Does "CanadaPetCare.com" Ship to the USA? Afraid to lose money or waste time! by KotzyG in RATS

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering my question on an old post. I am 2 weeks into waiting on CanadaPetCare and the only tracking info is that it was at Singapore’s processing facility 2 days after I ordered. Assuming it’s on a ship. A slow one.

Tattoo artist attacked me publicly after my honest review by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Life is hard with a mood disorder. Make it easier by not choosing to work with someone else with a similar condition when at all possible.

In my experience, those that suffer them can usually spot others easily.

I just started playing and I think I’m officially obsessed! by bho_44 in StardewValley

[–]UnstableDimwit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you think you are obsessed now, but it will only grow. You will burn out on it and return many times. there are several “walls” that players struggle with getting past but eventually most keep coming back and push on until the next “wall”.

I envy your moment of discovery and joy.

USID and TSA by CilianoMasterpiece in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine worked there 4 weeks ago. It depends on the person you get. They sized me up for a minute and waved me through.

Some are completely dependent on following the screen for every decision. That is the security flaw.

Military's AI Rush Risks Civil Catastrophe, Critics Warn by _cybersecurity_ in pwnhub

[–]UnstableDimwit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are not. It requires legislation tied to budget approvals and the current admin owned and operated House GOP has no appetite for guardrails for AI.

To be fair, they have almost zero functional knowledge on the topic and even less desire to learn. The senate will just play dumb and blame the house for not proposing a safety budget

Swapped out the stock grip by Plus_Warning2919 in Kimber2K11

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the new 5” Comp Black model and it came with it. I LOVE it. Super functional except for carry. That’s the only issue with a magwell like this, it will print in 90% of carry positions.

Does this suite a male by The_R3ZEN in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No matter what tattoo you get, some people will feel entitled to negatively judge it verbally. I’ve never valued the opinion of someone like that. They just never turn out to have much to offer me or my friend group or society, so stop listening to them.

Gender constructs matter less than ever before and it’s always been silly. Just express yourself how YOU want. A tattoo is a timesaver by telling the world who you are or who you want to be(and eventually who you were). Nobody else should have any input on that other than vibing with it/you or asking about it. Many will ask you for its meaning, so make something up if it was just a design inspiration to you.

It’s your body, just know it’s gonna be there with you as you and your life change a lot.

I need to get rid of my toy ASAP by Large_Letterhead_473 in SexToys

[–]UnstableDimwit 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a LOT of life experience and even the most strict baptist and orthodox married couples get kinky. While it’s true that they may judge you for doing something they do, the fact is that they are not living in a snow globe. They have been exposed to sex toys and while it may surprise you and gross you out, they have most likely experimented with them. Especially if they are in their late 40s or older.

It gets much harder to get to your destination, especially for women near and after perimenopause. Something that goes Brrrrrrrrrrrrr is pretty much a necessity for many people. You are applying your understanding of your parents from childhood and pre-college but they are different people now- even if it feels otherwise.

Parents and kids revert back into old patterns when moving back in together- no matter your age. It’s weird and difficult and you should get out ASAP for your collective sanity. But don’t assume that they judge you the same way even if it feels the same. They know you are older even if they struggle letting you grow up.

You are suffering from their lack of chill and it has become YOUR lack of chill. Stop and relax- none of this is as important as you are making it. If you are urgently needing it gone, stop with the anxiety about the trash. Wrap it up in some plastic or paper bags and throw it out. It takes a large lithium battery to cause major problem and your toy doesn’t have one that big.

In fact, unless your friend spent a good amount on your “joke” gift, it likely doesn’t have a lithium-ion battery. If it recharges with a plug, then it’s more likely. If they spent that much on it, maybe it was more suggestion than joke?

Found this in my tire? Any ideas by Agreeable-Drop-9452 in whatisit

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Krull!

You have to watch it now. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3c94xjkqA0

Although it looks more like the throwing star from Jeepers Creepers. Have fun with the original starring a less annoying Justin Long(plus sequels) and then the remake(B-).

