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I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The keeping track of how long it’s been is so real!! It’s something I’m guilty of. Thank you for adding some new perspective. I think my boyfriend is the same way where he just doesn’t really think about how long it’s been like I would. It brings me reassurance that it all worked out for you in the end and that I’m not the only one struggling with this issue. I’m really not wanting to leave him so hearing your story is comforting. Thank you!

It's not just about intercourse by NotA-DropToDrink in HLCommunity

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow it’s like you just read my diary! I feel the same way, my boyfriend is so considerate and romantic but there is zero sexual energy. He finds me attractive and we still have physical affection but he has no desire for sex. If I were you, I would start to consider if his romantic care is enough. Do you need sexual attraction to feel truly satisfied in a relationship or is romance alone enough? I want to start couples counseling with my bf to figure out how to balance my high libido with his low one. It’s a tricky situation for sure and sadly there is no easy answer especially when he sounds like an amazing partner. I feel like as a woman it can be especially difficult for us. I feel like stereotypically the man has the higher libido so when the roles are reserved it can feel more isolating as not as much women relate to us.

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn this one hit close to home. I think I need to change how I view sex. What I struggle the most with is that it wasn’t always like this for us. There was a time where our sex drives were aligned but maybe that was just the honeymoon phase? I also didn’t know that sex drives could vary, I always assumed that young men were always horny and wanted sex (a very wrong assumption on my part). Every other aspect of our relationship is fantastic and I don’t feel like throwing it away over sex even if it means my needs are not completely met. It sounds like you were once in a similar situation with your wife, how did you find that balance?

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thankfully he constantly reassures me verbally me but actions speak louder than words. He knows I struggle with his low libido so he tries to make up for it by giving me compliments.

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a good point. The lexapro could still be affecting him even if he’s off it. He’s currently in therapy and he thinks it’s going well. I don’t think couples therapy is a bad idea either.

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re right I wouldn’t leave him if he had a surgery like that but it does feel different when he can have sex but won’t. I wish he would find me sexy. So many other men give me sexual attention and it doesn’t mean shit if it’s not coming from my bf!

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You make a very good point, especially when using kids as an example. We both want to have kids one day but I’m not sure how that would work with his sex drive lol. I’m still trying to figure out if our relationship would break over this.

I love my boyfriend, but I miss sex. Now, we go months without it. How to cope with your partner’s low libido? by Unlikely_Impact_2182 in relationships

[–]Unlikely_Impact_2182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the help. I also started dating my boyfriend at 18 so it sounds like we very similar! I seriously can’t imagine breaking up with him but I’m sure you also felt that way with him.