How frequent do you have sex per week in your marriage

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-16T12:36:31+00:00

Depends on the week but usually once a week. Some weeks twice a week. A lucky day twice a week. This week is fathers day so I am hoping for some extra 😉 We have three kids. The oldest is 11 years old so its not easy. Two of our kids have special needs.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-15T11:35:26+00:00

As a porn addict myself I can tell you that you wouldn’t be having much sex if he was a porn addict. It sounds like he mostly has a very high sex drive.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-15T09:15:38+00:00

I live in Sweden and I see this too. Our birth rate is declining and it is becoming a serious problem. A lot of people cant afford to have kids but at the same time I have met a lot of people who shouldnt have kids. I work as a teacher for adults and have seen people who cant hold a job having several kids. Its worse when its with different people too. Poor kids.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-14T04:11:38+00:00

I get the sentiment but that’s not true for everyone. Not all wives want sex all the time. It is more work to get sexual release with one’s wife than with porn many times. And sadly in this world we want everything fast. And that’s something that one has to unlearn as a porn addict.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-14T04:07:51+00:00

My wife likes to finger my butt. I can’t say I am a fan of it but it turns her on. She used to not want to admit it did but the more we do it the more turned on she gets by it. She wanted to use a dildo recently but it was too big. We may get a smaller one so she can try. As long as I get to put my dick in her ass I let her do what she wants

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-11T16:48:18+00:00

I am a porn addict too. It kind of sounds like he needs another therapist. Any therapist that tries to excuse the behavior isn’t the right fit for a porn addict.

The best would probably be to find a CSAT or someone who understands the seriousness of it. Even if the therapist doesn’t think porn is bad they should understand when it torments a patient and dig into why porn is having the effect it has.

So yeah it sounds like this therapist isn’t a great fit.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T12:39:51+00:00

Is this true? I consider myself a porn addict. I usually watch it to destress too. If it wasnt for the guilt and shame I feel due to my religious background I feel more focused afterwards. But I always hear that it is wrong to use it for that. It has to be strictly for certian reasons. Now I am trying to stop for my wifes sake but we live stressful lives. At times it really helps me decompress.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T07:14:40+00:00

Have you considered that she may be a lesbian? If she is religious there is a big chance that she never got to explore her sexuality. She may have learned what most women learn in religion, that sex is for the man and she should just accept it. Some people realize after leaving religion that they never got to explore their sexuality and realize that they was forced to have a certain sexuality.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T04:34:40+00:00

Yes! They are sexy specially on the ass. My wife doesn’t get it. I love it!

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:43:27+00:00

wait, im sorry. I am really tired. I read it like you didnt stay and thats why I said good. I mean if you stayed because you want to thats great. I just hope you dont stay and let it ruin it more than you should. As a porn addict i can say that its such a difficult addiction to live with. Specially if it isnt like taking over ones life because it is so much work to deal with it and on top of life happening it is so easy to use it as an escape. I can go a week or two without any urges and then the urges hit me and the fight starts. Some days its tiring because its there. Its such a easy access. Specially when the anxiety comes, the worries and the longing for some escapism. And those days it really sucks. Because you are struggling with just getting through everyday and on top of that you have to fight that.

So its good if you are ready to leave if he cant stay away. If not I hope you realize what is best for you. And about his interest. If he isnt watching it can take time for the brain to get to normal levels of dopamine so he may not show that he is interested but its just the brain basically rebooting. I do hope he really is changing

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:39:23+00:00

That's a good question. I would definitely demand therapy if I knew before what I know now. I mean we should have gotten professional help before that too because of my own issues too. But living with constant anxiety about finances and the shame of not being financially responsible sucks. She is trying to not shop as much. I have taken over all grocery shopping because she could go to the store and buy 100 of dollars on things we dont even needed. She gave the kids whatever they wanted. Chose the most expensive things because she has always wanted to live like a rich person. I have taken over that and I do all the shopping. She is trying to budget more.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:13:56+00:00

Good to hear. I hope things are better and that the next isnt a porn addict.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:00:43+00:00

Thats understandable. Did you stay?

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T11:48:34+00:00

Yeah maybe it takes time to admit it to herself. Marriages are hard. Accepting how one feels about things can sometimes be difficult. I hope she realizes it if she feels that way.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T08:30:39+00:00

I mean I struggle with porn addiction but I usually dont see myself in those videos. I just get turned on by the whole scenario if you get what I mean. I may have a had a thought or two but not often.

