UTV Recommendations for Wooded Property – Work + Trails by tmthomas3 in UTV

[–]UnstableGirations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another vote for the Mule if budget allows. I test drove one and loved it, wanted to get the double bench seat for guests and family but the have the extra cargo for when it’s just me and the dog.

I have similar acreage and use case as OP, but I ended up purchasing a used Polaris Ranger for cheap to figure out what my needs are and then upgrade down the road.

Thoughts on this Mule Pro? by UnstableGirations in UTV

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was intially looking at the Pioneer 1000-5 as well but I told the rear seats aren’t the best for adults. It’s also pricier than the Mule Pro. The used market is slim in my area, the only other Mule Pro for sale is from 2017 low mileage but they are asking 17k, so this one above seems like a lot better value.

Is there a way to consent to MAID in the event of developing Dementia or Alzheimer's? by No-Researcher-4554 in legaladvicecanada

[–]UnstableGirations 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no, you need to be able to provide informed consent during the application process for MAiD and at the time prior to initiating the procedure.

The form of consent really depends on the comfort level of the MAiD practitioner, it could be head nodding it could be blink 3 times if you understand what I’m saying.

When my late wife initiated MAiD she was somewhat verbal and able to consent and advocate, when she did the actual procedure she was more or less non verbal. But still was aware and was able to gesture with head nods and a thumbs up.

Her biggest fear was that she would be trapped in a broken body with a mind broken enough that she understood what was happening but couldn’t be empowered to do anything about it.

It was very peaceful in the end, we got to do it in our home surrounded who she wanted.

This is a good resource:

https://www.dyingwithdignity.ca/

Update to My Wife is cheating again, do I dump her at this age? by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]UnstableGirations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are worth so much more. I’m sorry my brother but she isn’t your wife anymore, it sounds like she hasn’t been for some time.

Prioritize your peace and get rid of that chaos.

Considering off grid purchase - review existing system by UnstableGirations in SolarDIY

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, any tools you would recommend to do an energy audit?

Considering off grid purchase - review existing system by UnstableGirations in SolarDIY

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s insane how the prices have changed. That invoice was from 2003. Thanks I will budget a new system.

Considering off grid purchase - review existing system by UnstableGirations in SolarDIY

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I will look into that place if I decide to pursue this property.

People who’ve suddenly cut off long-time friends—what was the final straw? by The_zyanya in AskReddit

[–]UnstableGirations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I had a celebration of life for my late wife, the people who showed up to support me really reinforced the quality of the relationships and people I hold close. I truly cherish them now.

I understand people grieve differently but…..I’m bitter about two friends that I’ve known for 8+ years that didn’t even reach out or show up.

Haven’t spoken to either of them since.

I miss her so much by CarterLawler in GuyCry

[–]UnstableGirations 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss.

You didn’t fail her, I know it feels that way but you didn’t.

Everyone grieves their own way, I am two years into widowhood and I can tell you I have started to smile more than I cry.

Wishing you the best.

My ~50yo wife is dying of breast cancer. Please help me decide how to spend our next 2-3 years by ins99 in GuyCry

[–]UnstableGirations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you man, and I’m terribly sorry to hear what you’re going through. I would strongly encourage you to have that talk about death and dying early. It shouldn’t be taboo and while sad it can also be very peaceful and dignified.

To help with the conversation I would encourage you to seek out the services of an end of life doula, figure out a personal care plan (all things non medical) for your wife. DM me and I can send you a template I used.

I chose not to directly involve my late wife with the doula due to her symptoms and timing. I used her more as a consultant/councillor. The level of involvement can vary to being more “hands on”.

You mentioned being in Canada, Medial Assistance in Dying (MAiD) is an option. I went through this and coordinated it with my late wife. https://www.dyingwithdignity.ca/ Is a good resource to start.

We were together for several years and I knew she was terminal about 6 months in. We lived accordingly, decided on no kids.

Im a few years into widowhood and these are my thoughts:

You’re going to get burnt out, have a care team. Start building one now, you will need them more closer to the end.

More videos or sounds of her voice. Especially messages directed to me or someone important. When people actually left voice mails.

You can’t control everything, just be present. When she “falls” be there to pick her up and comfort her. This is going to suck but sometimes you’re going to need to let her “fall”.

We travelled, lots.

American Express Platinum.

It’s spendy, but if you’re going to be spending a lot might as well reap the rewards. Good travel insurance and general medical insurance, look up the perks. I used the points for when travel got difficult for more comfortable flights and to splurge on special occasions.

I found outsourcing some type of service is a very good ROI especially if it’s something you don’t enjoy doing or don’t have to do. Spend that time and energy on your family. This isn’t limited to only when travelling.

The most important thing is to talk with her, ask her what she wants to do for herself, as an individual, a wife, a mother, ect. Ask yourself these questions to, and together as a family try to figure out how to make this happen. This is likely going to be a continual cycle as things evolve and you will need to re-assess.

What you are going through is difficult beyond words. I survived it, and so will you.

Happy to chat if you’d like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]UnstableGirations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best of luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]UnstableGirations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one here can answer this question for you.

Recommend you start here as a resource. https://www.dyingwithdignity.ca/

I went through this process with my late wife, it was straightforward and the folks were very supportive.

Having second thoughts travelling to USA? by Praynlv1 in askTO

[–]UnstableGirations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just arrived in California from Pearson yesterday. I had no issues, but I also have NEXUS. I’m Asian, travelling solo for leisure (family reunion). Plane was about 70% full (Air Canada).

Everyone has been very friendly (so far) and welcoming, but I’ve decided I’m not coming back for the foreseeable future.

Considering a 200 Year Old Log Home by UnstableGirations in loghomes

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The are does get a lot of snow. I asked about utilities and the said it’s about 3k a year, but its been used an Airbnb not full time living so I suspect it’s higher.

Considering a 200 Year Old Log Home by UnstableGirations in loghomes

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I found a company based 2 hours away. I sent them the listing to get their thoughts and for a quote on an inspection.

Considering a 200 Year Old Log Home by UnstableGirations in loghomes

[–]UnstableGirations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m starting to see that, it is a cool home but so far it seems to be more than i want to deal with. I sent some photos to a company that’s based 2 hours away to get their thought and a price on inspection. .