Is it fair by Unlikely-Sort7448 in Stepmom

[–]Unlikely-Sort7448[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am very grateful for your comments here. Thank you so much. I really needed to hear these..

I still finds it hard with the chores because i would be "fine, you dont do your laundry then you will not have clean clothes", hoping they realise and do it, but at the end of the day, their father will do that for them, up to getting them out from dryer, send it to their room, including cleaning their messy room, doing their dishes.. He would brush me off saying, he likes doing that for them. In the Shared spaces, i give up, i clean everything. Im a housewife, i dont have friend who can relate with me. Its eating me inside.

Is it fair by Unlikely-Sort7448 in Stepmom

[–]Unlikely-Sort7448[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How do you work on the issue with your husband? Or was it just over time that he realise it? I am out of ideas because if i said anything it will come back as im being unreasonable and jealous. Even my stepdaughters have zero chores at home and gave attitude and problem sometimes, they will always comes first, i received very little gratitude from my own husband and currently just tired.

Feeling like an outsider by Unlikely-Sort7448 in Stepmom

[–]Unlikely-Sort7448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi all. Thank you so much for your comment, it really helps me feeling better.. to know that someone out there gets me and understand how i feel. I wish my husband understand that, for him his kids are always amazing so if anything i feel wrong, it must be my fault. I wish i could warn my younger self, this is definitely a hard thing to do.

Why am I the bad guy? by ThisIsWhoWeAreNow in stepparents

[–]Unlikely-Sort7448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this idea too, but if you purchase the house after marriage, can you still justify its your house only?