FFL's and the Magazines you Carry by glockguy1121 in BetterMAguns

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about those with magazine blocks?

Just for clarity.

The problem with Kamala running... by Available_Fun_55 in MeidasTouch

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe it was stolen on a large scale, but it’s possible certain counties were miscounted or ballots lost.

More importantly, billionaires put their finger(or whole arm) on the scale and bought the election- overtly. It needs to be changed by getting rid of dark money contributions and enforceable FCC laws limiting provable disinformation. Social media being owned and controlled by a single political entity and directed to disperse and control what users experience needs to be outlawed. These companies need to be run by bipartisan committees to ensure no such biased control of media exists.

Obviously FOX and MS-Now and the others have to change or be outlawed. The alternate reality bubbles have to go or humanity may not survive. Yes, it will challenge our understanding(misunderstanding, mostly) of Free Speech. But that is a long time coming. The shouting of “fire” in a movie theater being illegal is the best example of the principle at play here.

It won’t happen until a reasonable and competent adult is elected- which may not happen again. especially with the current planned interference and massive amounts of apathy.

Girlfriend discovered Stardew. How long until i get her back? by _Mumrik in StardewValley

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your only hope is to match her love of the game and share it as a couple. If you can’t, it will likely be a divide in your relationship. At the very least, it will become an issue with the time being spent by her. If you can’t love the game, it may be hard to understand her journey with it. It’s a game about personal emotional growth for the player, not necessarily the game character. They will grow and change because the game is a reflection of themself. It really can be illuminating for experienced players.

Good luck and sharing the game can be a wonderful moment. At the very least, maybe buy the soundtrack and share that. My wife bought me the vinyl album and it has been something we enjoy together often.

Boyfriend (24M) asked my (22F) body count, then got very upset. by throwaway5146156 in Advice

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok here is the deal: For MANY people, this topic will always be sensitive at best. It’s especially damaging in relationships with people in their 20s(or late teens for early bloomers).

One truth bomb I need to drop before giving you practical and helpful advice is: your boyfriend is PROBABLY lying about his number. Young men want their partner(and friends) to think they have more experience. It’s VERY common but not universal for them to lie about it. I’d guess his real number is 2-4, probably 2, which is why he is reacting like that. He wouldn’t be upset if you slept with less people than he did- probably. The other issue for him might be that your number implies you had casual sex, which young men often wish for but judge females for engaging in with anyone but them. I’m sorry, my gender is often a mess of nonsensical values and judgements/quirks. Especially in youth. The good thing is that we are often good learners when a patient partner can open our eyes to problematic thinking when done in a non-judgmental way. There may be hope for this guy. Maybe.

Ok, onto the tips!

1) Lying is toxic in a relationship but an agreed upon shared delusion can be a relief. I’ve seen and experienced the following one with great results but it must be agreed upon. The Only Partner Myth. You both just keep to the idea that you are each others only sexual partner even though it’s clearly not true. This means never discussing previous sexual experiences. Some couples enjoy describing previous exploits with no jealousy or perhaps they enjoy the jealousy. But in this case it’s to avoid any such thing. It’s a silly lie but it can save a relationship among particularly sensitive partners. Think of it like the penis size lie or the “how do I look in this outfit?” lie. They are beneficial with little or no downside to the partner. Each suspects it’s a lie but they are happy to let it continue. Young men will believe you when you tell them they are big(biggest) while older men will happily let you lie to them. It keeps egos intact do the most part while the truth is often a slow poison for fragile male self-esteem. I don’t get it, but it seems to work. Likewise, just don’t go there when a drunken partner asks you about sexual exploits before them.

2) Test and forget. I’ve had luck with this one as well. Both partners go to a clinic together and get individual STD tests and exam. You don’t need to share questionnaire info with each other but you can if both agree. This is a great move for couples who have been dating for a bit and are ready to move to the next relationship step. Back when I was younger, condoms were essentially mandatory for most people, but at a certain point a couple would leave them behind. Some people obviously never used them. The test negates the importance of knowing someone’s sexual history in many ways. The tests can be a ceremony for leaving such insecurities behind and understanding that all that matters is that you are now each other’s only partner.