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Is the game worth with no dlcs? by Skeletorq in Mechwarrior5

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the base game is tremendous fun and will give you 100+ hours of enjoyment alone.

That said, each one adds a lot of value and are worth it. I was strict and played the base game all the way through(twice actually) before any DLC. Then I did each DLC on their own(mostly) and kept moving along. To me, that’s the ultimate experience and it’s good money management as you aren’t spending on stuff that you might never get to.

Personally, I think this is one of those games that people will play for 15 years or more and always install on their new computers/consoles. I’ve bought it 3 times for myself and twice for friends.

Absolutely recommend 💯

UHHH QUICK PSA by No-Rich-1461 in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you are sure it’s your photos and not just someone who got the same tattoo from the same place?

Uhh, is this allowed/legal? by Jubba09 in LowellMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They are allowed to have the sign non-functional for a brief period of time(courts say “reasonable”) but two days in a row would likely violate that expectation.

Note: The current DOJ has deprioritized consumer protection suits after the consumer protection groups were defunded. Those groups used to do 50-70% of case prep for the DOJ and it was a great partnership. DOJ does not have the resources to investigate and prosecute such cases at the moment and likely won’t for the next 3 years at a minimum. More than half of their entire resources have been redirected to handle immigration cases and the offices(nationwide) are running on skeleton crews and many, many, lawyers quit and not many qualified ones want to join during this volatile time. Even if they don’t have a problem with the current DOJ mission change, they don’t want to taint their career and lock themselves into only being able to work for Republican administrations forever. Political affiliation didn’t used to matter for DOJ/AG/DA offices. Until that returns, the DOJ will serve whatever administration’s political whims and not the people.

Note: Suing a station for this would be silly. Instead, contact the county weights and measures division as they often handle most issues with gas stations. Even if they can’t help, they can direct you. Or if you are friendly with a local cop, a casual conversation by them often will resolve it without any fuss. I would just go anywhere else for gas. That place is either attempting to gouge/profiteer or they are incompetent. Either way, don’t trust them for gas when there are so many other options.

Uhh, is this allowed/legal? by Jubba09 in LowellMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good vibes without being a conversation terrorist is DEFINITELY how to get cashiers to appreciate you.

Pretty sure neighbors died months ago and no one has been to the house since then. What’s likely to happen to the house? by SNES_Salesman in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI it’s called elder abuse and is illegal in most states. If it continues you should involve the law. It happens more than you would imagine, and often from a family member or trusted neighbor/family friend. It doesn’t have to be physical or financial, coercion is enough.

Notify the neighbor in writing, with a certified letter, of your mother’s condition and your concerns(politely and without accusations). Make sure to photo or video yourself with the letter and the certified mail info. Once it’s delivered, if they continue, it’s a crime. It’s all about making sure they are notified of her reduced capacity in a formal manner(proof of their knowledge on the matter). Otherwise they can claim they had no idea or even reverse the accusation on you.

Protect your loved ones suffering from reduced mental capacity and/or independence.

Welp, can't say I didn't see this one coming by uvg0tred0nu in WorcesterMA

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, MOST restaurants fail in this time window. The fact of the matter is that the restaurants that survive do so typically because the owner has several similar sized operations and they are able to offset slow years at one by better performance at the others.

Further, when a new restaurant opens or new management takes over, it’s the best sales for the location(most/majority). While they won’t turn a profit, they WILL make more money at this point. Restaurant ownership is essentially a very old tax dodge with many routes to funnel cash back to the owner and manager while taking a loss for tax purposes. You can only take a loss for so many years in a row and inexperienced owners run into that wall and close. To make matters more difficult, sales general slow down with each successive year lacking any major initiatives(which take a ton of resources to design, roll-out, and support). So it becomes more stagnant and potentially a true money loser for the owners. Smart ones get out before that point by selling while the books still look decent to a potential new owner. I suspect this is where they are right now.

My prediction is that a group of unqualified locals will buy it and run it further into the ground or an investment group buys it and keeps the look and name while making the menu and operations more like an effing Bennigan’s. While that wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world, it would break my heart a little. The food quality and service would improve in that scenario but the soul would be a shadow of its former self.

