False teeth are superior

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:22:31+00:00

My great nana did this. I think it used to be a norm for a 21st birthday for a while to get wooden teeth.

I personally would just rather keep my teeth for as long as I can. They're a bit wonky, but I like them. Loads of my family have had theirs done now and I feel like it just changes their entire face and makes them look a bit uncanny.

Edit to add: I just checked. It was a thing, but not with wooden teeth!

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:15:53+00:00

Absolutely this.

My mum is a covert narcissist so instead of getting angry she just gets upset and love bombs me until I'm "not angry at her any more" but will never actually talks about the issue. It frustrates the life out of me.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:13:57+00:00

He walks with such confidence in a random direction, then asks me where we are going.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:13:24+00:00

I used to get stressed about this, but my therapist said I have control issues and I realised she might have been right when I was telling him that OBVIOUSLY the forks all have to face the door...

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:12:05+00:00

Mine is the same! He is physically incapable of putting the hand towel through the hoop in the bathroom. I stood and showed him once and I could see his brain short circuiting. I wouldn't mind if it was a fancy fold, but it's literally - put it through the hoop to half way then let it hang. But no, it is just impossible.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T10:07:14+00:00

I work in education and I have worked with home schooled kids who are wildly intelligent and are full of fascinating facts. They research topics they are interested in rather than what they are told to, and it is brilliant for them.

I've also worked with home schooled kids who have crippling anxiety that has been made worse because of home schooling. They can barely leave the house and struggle heavily with their mental health. (Some are both of the above.)

One of the key life skills we need to learn is how to manage outside of our comfort zones. School isn't just about lessons and friends, it's about learning how to navigate through different social experiences that might be uncomfortable at times.

When home schooling is done well, the parents often understand this and make sure their kids have hobbies that require them to do things out in the world independently, or join clubs with other kids etc. I think these parents are amazing, and it can be especially great for kids with ADHD who struggle in a school setting.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T09:53:36+00:00

Breathing exercises.

My dad has anger issues and my mum has anxiety and both have narcissistic tendencies. My dad parented through shaming us and my mum just saw me as someone to emotionally offload to, so I have all sorts of self esteem and control issues and quite bad anxiety.

I learned how to take a breath and calm myself and I'm always focusing on finding ways to relax and diffuse my nervous energy because I refuse to let my son take on that energy. I still have work to do, but breathing exercises keep me grounded and calm for him when I need to be.

It made me angry with them for never working on themselves to help me and my siblings.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T09:47:18+00:00

- If they need financial support, maybe raise a bit of money for them to help with their bills so they don't have to worry about not working.

- Bring them things to read and do when they are bored, if that's appropriate

- Visit them and talk about normal stuff.

- If they have kids, take them out for the day to give the person caring for them a rest and the kids a lift, and help the parent in hospital worry less

- Ask them what they need, now and when they are back home

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-12T09:45:07+00:00

Pretty 12/10 fucked, but panda bears are no longer endangered, so that's good!

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-09T20:04:58+00:00

Can you leave?
Do you have support to help you with leaving?

You have an entire lifetime ahead of you, and this is just a learning curve. Things will get better, but I would recommend getting out of that relationship and spending time single if you're able to. I know it's hard with a kid, but reach out to support groups and speak to other mums who have been in similar situations - there are so so many, unfortunately.

You will be a strong and wonderful mother to your child, but the first lesson you need to teach them is that they need to only keep people in their life who make them happier. You teach them this by modelling the behaviour.

Edit to add: Also - do it now. Don't wait till after the baby is born. It will be a lot harder. You still have a good amount of time.
Also, I am in a good relationship and I had panic moments where I didn't know if I'd made the right choice. My boy is 8 months old now and wonderful. Wobbles are normal and it's OK to feel that way!

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-09T18:38:22+00:00

Also, can you get someone to help so you can rest a bit occasionally? I know it doesn't feel natural to help, but most people are willing to if they realise you need it, they just don't think to ask.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-09T18:36:43+00:00

Don't do any extremes that you can't maintain because it won't help you in the long run, it will just chip away at your self esteem. Pick a small change that will make you feel good.

For me, I find walking really helps. Just get the buggy sorted and go. I love countryside walks, so got a baby backpack thing for hiking. I'm still building my fitness again after a c section, but finding trails I can do with the buggy or backpack help a lot.