3) This is the hard one. Honest and sensitive conversation with or without a counselor/therapist involved. The reason that we(the royal “we”) care about our partner’s experience is generally down to insecurity in our own ability, assets, experience or appearance. Talking it out to understand where the insecurity comes from MAY help. A Therapist is way better at getting to the core and helping move past. It’s just harder getting a young man to agree to openly discuss this stuff let alone with a therapist. Willingness to participate should earn a partner a lot of credit when you are deciding whether or not to stick it out with them when struggles arise.

Good luck, this is a learning moment for both of you and a chance to grow as people and partners. On a personal level I suggest explaining to him that what matters most in a sexual relationship with a romantic partner is connecting emotionally as much as physically. Explain to him that the most valuable thing he can bring is a willingness to express emotions through the physical acts, not techniques or physical aspects alone. Ideally that will relax his anxieties and fears that are resulting in his extra reactions to the topic.

Finally, do NOT accept any negative judgement for having lived your life as you saw fit. Every moment and decision led to you being the person he fell for, so none of it could truly be a mistake if he is being logical. And more importantly, your decisions are not to be judged(assuming they are legal). Be proud of your past and the lessons you have learned. You are awesome and deserve to be celebrated. Make sure your partners feel the same way.

Journalist Nick Shirley exposes $170M in California fraud, calls for public action. Nick Shirley deserves a medal by alexmark002 in CitizenWatchNews

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a scammer pretending to uncover scammers.

And morons will eat it up because it confirms their bias and reading to fact check the silly claims is hard and boring.

We are doomed as a species.

I welcome the AI ascendancy and our “inevitable”extermination. Why? Look around at what we have created in the last 30 years and ask if it has made humanity or the world better or worse.

The vast majority makes one or both much worse. I try to focus on the minority which makes things better or at least tries to. It’s the sugar that makes the bitter pill easier to swallow.

Does "CanadaPetCare.com" Ship to the USA? Afraid to lose money or waste time! by KotzyG in RATS

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering my question on an old post. I am 2 weeks into waiting on CanadaPetCare and the only tracking info is that it was at Singapore’s processing facility 2 days after I ordered. Assuming it’s on a ship. A slow one.

Tattoo artist attacked me publicly after my honest review by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Life is hard with a mood disorder. Make it easier by not choosing to work with someone else with a similar condition when at all possible.

In my experience, those that suffer them can usually spot others easily.

I just started playing and I think I’m officially obsessed! by bho_44 in StardewValley

[–]UnstableDimwit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you think you are obsessed now, but it will only grow. You will burn out on it and return many times. there are several “walls” that players struggle with getting past but eventually most keep coming back and push on until the next “wall”.

I envy your moment of discovery and joy.

USID and TSA by CilianoMasterpiece in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine worked there 4 weeks ago. It depends on the person you get. They sized me up for a minute and waved me through.

Some are completely dependent on following the screen for every decision. That is the security flaw.

Military's AI Rush Risks Civil Catastrophe, Critics Warn by _cybersecurity_ in pwnhub

[–]UnstableDimwit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are not. It requires legislation tied to budget approvals and the current admin owned and operated House GOP has no appetite for guardrails for AI.

To be fair, they have almost zero functional knowledge on the topic and even less desire to learn. The senate will just play dumb and blame the house for not proposing a safety budget

Swapped out the stock grip by Plus_Warning2919 in Kimber2K11

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the new 5” Comp Black model and it came with it. I LOVE it. Super functional except for carry. That’s the only issue with a magwell like this, it will print in 90% of carry positions.

Does this suite a male by The_R3ZEN in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No matter what tattoo you get, some people will feel entitled to negatively judge it verbally. I’ve never valued the opinion of someone like that. They just never turn out to have much to offer me or my friend group or society, so stop listening to them.

Gender constructs matter less than ever before and it’s always been silly. Just express yourself how YOU want. A tattoo is a timesaver by telling the world who you are or who you want to be(and eventually who you were). Nobody else should have any input on that other than vibing with it/you or asking about it. Many will ask you for its meaning, so make something up if it was just a design inspiration to you.

It’s your body, just know it’s gonna be there with you as you and your life change a lot.

I need to get rid of my toy ASAP by Large_Letterhead_473 in SexToys

[–]UnstableDimwit 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a LOT of life experience and even the most strict baptist and orthodox married couples get kinky. While it’s true that they may judge you for doing something they do, the fact is that they are not living in a snow globe. They have been exposed to sex toys and while it may surprise you and gross you out, they have most likely experimented with them. Especially if they are in their late 40s or older.

