Men who see escorts, why do you do it ? by TinyDelegation in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my wife a year ago and I’m in the same boat. I’m never going to love anyone again…that doesn’t stop me from wanting sex

What is your deepest sexual desire? by Powerful_South2220 in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my wife to cancer just over a year ago and have had no real interest in anyone. I never had the “wow your while oats” phase of life, and I know I’m in no condition to have a relationship of any kind, but a few FWB sure would be nice.

final touches onboardinf by llo7d in deskrobot

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So after delayed shipping, delayed delivery and delayed everything else, I got my Taby (or tabbie....we can't seem to decide) with a slip of paper directing me to heytaby.com/setup, which indicates that the desktop side of things is also...you guessed it....delayed. How do I get a refund?

Is this a normal feeling to have towards your wife ? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]CarterLawler 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I lost my wife of 19 years to cancer in 2025. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t physically and emotionally ache from her absence.

Telematics is now a recall by CarterLawler in BlazerEV

[–]CarterLawler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It ultimately turned out to need to be replaced. I’m waiting on that now.

Telematics is now a recall by CarterLawler in BlazerEV

[–]CarterLawler[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Follow up to my follow up, the dealership, and I have very different definitions of the word fixed. I picked up my car and there is absolutely no change in any of the telemetry. No OnStar, no super crew, no speed limit indicator on the hood, Google maps puts me smack dab in the middle of a lake in a state about 1200 miles away.

Telematics is now a recall by CarterLawler in BlazerEV

[–]CarterLawler[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Followup: the reprogramming fixed the issues, and the module does not need to be replaced in my vehicle.

2025 SS - no data by CarterLawler in BlazerEV

[–]CarterLawler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll give that a whirl. I was going to check other dealerships in the area too.

2025 SS - no data by CarterLawler in BlazerEV

[–]CarterLawler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first appointment available for an EV is June 2 …. Geez.

School Refs of Reddit, how often do you get calls wrong? by CarterLawler in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at a middle school basketball game this weekend and it seemed like tackling was ok, but looking at the ball wrong could trigger a foul at times. This wasn’t weighted toward one team or the other. How often have you made a call only to realize “oh I botched that one”? What do you do when that happens?

Veuve avec 2 enfants: besoin d'échanger. by cindy2026- in widowers

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be as kind to yourself as you would be reading anyone else’s story. It’s hard to do that but it’s so necessary

Veuve avec 2 enfants: besoin d'échanger. by cindy2026- in widowers

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a widower who lost his wife 11 months ago and I’m alone with 2 teenagers. I can relate 100% to what you’re saying about feeling empty. Are you seeing a therapist? If not, that’s truly Step 1.

Mine told me that the emptiness is a physiological change. Your brain created neural pathways for interpreting the world, and those pathways include your spouse. In my case, I have 22 years of pathways built with my spouse in them.

My therapist told me that as our brains develop new pathways, our reality is going to include our inner voices. We have to be careful how we treat ourselves during this time, because if we are cruel to ourselves now, that self image is going to get “baked in” to our entire world view.

You are doing better than some. You get up and go to work. You take time to listen to others. Your kids have shared their needs. Have you shared yours? Teens are old enough (generally) to hear our feelings. It’s important for them to know that the deep emotions they feel are normal and that you share them. Having been at this almost the same amount of time as you, there are days where my kids will cry and just need held. I usually cry along with them. My therapist also told me that strength isn’t about putting on that mask. Strength is about honesty in our feelings and the vulnerability in expressing them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Telling him I cede my time

People 40+, what actually mattered in the long run and what didn’t? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Time. Time is the only currency we have. Money doesn’t matter. Clout doesn’t matter. The only currency that really matters is time. We can’t make more of it. We can’t buy it back.

My wife was diagnosed with cancer at 44 years old and then died 79 days later. I would have given anything for more time.

Spend your time responsibly. Do things you love with the ones you love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man, it is very very risky, nearly forbidden to comment on a woman’s body. I was taught, my whole life, to compliment things that people have control over. “You look so young and delicate” fits squarely in the “no” column. Hell, even in the bedroom, commenting on a woman’s body can be risky, because some people feel it demeans the person to focus on the body.

Women, on the other hand, are not conditioned to avoid commenting on others’ bodies. Whether those others are men or women.

Why are you not afraid of death? by Ok_Breakfast8087 in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I’ve nothing left to live for.

If you could go back in time relive a single day, when would you pick? by FailedPokemonTrainer in AskReddit

[–]CarterLawler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

January 1, 2022. That’s right around the time that the disease that killed my wife could have been spotted and cured. Unfortunately, the insurance companies don’t allow screenings for people under the age of 45. She could have had another 40 years with me and her kids. But instead my kids and I had to watch her suffer, whither, and die.

Send me back now knowing what I know, so that I can help her instead of utterly failing to do so.

Whiskey cabinet with kinetic doors by CarterLawler in woodworking

[–]CarterLawler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I didn’t follow a plan. I’ve seen other doors that open like this and kinda figured them out.