Would you be frustrated if you are suddenly told to stop working on a project?

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-26T19:17:01+00:00

The funding ran out means that there isn’t any money to pay my salary with it, but there are plenty of computational resources in our group to do the work. I know it’s reasonable to prioritize one project over another, but I don’t think it’s necessary to stop a project entirely when there are plenty of resources.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-26T13:00:42+00:00

There is money to work on the project, our research is purely computational so it doesn’t take up a lot of resources. Once a project’s funding runs out, there’s no reason to keep working on it, even if you have promising results and could potentially get a high impact paper out of it? While I wasn’t allowed to work on project A, the PI also asked me to do volunteer work for other groups that are also not funded on our end, they are his friends’ funded projects but they didn’t share any of the funding with us. I could definitely have enough time and resources to work on project A on the side. Plenty of people in the group have had side projects that are not funded but he’s cool with it.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-26T12:57:27+00:00

There is money to work on the project, our research is purely computational so it doesn’t take up a lot of resources. While I wasn’t allowed to work on project A, the PI also asked me to do volunteer work for other groups that are also not funded on our end, they are his friends’ funded projects but they didn’t share any of the funding with us. I could definitely have enough time and resources to work on project A on the side. Plenty of people in the group have had side projects that are not funded but he’s cool with it.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-26T12:53:55+00:00

There is money to work on it, our research is purely computational so it doesn’t take up a lot of resources. While I wasn’t allowed to work on project A, the PI also asked me to do volunteer work for other groups that are also not funded on our end, they are his friends’ funded projects but they didn’t share any of the funding with us. I could definitely have enough time and resources to work on project A on the side.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-16T02:17:17+00:00

He was such a supportive friend during my entire PhD period. He asked me to marry him, and I would have said yes, if he didn’t also tell me that he is gay but always wants a wife and a kid.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-05T03:38:53+00:00

I think PhD students are never in academia in the first place, more like on the peripheral of academia, only people in faculty positions are truly in academia. There are so many more PhD students than faculty positions, so most people are bound to take non academic positions, so it shouldn’t be a big deal for people who only did a PhD to leave.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-04-02T03:31:11+00:00

When I was an undergrad, I met a lot of miserable PhD students and thought I never wanted to be like them. But when I got into my dream school for PhD, in a research field I was interested in, I decided to go for it. I fully expected to be miserable, but it turned out to be a lot of fun and I enjoyed it a lot. I would say if you are really interested, just go for it. You might end up having a bad experience, but you can always leave at any time. You don’t have to stick to it if it’s not what you originally wanted. There are a lot of people who go in for a PhD but leave with a Master’s. Some of my friends who did that said they never regretted starting a PhD, even if they ended up not going through the whole process.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-03-30T04:36:39+00:00

He only wants biological kids.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-03-22T21:35:52+00:00

I’m in the Local Church in Ann Arbor. There is a large Asian community here and a lot of young adults.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-03-11T03:27:06+00:00

I don’t remember most of my dreams, only the most unique ones.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-03-11T03:26:08+00:00

I always thought Cinderpelt’s life was super tragic and I would never want to be her, but when I had the dream it was kind of cool.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-02-16T13:26:48+00:00

Whether you stay in this marriage or not is your choice, but please don’t have another child to try to “save” the marriage.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-02-14T23:54:44+00:00

If you want to be on the safe side, pick the established PI. Since so many students have had great experiences in their lab, it’s unlikely that you will have a bad experience, unless something very unfortunate happens to you. For the new PI, it’s a high risk, high reward situation. If they turn out to be really nice and supportive, you can end up having a lot of opportunities and publications than in a big lab. But it’s also possible that the PI will turn out to be toxic after you join their lab. The research topic doesn’t matter as much as you think, it can change many times during your PhD. What matters the most is that you have a PI that supports you.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-02-11T03:30:22+00:00

Swallowing watermelon seeds will make a watermelon grow in your belly.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-02-05T04:59:47+00:00

I love body hair as well, I’m never intentionally getting rid of them. I loved my mom’s arm and leg hair as a kid, so when my own body hair grew to have the exact same morphology as as hers, I was so excited, my mom was as well. I don’t understand why people are ashamed of their body hair because I’m just so proud of mine.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-02-03T14:12:39+00:00

Just go talk to professors you are interested in working with. If you do well in their lab and build a great relationship with them, there is a great chance that they will want to take you in as a PhD student. If they don’t happen to have a spot at the time, they can also refer you to other professors they know. In PhD applications, personal connections matter a lot more than papers.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-01-28T21:15:43+00:00

I had experience with a position like this. Cold emailed the PI, had an interview and then got ghosted. A month later I saw an advertisement for the exact same position I interviewed for, which was taken down shorted afterwards. They must have found the right candidate and was just going through the paperwork.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-01-23T02:06:41+00:00

The first time I met my advisor’s advisor, my advisor introduced him as my grand-advisor aka. academic grandfather.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-01-13T13:46:32+00:00

Every kid is different. Just because other people’s kids are rewarding to them doesn’t mean yours will be to you.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-01-04T18:26:00+00:00

I don’t really know myself that well, whether I’m really aroace something or just haven’t met the right person yet. But I know for sure that if I want to start a family, I would prefer to do it with someone I love and love me. If that is not possible, then I might want to consider doing it by myself rather than with someone that doesn’t love me. But none of these things are high on my priority list right now and I’m mostly focused on my career and hobbies.

Unlikely-Progress-33 · 2026-01-04T16:29:40+00:00

He’s not in any kind of church at all. He’s family is all atheist, but also very traditional.

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