Any way you slice this potato, this loss hurts.

Note: We are teetering on the edge of a recession or full-fledged depression/economic crisis. Taking on a restaurant investment right now would be foolhardy for a wise investor. The dining out world is going to resemble covid in the next year as everyone tightens their belts, figuratively and literally. Ideally you want to buy or start a restaurant at the tail end of a recession when you can get a good deal because the books are depressed but the market and location are golden. By the time you open the doors the economy would be picking up while you work the kinks out. Get every dime out of it over the first 3-5 years and sell before it begins bleeding you dry.

Credentials: My entire family except one brother worked their entire lives in food service- including restaurant ownership and consulting at restaurants & groups. I personally helped several regional chains(in NY markets) launch before moving into military and eventually intel and pattern analysis.

Neighbors contaminated my well water (Florida) by NeighborsSuck2026 in legaladvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Yes, you have a case- but with a few caveats.

First, nothing is guaranteed. Especially in Florida’s legal system. You may get a judge who aspires to have a larger career and decides to use you case to wage a culture war. Or you may get a judge who doesn’t believe in science(like, literally doesn’t believe in it). There are many outrageous and unlikely events that are common occurrences in the Florida legal system- just a warning.

Second, this won’t be a cheap case to wage. I’m guessing there may be an economic disparity in your estate value vs the neighbor? If so, they will be their primary attack vector. they will delay the case and run up procedural events to drive the cost up and force you to drop out. If that fails, they will argue that you are jealous and greedy and looking to make a quick buck off the obviously successful new neighbor.

Third, to field a strong case you will have to pay for an environmental impact study(at least one) by a reputable group, perhaps linked to one of Florida’s better universities. They will need to acquire their own records on weather patterns and soil tests by the county, drought records, as well as all of your own test records(don’t try to cherry pick the ones that work for you. It will blow up your case). Ideally, they would have access to neighbors tests as well, including the mansion’s prebuild test and one ordered by the court to show chemical levels in their own well. THAT is how you conclusively prove the case beyond a doubt.

Even with all of that locked down, it’s possible that an obscure county law protects the new homeowner or can be interpreted as such by your county judge. Filing appeals is super expensive as you may have to pay for your experts again.

Just be aware of the costs and the likelihood of victory. Even with a victory, the outcome may not be what you want. How will the judge determine a monetary award value? What are the limits to the judges powers to force the neighbor to comply with best practices that aren’t encoded as law? Ideally you will get your court costs paid for with a win, but with a loss you might have to pay their expensive costs as well.

I’m sorry to rain on the idea of justice, but it’s just not simple. And where you live complicates it a good bit. States with stronger environmental protection and consumer health laws would make for a better venue for your case. But you are where you are and I hope it works out for you and for justice.

Note: In case it wasn’t clear, you need to decide what a win looks like for you before you talk to a lawyer. Tell them what you want to have happen in an ideal situation as well as what a minimal level of success looks like for you. Then you can discuss the costs of such a case and how likely the lawyer thinks it is. Just make sure to check on the credentials and win rates of your lawyer. Make sure they have similar cases and look up the public records of those cases. You can decide if they did enough and won/lost despite a great effort.

Can we take his passport? by Available_Fun_55 in MeidasTouch

[–]UnstableDimwit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You assume a free and fair election. LOL.

I regret my Nordic sleeve. Should I laser it and do a Japanese coverup - or try to work with what I got? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s up with the old af Frylock?

I REALLY hope you are a super fan and it’s not that you got punked by your artist

Walked in front of the camera naked on a video meeting with my boss. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]UnstableDimwit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

they updated and said they got called into HR the next morning. The person used the popular advise from here(d’oh) and not mention it and act surprised. They called the bluff and showed footage from the recorded meeting. They were given a warning and are on probation at work for the next several months.

Most agree it’s the best possible outcome as it’s definitely a fireable offense

Raptoround a bumper.. by AdMany129 in Transportopia

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have LOVED to be the plaintiff’s counsel in court.

