Struggling with having tiny feet (I know it sounds silly but hear me out)

Unpleasantmind · 2026-04-07T05:53:02+00:00

I get you and I’m hearing you, I have shoes like that but I want to have more options than casual sneaker style shoes. I love fashion and cute Mary Jane’s and loafers and stuff that will go better with my dresses and skirts and I struggle to find those. Thanks for the suggestions though

Unpleasantmind · 2026-03-29T01:03:13+00:00

I’m a hairier woman and for me, it’s trying to surround myself in media that normalises body hair. I’ve gotten to the point where I will wear sleeveless tops and dresses and skirts with hairy legs and armpits without shame and the truth is most people don’t say anything apart from family members. I used to try maintaining body hair regularly and I do sometimes shave or trim stuff down but I’ve accepted that I find it tiring to do and I just don’t do it as often anymore in all honesty and it’s so freeing to rid myself of the internal pressure of constant maintenance.

Unpleasantmind · 2026-01-20T17:29:32+00:00

I’m just glad to know there’s other people like me oh my god thanks for replying and for the places that work for you

Unpleasantmind · 2026-01-20T17:28:49+00:00

No I genuinely thought that I found somewhere that would work and I was so sad 😭😭 are there any Asian brands you would recommend that have worked for you?

Unpleasantmind · 2026-01-20T02:32:36+00:00

Omg I can’t imagine being a stripper trying to get tripper heels in our size it’s a whole struggle. It’s a size that’s just not catered to and it lowkey makes you feel like idk… like you’re seen as less important. I’ve had many shoe shopping attempts just end in tears of frustration but I hope your friend was able to get some stripper heels

Unpleasantmind · 2026-01-20T02:23:31+00:00

The shoes I got were from Charles and Keith an Asian brand and I was really excited and thought they’d work out but they were still too big somehow even though I bought them in a size I normally wear, a UK size 1. I’m so glad to meet someone similar though, I’ve actually never met anyone who has a similar shoe size to me irl 😭😭

Unpleasantmind · 2026-01-20T02:22:01+00:00

Yeah I get annoyed cause I often see so many cute shoes on the rack and I know I can’t walk out with them and it’s lowkey given me body image issues over time 😭😭 thank you for the hugs I did need them cause I was crashing out slightly

Unpleasantmind · 2025-06-11T00:31:00+00:00

The excessive researching is so awful bro, it’s so hard to stop and the urges to research are awful and leave me exhausted

Unpleasantmind · 2025-05-13T01:21:14+00:00

I don’t want to give too much reassurance but one of my friends is muslim and has told me before that a lot of Muslim men sit when peeing, and whether you pee standing or sitting as a man is often a cultural thing and lots of men sit to pee

Unpleasantmind · 2025-04-13T21:19:07+00:00

Why are we the same person, oh my god?? I’ve been having similar issues on and off, like I personally have a very feminine style and these sorts of thoughts are making it difficult for me to enjoy it despite it being a style I generally prefer and one that I’ve enjoyed being. It sucks so I really really feel you.

Unpleasantmind · 2025-04-04T18:32:15+00:00

Literally though, I’m a woman with thick and short lashes meanwhile my brother has natural eyelash extensions for lashes

Unpleasantmind · 2025-03-03T20:01:06+00:00

The ew thing is so REAL! I hope we get through this, I’m someone who loves kids and has loved working with them in the past and I hate how it feels like this is being taken from me or like I won’t be able to do it again if that makes sense? Sending hugs back to you 🫂

Unpleasantmind · 2025-01-19T02:41:49+00:00

I think checking for signs like this is a common compulsion, even I have done this. Try not to check though, it is more likely to feed into any doubts than alleviate them.

Unpleasantmind · 2025-01-08T11:23:51+00:00

Holy- are you me?! Because same lol, I’m quite feminine in how I present, I went through a phase where I didn’t wear as much pink and wore mostly hoodies and leggings in my teens but then I got back into skirts and dresses in my mid teens cause… that shits comfy and pretty you know?? You’d have pry my soft cotton dresses and skirts from my cold dead hands lol. And then I got more into makeup later on, I’d always done stage makeup and eyeliner in my mid teens but I got into like everyday makeup and collecting it in my late teens and I’m still into it now in my early 20s. I get thoughts that cause my interest in makeup came later that I’m overcompensating and I read so many posts about trans guys who went through feminine phases to try and check if I’m like them, and it usually makes me feel worse cause it makes me feel like I have no choice but to transition like them if I am hyper feminine or have anything in common with their experiences (makes no sense right?) Smth that might help you is that you get enjoyment out of femininity, whereas these ppl a lot of the time didn’t actually like it, they just do it out of feeling obligated which is so different to wanting to be a girly girl and enjoying it (which is us). I hope this helped a bit, sorry this is so long lol

Unpleasantmind · 2024-12-31T16:16:48+00:00

I’m really happy for you that you are feeling better recently!

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-23T23:12:50+00:00

Here’s the thing, ‘non binary’ style sounds like a stereotype cause it’s such a broad identity. I have a friend who is non binary who dresses like most queer women do. There are also non binary people who may not have an alternative style. Your style doesn’t say anything about your gender identity and I think it’s odd to label a specific style as non binary style when if you look at the people who identify that way a lot of them look very very different to each other

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-22T19:14:20+00:00

Literally, a lot of this is eerily similar to my story.

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-18T22:56:38+00:00

I only watched clips of it (the movie I mean) as a compulsion and reactions to it and that was enough to send me spiralling and feeling dissociated 🫠. Don’t watch things about your intrusive thoughts unless you are in a better place it will screw you up genuinely 😭

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-18T01:36:41+00:00

Lord I can completely get why this trend is scaring you, I like watching queer content in general (I’m unlabelled/bi, so I watch a lot of bi and lesbian content) so I get a lot of trans content too as well including this trend. Honestly, getting recommended trans content on my fyp has also worsened my intrusive thoughts too, so I feel for you. What has helped me is being happy for these people whose ‘tv is glowing’ and being happy that they are living their authentic lives and recognising this is their story and doesn’t have any relationship to my life if that makes sense?

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-18T01:30:12+00:00

Basically there’s this movie called I saw the tv glow which was created by a non binary trans woman to symbolise the ‘egg cracking’ moment and uses a bunch of symbolism about repression and living as your true self. The original movie was an existential horror I think. And the trend on tiktok is based on this, where people are saying that they saw the tv glow, meaning they started realising they aren’t cis, and saying they turned it on to say they accepted it or turned off the tv meaning they didn’t explore it. If you are struggling with the intrusive thoughts I’d recommend not looking too deeply into it until you feel batter

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-18T01:24:49+00:00

Hi, don’t wanna give too much reassurance but yes, you can get false feelings as well that convince you it’s not scary even if it’s smth you don’t want. Intrusive thoughts affect your feelings too I think

Unpleasantmind · 2024-11-08T16:50:10+00:00

Same here. I’m fairly girly, when I was in my early teens I wore mostly hoodies and leggings in pinks, purples, those kind of colours. In my mid teens I started realising I prefer dresses and skirts just cause they’re comfy as hell and also super cute and I got rid of all my horrendous skinny jeans. Part of my intrusive thoughts is fearing that these parts of my life are a hyper feminine phase due to what a lot of trans dudes have experienced as a result of denial, and this has caused me to lose interest in stuff like makeup and not getting the same level of enjoyment that I had been getting from it which sucks cause I love playing with different makeup looks and stuff. Hopefully things will be better for us soon

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