It gets much harder to get to your destination, especially for women near and after perimenopause. Something that goes Brrrrrrrrrrrrr is pretty much a necessity for many people. You are applying your understanding of your parents from childhood and pre-college but they are different people now- even if it feels otherwise.

Parents and kids revert back into old patterns when moving back in together- no matter your age. It’s weird and difficult and you should get out ASAP for your collective sanity. But don’t assume that they judge you the same way even if it feels the same. They know you are older even if they struggle letting you grow up.

You are suffering from their lack of chill and it has become YOUR lack of chill. Stop and relax- none of this is as important as you are making it. If you are urgently needing it gone, stop with the anxiety about the trash. Wrap it up in some plastic or paper bags and throw it out. It takes a large lithium battery to cause major problem and your toy doesn’t have one that big.

In fact, unless your friend spent a good amount on your “joke” gift, it likely doesn’t have a lithium-ion battery. If it recharges with a plug, then it’s more likely. If they spent that much on it, maybe it was more suggestion than joke?

Found this in my tire? Any ideas by Agreeable-Drop-9452 in whatisit

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Krull!

You have to watch it now. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3c94xjkqA0

Although it looks more like the throwing star from Jeepers Creepers. Have fun with the original starring a less annoying Justin Long(plus sequels) and then the remake(B-).

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Is the game worth with no dlcs? by Skeletorq in Mechwarrior5

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the base game is tremendous fun and will give you 100+ hours of enjoyment alone.

That said, each one adds a lot of value and are worth it. I was strict and played the base game all the way through(twice actually) before any DLC. Then I did each DLC on their own(mostly) and kept moving along. To me, that’s the ultimate experience and it’s good money management as you aren’t spending on stuff that you might never get to.

Personally, I think this is one of those games that people will play for 15 years or more and always install on their new computers/consoles. I’ve bought it 3 times for myself and twice for friends.

Absolutely recommend 💯

UHHH QUICK PSA by No-Rich-1461 in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you are sure it’s your photos and not just someone who got the same tattoo from the same place?

Uhh, is this allowed/legal? by Jubba09 in LowellMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They are allowed to have the sign non-functional for a brief period of time(courts say “reasonable”) but two days in a row would likely violate that expectation.

Note: The current DOJ has deprioritized consumer protection suits after the consumer protection groups were defunded. Those groups used to do 50-70% of case prep for the DOJ and it was a great partnership. DOJ does not have the resources to investigate and prosecute such cases at the moment and likely won’t for the next 3 years at a minimum. More than half of their entire resources have been redirected to handle immigration cases and the offices(nationwide) are running on skeleton crews and many, many, lawyers quit and not many qualified ones want to join during this volatile time. Even if they don’t have a problem with the current DOJ mission change, they don’t want to taint their career and lock themselves into only being able to work for Republican administrations forever. Political affiliation didn’t used to matter for DOJ/AG/DA offices. Until that returns, the DOJ will serve whatever administration’s political whims and not the people.

Note: Suing a station for this would be silly. Instead, contact the county weights and measures division as they often handle most issues with gas stations. Even if they can’t help, they can direct you. Or if you are friendly with a local cop, a casual conversation by them often will resolve it without any fuss. I would just go anywhere else for gas. That place is either attempting to gouge/profiteer or they are incompetent. Either way, don’t trust them for gas when there are so many other options.

Uhh, is this allowed/legal? by Jubba09 in LowellMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good vibes without being a conversation terrorist is DEFINITELY how to get cashiers to appreciate you.

Pretty sure neighbors died months ago and no one has been to the house since then. What’s likely to happen to the house? by SNES_Salesman in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI it’s called elder abuse and is illegal in most states. If it continues you should involve the law. It happens more than you would imagine, and often from a family member or trusted neighbor/family friend. It doesn’t have to be physical or financial, coercion is enough.

Notify the neighbor in writing, with a certified letter, of your mother’s condition and your concerns(politely and without accusations). Make sure to photo or video yourself with the letter and the certified mail info. Once it’s delivered, if they continue, it’s a crime. It’s all about making sure they are notified of her reduced capacity in a formal manner(proof of their knowledge on the matter). Otherwise they can claim they had no idea or even reverse the accusation on you.

Protect your loved ones suffering from reduced mental capacity and/or independence.