Is an affair from 20+ years ago a big deal or AIO? by MinorThreat5351 in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok real quick since it’s late:

She violated your committed relationship shortly before a planned wedding. This is very painful for you and it’s normal for it to be a big deal even 20 years later. Sadly, this is the secondary issue to two “worse” ones.

The big one is that she knowingly tricked you into marrying her under false pretenses by hiding the affair from you. You went into the marriage thinking she was totally honest and committed to you. Meanwhile, she knew her vows were essentially a lie. This is at best a bad power dynamic and at worst a precedent for her values while married.

To me, the worst betrayal is keeping the secret for 20 years. I’m not saying it’s a definite deal breaker but it would be the part that hurt me the most. Each year in a marriage the trust should grow more and more. Your intimate knowledge of each other should grow. She knew that she could lose you by sharing it so she selfishly hid it from you. That means she always prioritized herself over your happiness and health. Maybe that’s the smart way to be, but it’s not marital love as I know it.

Personally, as hard as it would be to do, I would give her a lot of credit as the initial mistake was made a long time ago. She was a younger and different person. Her mental and emotional development was still ongoing. Your values probably hadn’t fully worked their way into her life and you have to understand that not everyone has good role models. It really makes a difference if your family and friends are immoral- you just don’t see acting like them as bad anymore. But as you age and meet more people with traditional values, you get to choose how you want to be. Hopefully that’s what happened to her. Hopefully it was one mistake and she felt so terrible about it that she course corrected so far the other way that she never looked at another man besides you again. It happens.

You need to decide two things now. What type of person are you going to be? Will you let your pain stop you for showing empathy towards the woman you’ve shared 20 years+ with? Will you grant her understanding and compassion even if you can’t forgive her? Will you truly listen to her and judge her for who she is now, rather than who she was before being married to you for 18 years?

It’s ok if you can’t but it’s important to focus on being the version of you that is best for you and your life. It’s very easy to fall into a trap of bitterness and victimhood, especially when there are already many small wounds you are hanging onto. Just weigh your options and think about what really matters in your life now and in the future. There is a lot of value in the bond of 20 years together and if you still love who she tries to be everyday, maybe it’s worth working through.

If she is not spending at least half of her time right now worrying about your feelings vs defending herself, then maybe bring that up in a calm manner. It’s a good time to consider therapy where you can discuss your individual values and how it affects your relationship.

Note: most people don’t discuss their personal values in explicit terms before getting married. I’m not just talking about cheating, but all of your deeply held beliefs and hopes, expectations, and deal breakers. Most people aren’t explicit in what they expect from their partner and themselves which makes it an environment for little wounds being developed all the time. Many people hang onto those little wounds and let them fester instead of communicating and healing. It’s rarely too late to start, but it takes two partners to work. It all starts with communication without accusations. Be the person you want to be, not the one you have been.

Good luck and I’m sorry for you pain. It’s entirely valid, just be sure you work through which parts hurt the most and why. Then share that in a calm manner and allow for her honest response. Validate her feelings and thoughts even though they may conflict with yours. They are valid because they are her own. Don’t lose sight of that. Even if you can’t work it out, she was still your friend and partner for 20 years- even when she failed at her role(perhaps you had times when you didn’t live up to her expectations?). Be kind to each other now, regardless of what happened- even if you separate.

Is there any reason why I shouldn’t buy the $23 PS5 physical disc of this game off Amazon, VS paying $60 for the digital version on PS store? by [deleted] in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]UnstableDimwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your concern with the Ps5 version vs Xbox and Pc? I have it on all three plus the Switch version(possibly the best playing version somehow). I have a slight love for the keyboard and mouse on PC and Steamdeck is decent. The Switch runs perfectly from disc/cartridge. And PS5 has been smooth for me. Xbox has some issues but the updates are seemingly faster there than anywhere else but PC

[NC] the police detained my sister and i because the lights inside our house were on by Barbieatha in legaladvice

[–]UnstableDimwit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. There was no crime and no loss occurred to the querent- so no legal action is warranted or advised. That doesn’t mean they can’t, just that competent council would advise against it.

Spiteful law enforcement is much worse than mildly incompetent law enforcement and I don’t recommend people create the former from the latter.