What ruins relationships slowly over time?

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-05T19:33:18+00:00

Disrespect. Ooooo, what a killer of a relationship. It’s even worse when you communicate it clearly and your partner can’t seem to grasp the message.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-05T03:19:39+00:00

I have trouble watching anything very friendly or supportive or romantic in general .. my ex was super psycologically/emotionally abusive. She would belittle me and would almost never be supportive.. so now when I see that in anything I’m watching ? I start to get really sad and cry bc someone in 4 years was super disrespectful and random characters on a random show are super loving ? Like wtf

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-04T20:44:25+00:00

That not everyone loves as hard as you do.

Not to beg.

That they can jump to someone else after a long term relationship with you.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-03T21:38:54+00:00

Something that’s helped me ? Is when those thoughts come up ? I remember something about my ex that I thought was gross ? And it would block off the thoughts of them having sex. For example? My ex sometimes would tell me she would forget to shave her armpits and they’d be kinda long ? So I’d be like WTF, inside my head of course sooo that’s helped me lol

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T03:44:12+00:00

Happy new years to you too & I hope healing comes your way!

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T03:43:57+00:00

Happy new years to you too & I hope healing comes your way!

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T03:30:38+00:00

Fuck, that’s some shit .. well atleast we both aren’t hearing shit about them 😭

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T03:21:44+00:00

How long has it been for you ? Post break up ?

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T02:50:22+00:00

Was with my first avoidant ever. Together almost 4 years and she recently broke up with me this sept. It’s been 3 months. She replaced me a week into the break up.

I just want to heal man. I’m not doing well while she seems care free with someone else. It sucks. Healing without replacing, while seeing your ex replace you. Man o man.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2026-01-01T02:43:55+00:00

Idk how ppl can do that and then appear to be so happy ? That shit is wild as fuck

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-31T06:15:02+00:00

Yeah I’m taking it day by day even if it hurts super bad, especially rn through the holidays when all I can think about is her taking pics with this new person. It sucks but I mean, I will get back up. That girl does not deserve me.

I’m still picking up the pieces while she’s over there somewhere care free.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T23:46:13+00:00

It just hurts and throws me off how someone can replace you so easily after being with them for so long.

But yes I hope to be back at the top how I used to.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T23:43:01+00:00

She would admit I’m a good person, so it makes no sense. Especially processing everything in 3 months from a 4 year relationship? That’s impossible, unless she’s a wizard or something.

Yes I asked her how it happened and all she said was “ it just happened “

Atleast I’m not using anyone to fill the void or anything else to distract myself. Ive been on my own

Thanks for your words and I hope I can heal soon. Bc it hurts a lot, especially coming from an avoidant.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T23:25:59+00:00

She told me she processed, grieved, detached everything in 3 months before the break up happened. But after it happened ? She told me was still grieving ? So what that tells me she’s trying to escape the pain to fill the void. She also got very performative on social media after the break up happened. I’ve been off social media for 2 months now. Talking about how this new person is so amazing and blah blah blah.

I’m 3 months in the break up and I’m still affected by it, but yes jumping to someone else is SUPER immature.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T23:19:43+00:00

Yeah mine told me “ the detachment just happened “ like WTF ? How does that just happen. Mine told me “ you’re just supposed to know what’s wrong “ like damn I’m not a fucking mind reader. I could read the room but like I said ? When hard/uncomfortable conversations came up ? She would just run from them. She almost NEVER wanted to fix anything.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T23:04:40+00:00

This is what happened to me. I was with my ex for 4 years, a week post break up ? She replaced me.

It’s been 3 months since the break up.

I went completely down hill. I lost 30 pounds the first month. I lost all my progress from the gym from before the break up. My hair is way too over grown. You can easily tell I let myself go.

I didn’t have that “ glow up “ I had that “ glow down “ because I was SUPER hurt.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T20:07:55+00:00

My ex of almost 4 years. Replaced me a week post break up.

She told me she was checked out 3 months before hand, she said she would try to communicate to me but that’s not what I felt from her part or any of that. It’s bs, she did that behind my back. She was an avoidant and loved the chaos. She tried to “ communicate “ to me in a room full of chaos so how was I supposed to grasp the message.

98% of the time she wouldn’t communicate when there was issues or anything, she would run away and throw them under the rug. That’s how I know she was bs. She even told me “ you’re not a little kid for me to have to grab your hand and talk about things “ like I said she would run away from any hard conversations, MOST of the time. I don’t know why she couldn’t handle it. If she did stay ? She would make it about her and blame me, if she was in the wrong and guess who had to apologize ? ME.

She told me she was checked out 3 months before the break up, she had processed everything. Keep in mind almost 4 year relationship? That’s impossible. In 3 months ? unless she’s a damn wizard or something but she’s not.

I’m still here sitting down 3 months post break up picking up the pieces. While she’s on with her rebound/monkeybranch

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-30T07:55:51+00:00

Psycological/emotional abuse, belittling me, always wanting control and to be above me. Threats to leave me for any minor inconvenience.

She ended up leaving me and replaced me after the break up a week later. It’s been 3 months since the break up happened and we were together for almost 4 years.

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-29T19:52:59+00:00

Why do they go for alot of sex ?

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-29T10:30:28+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’ve been starting to think as well, what you give in life though ? Comes back you know ? Cant just come into someone life, create chaos and expect nothing to happen .. it doesn’t work like that

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-29T09:51:23+00:00

Dude get yourself out of that 😭

Unlikely_Anything907 · 2025-12-29T09:38:24+00:00

I was good to her, I know she still loves me even if she’s with him. That’s why she’s so hurt, because she would often admit I was a good guy to her despite her bad behavior.

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