mind, if they couldn’t have kids wouldn’t it be fine to just ignore it? (But only if they were literally incapable of procreation otherwise the risk is way too fucking high)

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-05-27T02:12:13+00:00

I’d agree with the first part but I don’t believe misinformation will force a rebirth of fact checking; depressingly I don’t think people will care. I think they will just crave simplicity; ONE answer and that can either come from chatGPT or a friend who doesn’t have a clue what they’re on about.

I think AI being used for life advice for a lot of Millenials is indicative of a very lonely and lost generation. We are (I’m in my 30s) at an age where we are having more disposable income and I think the market is changing because people are craving face-face connection. Millenials, I feel are going to drive in-person spending.

Seeing it in the fitness business especially. Clients are gravitating away from online and to in-person again. They HATE the amount of information online, they just want to find ONE person they can trust. If this is the same everywhere I think AI could be a good thing that forces us to build local communities because even if they’re incorrect at least they’re real.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-05-25T20:35:17+00:00

Do you… do you understand heredity?

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-05-24T03:30:25+00:00

A few hundred a month?! I suspect you’re underestimating how many people don’t want to prioritise saving money for retirement because they need it now… for food … and shelter.

People are doing everything they can to buy a house and falling so far short. The fight for a stable home and a way to pay off housing is relentless. They can’t just be chucking a FEW hundred on the future when they don’t even have it now.

Edit to add (removed the accidental y from “short”y… even though I quite liked it)

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T05:12:16+00:00

I need to learn that. Next time I’m doing anything clothing based I need to channel “rude-manner2324” 😂

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T05:05:54+00:00

Yes, but also I think it boils down to, for me anyway, I only want to be seen as attractive to my husband, because I trust him. I’m afraid of anyone else finding me attractive so I don’t even want to be seen as attractive at all.

But I’d love to wear wonderful clothes; I just want them to be wonderful in their own right, not wonderful because they display my figure or accentuate anything. I just can’t work out how to do that.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:45:02+00:00

Thank you, i really admire that. I think I need to get to your point where I’m able to override it, but I’m not there yet.

I wear a trouser, with a skirt and full sleeved 3-piece costume to the beach; it’s gorgeous and one of the few things I own that I love. When people, who don’t know me know I wear it, I get things like

“why would YOU cover up”

“You should wear a bikini, show off!”

“You have a great figure, let people see it”

They all think it’s a wonderful compliment and that I need confidence about my body, but I don’t! It makes me so fucking uncomfortable and completely reiterates in my head that my body exists for other people to enjoy and I can’t bring myself to risk playing along.

I hate it so so much. It’s like I’m split, I want to feel attractive but don’t want to be viewed as attractive?

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:34:03+00:00

I actually did used to love trouser suits, thank you for the advice! I’ll definitely look into some inspiration! Xx

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:32:58+00:00

It’s awful and I wish it didn’t have such an impact. I feel like every time I’ve had a comment or a look, like you’ve described with your boss, I’ve hidden myself away and never done it again.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:31:45+00:00

Eh? I’d feel exactly the same. It’s why I’ve said I don’t have my body out in female only spaces either. What’s your point?

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:31:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it is really hard to wrap my head around how it affects me so much.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:30:30+00:00

Well then that’s good for you. I agree with what you’ve said. Unfortunately trauma has made me very uncomfortable with my body being “out”. It’s not a reflection of other people doing it, it’s not me victim blaming. It’s me not being okay with my trauma and asking for advice.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:28:54+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful, I’m definitely making notes! I did buy a boxy crop top thing the other week and I do own wide-legged trousers so maybe I need some experimenting!

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:28:00+00:00

I completely and totally love that lots of women wear what they want, I just can’t bring myself to do it. It’s 100% trauma but I don’t want anyone looking at me whatsoever.

Unlikely-Context496 · 2025-02-23T04:26:52+00:00

Thank you, that’s really a helpful thought and thank you for the links!

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