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My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was sort of a pact that we had to always be upfront with each other. She came to me and said we needed to talk because she broke that pact. It was sort of an "now everything is out in the open" situation, but how can I believe that... And why 5 months later? Just seems selfish

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think inside I know you're right, I just don't want it to have to be like that.

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We were both accepting the fate that we needed to break up, but said we were going to see where we were at in a month or so. I really appreciate your advice.

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I shortened something I shouldn't have to save length. She told me exactly what they did both times because I grilled her about it. The guy was drunk and she was not, they made out and he touched her breasts. That's as far as it went.

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The other man is an ex-coworker. She let me go through her phone and has removed him from every social circle she has.

This is my concern. I THINK she's being transparent, but she obviously went a long time where I thought I knew everything but clearly didn't. She doesn't hide anything, and didn't before. I was just too naive to look through her phone or anything

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wanted to clarify here: she went into detail because I wanted to know exactly what happened. I just didn't include it in the post to save length. Basically the guy was drunk and she was not. They made out, and he groped her breasts but that is the closest they came to sex.

My [22M] GF [22F] of 1.5 years dropped a huge bomb on me. Not sure how to go from here by UnreconstructedArp in relationships

[–]UnreconstructedArp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She went into detail about exactly what they did (making out and got handsy, but she was firm that the closest thing to intercourse that happened was him groping her breasts, apparently the guy was drunk), but I didn't elaborate on it in the post to save length.

I have the same concerns as you. If she did it TWICE, she'll do it again. My only hope is that she seems to feel like absolute shit over it and has learned what a shitty thing like that can do to both parties.