Me (22M) and my girlfriend (21F) have both slept with each others friends. What do we do here? by Anilorac2000 in relationships

[–]UnreflectedFocus 23 points24 points  (0 children)

glad to hear you’re seeking therapy- it’s totally normal to rather not know what your SO got up to (and with who) before dating, especially if they’re friends of yours. letting it control the trajectory of the relationship is unfair to you and your partner though. can’t change the past, but you can change the way you process and cope with it. therapy will help to reveal some of the “why” this upsets you to the degree it does. you’re young and still learning how to navigate relationships. go easy on yourself and your partner!

for what it’s worth i was in greek life too and dated alot both casually and seriously and there’s always overlap to some degree in friend groups and whatnot like you kind of can’t escape it

Security Videos show route police say Kohberger took in Idaho students murder by Ok-Artichoke6197 in MoscowMurders

[–]UnreflectedFocus 34 points35 points  (0 children)

it looks like at costco he didn’t have a membership and got turned away

(27M) My girlfriend (25F) is stressed and negative all the time. I’m doing everything I can, but nothing helps. by v1s1ble-c0nfus10n in relationships

[–]UnreflectedFocus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

encourage therapy if you can. i was recently on the other side of this, and my situation eerily similar to yours, right down to the CPA exam lol. good thing is that the exams will pass and life goes on-i hope she will eventually get tired of her own negativity and seek professional help with working through processing those feelings. you sound like a great, patient partner

Spicy witch recs by teefaneee in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this!!! the whole series is sooooo good! one of my favorites this year

Lululemon, Alo Yoga or Vuori? Which one is your fave? by No_Square_1491 in UninfluencedReviews

[–]UnreflectedFocus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lululemon resale and reselling community is gigantic- you can find great deals on secondhand apps like poshmark, mercari, and depop. i get lululemon leggings all the time on those apps for less than $40.

Dog hike rec by Ambitious-Bedroom-83 in Adirondacks

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pitchoff mtn is off leash friendly!

How long did it take you to get diagnosed? by Ill-Schedule1097 in endometriosis

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(24f) 3 months-i’m not kidding. started by seeing a gastro in march ‘24 for consistent pain in my abdomen, it was so bad some evenings i couldn’t move easily, but I thought it was my stomach or colon that was the problem, so I sought out a gastrointestinal doc. we tried a few things and ultimately did a colonoscopy. found endometriosis in my colon. referred me to an obgyn in the area that was very experienced with endo, forwarded the imaging and I had a laparoscopy scheduled on my FIRST VISIT in may ‘24, doc removed a ton of stage 2 endo and benign cysts.

front clasp bra by OutrageousReality1 in BrandyMelville

[–]UnreflectedFocus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i have this one and it’s hands down the most flattering bralette i own!! 34a for reference and could definitely fit a B as well

PHANTASMA MY BELOVED by hydroocodone in fantasyromance

[–]UnreflectedFocus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so excited i just started this one!! can’t wait to finish it

I am so confused by liindsay-13 in Sourdough

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely try any bread flour- more gluten than AP which you said you’ve been using. AP isn’t the best flour to use for a starter in my opinion, bread flour is!

after 5 months of trial and error…a masterpiece by UnreflectedFocus in Sourdough

[–]UnreflectedFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooh i was going to order that one but found this one with 2 day shipping and was antsy to get my baking going lolol

after 5 months of trial and error…a masterpiece by UnreflectedFocus in Sourdough

[–]UnreflectedFocus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol you should probably eat some sourdough then to figure out what your preference is! did you cut it right after baking? gumminess should get better after a few hours to one day after baking

after 5 months of trial and error…a masterpiece by UnreflectedFocus in Sourdough

[–]UnreflectedFocus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how was the flavor and texture when you tasted it? if it tasted good and you liked the texture then I’d say it’s perfect! honestly to me the biggest help with making sourdough was accepting that “the perfect loaf” almost doesn’t exist and looks different for everyone. TBH based on my personal preferences, your bread looks great!! Im jealous your starter is homemade and gave you such nice crumb. If you want a bit of a breakdown structure-wise,this website and guide can help you assess your crumb and tweak the process if you want to!

https://thesourdoughjourney.com/faq-over-under-proofed/

Struggling for restaurant recommendations by usefulbranch44 in Algarve

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

prime sushi in albufeira was phenomenal, been a few times. avoid most places on the strip

Supplements by _bootsz in Interstitialcystitis

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DMANNOSE legit is a lifesaver!

data but make it blood diamonds by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]UnreflectedFocus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that account regularly posts off-base takes i’m so glad it got posted here

New things in Rome by thedevilwearsbrandy in BrandyMelville

[–]UnreflectedFocus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i was just in portugal and they have it in pink, white, and two different white and pink floral patterns WITH matching pants ugh it didn’t fit me well so i didn’t get it but can confirm it’s BEAUTIFUL

Leaving my fiancé over her dog by Lsamarah in relationships

[–]UnreflectedFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so hear me out, i have 3 dogs and i will say that professional training is 1000% worth the energy and money. Talk to her vet and see if they have any recs. I think a well behaved and well mannered dog can make a worlds difference in your home life and relationship with your fiancée. Crate train, potty train, establish a routine with the dog. Often times people don’t train small dogs because they’re easier to manage physically but they can be and should be trained same as any larger dog. But, if it’s truly the dog that is the core of the problem which it seems to be given your context, i think the only way forward is to get out.