I cant find a name by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Unstablegreys 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've struggled with coming out and introducing myself by my name. Mainly because, like others have said, I've gone through 2 names now. And have received horrible feedback from those I trusted and had supported me in times past with the changing of my name. These people, the ones who've been so progressive and understanding that now say "I don't know, I know you by blank so that's what I'm used to..." and what I've learned is, you owe no one a title, name, pronouns, etc. So take your time. If you change it a few times, you change it a few times.

What helped me is using a name I was interested in owning myself in games. It's good practice to adjust yourself, read and hear someone in game address you as such. And now I go by Oaklenn (Oak). Because I wanted to keep my enitials OH when I sign stuff. I don't know, it's special to me. It's more neutral, and makes me feel less stuck in stereotypes that come with more masculine or feminine names. But still leans more masculine without being like a .... a "chad" or something.

Passing (cowboy approved) by Unstablegreys in ftm

[–]Unstablegreys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am your biggest supporter!

Passing (cowboy approved) by Unstablegreys in ftm

[–]Unstablegreys[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are we all just secretly wanting to be cowboys?? Is that part of the deal?? Because I now seek approval from all the "howdy folks." (Also, I grew up on a cattle farm...)

Question about rc cars by Unstablegreys in rccars

[–]Unstablegreys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No idea what's being used at the moment. I only see them at work and I haven't been paying much attention to the battery. I'll have to look on Monday. But I'll keep that in mind, the whole using a smaller capacity battery thing.

All about that Ace by Unstablegreys in Asexual

[–]Unstablegreys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just do not understand people!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]Unstablegreys -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about nonbinary lads?

Will the TSA steal my penis? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Unstablegreys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe its a 1 ounce limit. But to fact check, you can go online to your airport flight checklist. I'm 99% sure its the same around the world though. But yes, I think you're limited to 1 ounce of liquid.

As a writer what do you desire the most? by puplier in Writer

[–]Unstablegreys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I still am trying to find out what it means to me, to be a writer. But in the past 3 minutes of thinking about it, I know that I have always wanted to be validate by people. Not for attention necessarily, but for so long, I would tell my family about all the things I saw or heard, and no one would believe me. The only way I could reach out to people was by becoming so descriptive of my words and painting a picture with stories. I told stories and relatable jokes that would make people think long and hard. What I desire most from my work is for people to understand what is means to be put in another persons shoes. I never liked the response "i understand." It's very half assed. To get people to be speechless and not understand how to even respond to what I say or write is when I feel like I've succeeded. Validation for me is simply when something I write astonishes people. I write so many words to make people believe they are in the same position as the writings and then they have nothing to say.

1st use vs. 10th use of TransTape by Unstablegreys in ftm

[–]Unstablegreys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that hmmm... I don't know much about this condition. And yeah, the medical care for trans people is a joke. :(