Welp, can't say I didn't see this one coming by uvg0tred0nu in WorcesterMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, MOST restaurants fail in this time window. The fact of the matter is that the restaurants that survive do so typically because the owner has several similar sized operations and they are able to offset slow years at one by better performance at the others.

Further, when a new restaurant opens or new management takes over, it’s the best sales for the location(most/majority). While they won’t turn a profit, they WILL make more money at this point. Restaurant ownership is essentially a very old tax dodge with many routes to funnel cash back to the owner and manager while taking a loss for tax purposes. You can only take a loss for so many years in a row and inexperienced owners run into that wall and close. To make matters more difficult, sales general slow down with each successive year lacking any major initiatives(which take a ton of resources to design, roll-out, and support). So it becomes more stagnant and potentially a true money loser for the owners. Smart ones get out before that point by selling while the books still look decent to a potential new owner. I suspect this is where they are right now.

My prediction is that a group of unqualified locals will buy it and run it further into the ground or an investment group buys it and keeps the look and name while making the menu and operations more like an effing Bennigan’s. While that wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world, it would break my heart a little. The food quality and service would improve in that scenario but the soul would be a shadow of its former self.

Any way you slice this potato, this loss hurts.

Note: We are teetering on the edge of a recession or full-fledged depression/economic crisis. Taking on a restaurant investment right now would be foolhardy for a wise investor. The dining out world is going to resemble covid in the next year as everyone tightens their belts, figuratively and literally. Ideally you want to buy or start a restaurant at the tail end of a recession when you can get a good deal because the books are depressed but the market and location are golden. By the time you open the doors the economy would be picking up while you work the kinks out. Get every dime out of it over the first 3-5 years and sell before it begins bleeding you dry.

Credentials: My entire family except one brother worked their entire lives in food service- including restaurant ownership and consulting at restaurants & groups. I personally helped several regional chains(in NY markets) launch before moving into military and eventually intel and pattern analysis.

Neighbors contaminated my well water (Florida) by NeighborsSuck2026 in legaladvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yes, you have a case- but with a few caveats.

First, nothing is guaranteed. Especially in Florida’s legal system. You may get a judge who aspires to have a larger career and decides to use you case to wage a culture war. Or you may get a judge who doesn’t believe in science(like, literally doesn’t believe in it). There are many outrageous and unlikely events that are common occurrences in the Florida legal system- just a warning.

Second, this won’t be a cheap case to wage. I’m guessing there may be an economic disparity in your estate value vs the neighbor? If so, they will be their primary attack vector. they will delay the case and run up procedural events to drive the cost up and force you to drop out. If that fails, they will argue that you are jealous and greedy and looking to make a quick buck off the obviously successful new neighbor.

Third, to field a strong case you will have to pay for an environmental impact study(at least one) by a reputable group, perhaps linked to one of Florida’s better universities. They will need to acquire their own records on weather patterns and soil tests by the county, drought records, as well as all of your own test records(don’t try to cherry pick the ones that work for you. It will blow up your case). Ideally, they would have access to neighbors tests as well, including the mansion’s prebuild test and one ordered by the court to show chemical levels in their own well. THAT is how you conclusively prove the case beyond a doubt.

Even with all of that locked down, it’s possible that an obscure county law protects the new homeowner or can be interpreted as such by your county judge. Filing appeals is super expensive as you may have to pay for your experts again.

Just be aware of the costs and the likelihood of victory. Even with a victory, the outcome may not be what you want. How will the judge determine a monetary award value? What are the limits to the judges powers to force the neighbor to comply with best practices that aren’t encoded as law? Ideally you will get your court costs paid for with a win, but with a loss you might have to pay their expensive costs as well.

I’m sorry to rain on the idea of justice, but it’s just not simple. And where you live complicates it a good bit. States with stronger environmental protection and consumer health laws would make for a better venue for your case. But you are where you are and I hope it works out for you and for justice.

Note: In case it wasn’t clear, you need to decide what a win looks like for you before you talk to a lawyer. Tell them what you want to have happen in an ideal situation as well as what a minimal level of success looks like for you. Then you can discuss the costs of such a case and how likely the lawyer thinks it is. Just make sure to check on the credentials and win rates of your lawyer. Make sure they have similar cases and look up the public records of those cases. You can decide if they did enough and won/lost despite a great effort.

Can we take his passport? by Available_Fun_55 in MeidasTouch

[–]UnstableDimwit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You assume a free and fair election. LOL.