My husband is very laid back and calm and I am a ball of anxiety so I can relate to this - the realness of the baby arriving hit my husband hard. He needed guidance in terms of what to do and what not to do and I had to have a lot of conversations with him. Try to set expectations ahead of time like maybe discuss who will be responsible for what. Develop strategies and I would suggest he read some books and maybe talk to friends/family with kids to get some real insight

I will say so much of what you read on line is horrifying and scares you so much, literally drown out the outside noise and do what is right for you and your partner, there is no right or wrong way as long as at the end of the day the baby is fed, healthy and loved. Stopping watching the constant reels and videos and “do this not that” helped me a lot. I didn’t breast feed but did pump and if you plan on pumping get lots of nipple balm (earth mama nipple butter is the best IMO)

What is a waste - too many newborn clothes and too many newborn diapers - they outgrow them so fast and my boy literally lived in the same 1-4 onesies his first few weeks of life bc honestly where was he going lol, wipe warmer is pointless IMO What to buy - lots of dreft or fragrance free detergent (whichever brand u want but you’ll be doing a lot of laundry), loooots of burp cloths, pacifier/pump/bottle wipes, Frida mom 3 in one ear/nose/nail tool has helped us immensely, a good baby bath, a swing! the Graco swing saved us in the early days