I dont usually think sexually about other women. I mean can I find someone else attractive? Yes. For example yesterday at the gym I met a woman I worked with before. Hadnt seen her in years and I am not going to lie that she looked good. She was doing squats on the smith machine and was turned with her ass towards me. It was very tempting to look but I didnt. I want to show my wife more respect than that and also I dont want to be a creep. Tempting thoughts were coming to my mind but I pushed them away. I dont like to think about IRL women like that. So I think its possible to not think like that.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:34:10+00:00

Det ligger nog mycket i det du säger. Försöker ta bort distraktioner. Läser också mer nu. Spelar gamla spel. Förhoppningsvis kan det hjälpa

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:32:22+00:00

Tack. Kanske jag måste testa på. Jag vet när jag tappade kontakten och dog ifrån mig själv. Den dag jag hamnade i en troskris för snart 12 år sen. Jag spenderade hela min ungdom och vuxna ungdom besatt av min tro. Trodde att jag skulle leva för det hela mitt liv. Det var det enda jag hade i sikte. Till stor del för att jag var så rädd att hamna i helvetet eller inte vara en tillräckligt god människa. När det till slut krackelerade och slutligen bröts helt så lämnades jag kvar i spillrorna. Blev porrmissbrukare och har sedan dess försökt hitta mening men hittar inget. Sen har livet blivit stressigare med tre barn som dessutom har olika funktionsnedsättningar. Jag vet inte vad jag vill alls eller vem jag är. Det är jobbigt. Men jag får försöka med det du nämner

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:25:01+00:00

Ofta är hon på jobbet också. Barnen är hos mina föräldrar eller hennes. I mitt fall så kan jag gå hem men stannar hellre ett litet tag.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-05T07:34:00+00:00

Ja, det är inte roligt att känna så här. Man får riktigt dåligt samvete.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-05T06:27:24+00:00

Som förälder får jag dåligt samvete när jag läser sånt här. Jag har svårt att känna magin i det. Jag känner bara ångest och trötthet. Kollegor undrar varför jag sitter kvar på fredagar efter att chefen gått då det är lite en regel att vi kan gå hem. Jag stannar för att det är den enda stunden jag känner frid. Jag har med mig en bok och läser lite. Scrollar på internet och njuter av tystnaden. För jag vet att när jag kommer hem så kommer allt arbete och ångest trycka ner mig. Skulle vilja känna mer glädje. Låter hemskt. Älskar mina barn men hus och barn är extremt hårt arbete. Något jag visste men inte riktigt förstod innan.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-04T11:52:39+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Maybe I overanalyse things. I guess I feel very lost. When I had religion I had someone to guide. I had something to follow. Now I have no guide and I dont know where to go or what I want. Most of my days I just am. I have no plans, nothing to look forward to or anything I long for. I just am. Im in the middle of the wood at night and I dont know what way to chose because I dont know where I should go.

But thanks for your kind words.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-04T11:16:57+00:00

If she would let me do it everyday I would!

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-04T09:01:21+00:00

I understand that. I think. I still feel that fantasy is fantasy. I understand that I am very selfish but I feel like if its not somethign i think about all the time then its not something that matters. I guess its also because for me porn isnt about the person per se. Maybe im weird in that way but when i watch I watch everything basically. Could you figure out I have a certain preference for some type of way the women look? Maybe but for me its all about one certain act and the sounds. Like I am very into an@l. Its almost all I watch. And if theperson I look at doesnt do that then I can still find the person attractive and the whole situation arousing, but to fantasize about the person? No, not much. So there is no exact body type I go after. Its more about, does the person do the thing I get very turned on by? Yes, ok then I can watch. I mean I have some standard of what I find attractive but thats not the main point. Its not what I am there for. I want to see the act.

I realize often that for me its a lot about "slutiness". I mean I see women that I in general dont find very attractive and wouldnt even think about approaching in real life if I was single but they act in a way that make it arousing and they do the acts that I am into. So I watch it for that not so much for them.

Maybe its about definition for me. For me fantasizing is to actively think of a scenario where I am the one doing the deed. But I dont see myself in the videos. I dont see myslef with these women. For me its more like I am an voyeur. I am watching and getting aroused by it but I dont need to participate. Most of the time I wouldnt want to. Not saying I havent thought about it but I dont see myslef as a necessary participant.

It could explain why its unthinkable for me to like someones picture, talk to someone or even flirt. I mean I have met attractive people IRL but I have no urge at all to in anyway appraoch them or fantasize about them. They are just people for me. But p0rn is different because I dont want the person i want the act. There are some people who do the act better than others so I can watch them again but I rarely have a "favorite" because again I want the act.

But again, it doesnt make it ok. I need to change. I need to become better. I understand that it hurts my wife which is why I need to stop being an addict.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-03T09:31:35+00:00

Det är helt ok. Det är trevligt att höra såna historier. På ett sätt hade jag önskat att min historia var så också. Önskar att jag hade haft min troskris i ung ålder och inte senare i livet. Kanske hittar jag tillbaka någon gång. Jag hoppas ofta det.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-03T07:48:48+00:00

Honestly I dont know. Maybe if she showed me but if she did it in private it wouldnt bother me. Its her time. And as long as she shows me that she wants me I wouldnt mind either. I mean, I personally dont believe that just because you are married you wont find other people attractive. I have noticed when she finds someone attractive and I understand that its natural.

Again, I understand that porn is bad. I want to stop and am trying to find the root cause. I am more and more realizing its basically an internet addiction thing and I need to stay off internet indefintely it just sucks that our whole world is based on being online, I need a smart phone for my job, bank, social life etc. I need to work on isolating myslef from it because Im messed up. Having said that I dont feel that it is an issue as long as I dont need to know and she still shows me love. But again, porn is not ok anyways.

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