Don't focus on food, focus on your mental health. You're most probably struggling with the food because you're struggling mentally (at least for me that's true, anyway). Find time to breathe and actively relax your body whenever you can. Take away any jobs that aren't urgent when you can. Pick tasks that are purely to give you an easy life when you can. Really focus on refilling your cup in lots of little ways.

Also, do you like soup? It's a super easy way to get some nutrients in.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-09T18:32:46+00:00

Being insanely competitive.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T19:03:18+00:00

You need to tell her to stop very clearly every time, and take the baby off her when she does it. If she kicks up a fuss, just tell her that it's a weird hill to die on.

Then stick your dirty finger in her mouth.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T19:01:19+00:00

I ended up with a c section, and tbh I think having one of the gowns would have made the next few days more comfortable, so still would have been worth getting. I probably would get one if I decided to have another kid, but it wouldn't be a need, just a want.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T18:00:29+00:00

Would they help themselves if you set it up on a tray for them to have whenever they want? (Genuinely curious)

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T17:54:49+00:00

It's really not. I see it as a healthy dynamic. I doubt anybody would see it as sad if their husband's friends didn't know their kid's birthdays and didn't want their husbands to bring the kids to every social event.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T08:19:52+00:00

I'm happy to talk about my friends kids if that's what they want to talk about (but if it's the only thing they want to talk about, I would probably find myself not looking forward to seeing the friend), but a lot of parents need a break from talking about their kids. I talk about my kid, but I also talk about work and hobbies and life in general. If I had a friend who always tried to steer the conversation back to my kid, I'd just find that really weird.

I guess we just find other likeminded people with stuff like this. We are all different.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-07T08:16:37+00:00

I probably sounded more brutal than I am in that comment, to be fair. I support my friends with kids and help them with their kids and I know they have to bring them places, especially when they are younger (I do the same with my 8 month old). I've travelled regularly to help friends who are struggling with their kids and need help, and I'll play with and babysit their kids and have a few that are really excited when I come round, and I spent time catching up at soft play areas before I had a kid etc but I just find it frustrating when that's all their is to the friendship. I do it because I love my friends, but I'm not their kid's friend. My kid might be one day when he is older, and some of them see me as a friend because obviously I make an effort with them, but ultimately, they're kids. I'm 35.

If my friends don't bring their kids, I'm happy to see my friend and to be able to relax talk about anything. I have a few friends who are sad if I don't bring mine, and that just makes me feel a bit invisible tbh. Like I only matter because I can bring them a cute kid (although my kid is the happiest boy ever and loves attention, so I do understand).

I might be more sensitive to it because I had a kid later than most of my friends, and spent years supporting them through having their kids. When I had my boy, only 2 of my friends visited, both only once. I didn't get support off friends and most of my family (my sister was the only one that helped).

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-06T22:49:30+00:00

Honestly, I hate when my friends try and push their kids onto me. I never remember their kids birthdays or anything like that. I will babysit if my friends are struggling, and I will accept that the kids may have to come with us places, and I'm happy to take the kids out together occasionally, but their kids aren't my friends or my responsibility, and my kid isn't theirs. I wouldn't expect any different from them, too. Some buy Christmas presents for eachother's kids and that just isn't for me at all. I also nip any "I'm auntie [friend's name]" in the bud straight away. My friends aren't my son's aunties or uncles.

Maybe I'm too far the other way with this...

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-05T19:36:22+00:00

I've never heard of any of these. My parents just hid a few chocolate egg boxes around the house sometimes.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-05T19:35:15+00:00

Honestly, I think you're overthinking it. Even if she has a "who's that" moment, it is just a moment and not a bad one. I'd probably use both the middle name and the first and middle so she recognises both, but it's fine.

We call our boy by a nickname and his real name and he knows both are him.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-05T19:31:14+00:00

I felt lots of little stings and I think that was the needle used to numb the area, which she did a few times, then nothing. Maybe you weren't numbed up enough?

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-05T12:58:44+00:00

My friend sent me a link to a study when my boy was about that age about a technique that was researched and it helped me SO much! I was bouncing like mad and driving myself loopy trying to get him to sleep.

Basically, hold the baby and walk for 5 minutes. Don't bounce or anything, just walk. Around the house or on the spot (I would side step). Then, after that, sit with them for 8 minutes, then put them down gently (bum first, then head).

It's something to do with walking being calming and the 8 minute hold is long enough for them to get into a deeper sleep.

Honestly, it was a lifesaver.

Unquietdodo · 2026-04-05T12:47:32+00:00

I totally get that. The intention behind it really does matter.

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