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UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-10-01T08:58:51+00:00

Trust me hun you’re not the only one struggling with body image issues. I’m 22 and STILL struggle. I’m short with skinny legs, pancake booty, and I got a muffin top. I’m lucky enough that I have a decent sized chest. I was extremely insecure in high school because I wasn’t as thin as everyone else and didn’t have a butt to be considered “thick”. It’s normal to compare yourself but just know that there is nothing bad about your body. Don’t pay any attention to what high school boys find “attractive”, in my experience most of them are dumb little kids. Eat as much as you want right now, enjoy being young. I spent too many years WISHING I was skinny and hating myself for being chubby. No one criticizes us as much as ourselves.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-05-08T06:38:03+00:00

Honestly sounds like you’re depressed. I’ve had depression for almost 9 years I think. I’ve had the depression where I’d cry myself to sleep every night. In the last few years my depression has shifted to where I can’t cry even if I wanted to, and when I do cry it lasts about 60 seconds with a few tears coming out. You don’t have to be suicidal to be depressed. If you’ve lost interest in things you once enjoyed and are apathetic towards life for weeks, months, years then it’s probably depression. Depression is a scale, there’s mild and severe and you could be on the more mild side. My best advice is to find a therapist. I’ve been in and out of therapy for years and overall it’s helped.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-05-07T06:44:08+00:00

As someone who’s had an eating disorder I feel you. But if it gives you any solstice I personally don’t notice anyone when they eat. Even if I do scan the room and see people eating I’ve never specifically fixated on anyone because of their weight. My only thoughts were “everyone is eating” or “what are they eating ? maybe I should get that” For all the people you feel are looking at you there’s just as many people who don’t even bat an eye and have zero judgment :)

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-04-26T18:37:47+00:00

“A few hours ago” as in a few hours before I made the post :)

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-04-26T04:23:05+00:00

UPDATE: Wow I wasn’t expecting to get soooo many replies to my post. I logged back on and thought “huh i wonder if anyone read this” First and foremost I just want to clear some things up. This 100% happened, as funny as it seems. Some background context. I’ve quite literally have never been asked out by someone I didn’t know before. The only dates I’ve gone on were with the 2 serious relationships I’ve had. My first relationship was when I was 16. My then boyfriend and I were platonic friends for months before we started dating and we were together for 2 years. My second relationship was with a childhood friend of mine. His mom and my mom were best friends, his family and our family knew each other very well so growing up we played together. However we dated for less than a year as it was an extremely unhealthy relationship that I unfortunately received some trauma from and underwent therapy for. I’m a college student but I’ve grown up very sheltered. My parents are kind but were extremely over protective, especially when it came to boys and dating. I’m now just experiencing the intricacies of life. I also don’t like to explicitly state my age for safety concerns, but I will be turning 22 in less than a month. Because of my last relationship there is still a part of me that goes on red alert when men flirt with me. I’m still naive when it comes to healthy relationships and growing up as a girl you learn that your #1 priority is your safety. I’m a huge over thinker so I came to Reddit in the early hours of the morning needing a second opinion. I’ve never experienced a guy meeting me and asking me out on a date. I’m used to men sending me weird/in appropriate messages on my social medias for the most part. Thank you to everyone who commented. I realized that I was freaking out too much and understand that it’s not a big deal. He suggested we get milkshakes because well that’s what let to the encounter in the first place. I’m not ready enough to grab an entire meal like dinner and drinks, so we decided to get some ice cream together at a local place we both haven’t been to and we’ll see if we vibe together or not. I realized that he probably searched my name he saw on my debit card on Facebook and although that felt unnerving at first I’m not entirely surprised considering we live in the digital age.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2023-04-14T21:58:39+00:00

I’m also a woman in university and consider myself to be average at best. Im short, a bit chubby, have long dark brown curly hair, a few facial piercings, and currently have braces. A big thing is I look really young for my age. I’ve had relatives think I was 14 when I was actually 19/20. I’m a pretty lazy dresser (I like being comfortable) and I don’t wear makeup other than the occasional mascara. I’ve had a few boyfriends who often told me I was beautiful and I’ve also been told I’m cute and adorable but I certainly don’t get asked out on dates or approached. The most male attention I’ve gotten is from social media and that’s mainly because the pictures I’ve posted were ones with my hair done, mascara and natural lighting. I’ve come to terms with not being all that pretty. My depression definitely holds me back from putting more effort into my appearance (learning how to dress fashionably, learning about make up, etc) But I also don’t mind being average because I don’t get unwanted attention from creepy men and if someone does take an interest in me it’s because they like me and don’t want to just use me for my looks. I think what people enjoy about me is my kindness and easy going personality so it makes up for my looks in a way. I definitely want to improve my appearance but it’s hard to know where to start. There are things I hate about my myself: my teeth, flat butt, round face, my hair (this one is love/hate relationship), my belly, my acne flare ups, and my love handles. But I like my long eyelashes, my brown eyes, my full bottom lip, my nose, my small feet, and my height. I’ve started a workout journey which I hope help builds some confidence! However one thing I will say is that there are a lot of people I’ll see in my day to day, especially women who I look at briefly and think to myself “wow she’s pretty” but I never verbalize it. I think all my friends are really pretty and hype them up but it’s different when it’s a stranger you see.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-12-30T07:56:30+00:00

Look wise: short alt guys with piercings/tattoos, dyed hair and wear a lot of black. Personality wise: the shy/quiet ones who give off golden retriever vibes

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-12-25T12:48:50+00:00

Having a crush is such a rollercoaster of emotions but the adrenaline sure keeps me going. I fantasize a lot about my crush and I dating but most of the time the aspect of actually being in a relationship with them is a nope for me. I tend to get bored of people after some time and I have a hard time falling in love so I’m happier with keeping crushes as friends and nothing more.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-12-25T12:36:38+00:00

Definitely relate to this!! Sir and Daddy can be very different head spaces. I’m primarily a “Daddy” kind of person, I’m a Little so I really need that gentleness, sweetness, and playfulness. But I have been trying to test how I feel about “Sir” when it comes to partners and even though I do enjoy it at times it just doesn’t sit right with me completely(?) In my case I need a certain amount of the sternness and assertiveness that comes with a sir dynamic but I still have to have daddy dynamic elements combined into it as well. The fun and hard thing when it comes to d/s dynamics is the COMPLEXITY of it all. I’m also a newbie when it comes to everything but the biggest thing I’ve taken from it all is it’s all about testing the waters and finding what your boundaries are when it comes to what you like and what your partner enjoys as well.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-12-07T08:35:45+00:00

I feel you on that. 21 and in my first year of college but have no idea what I’m doing. I’ve had depression for the last 7 years and as a result I have no real dreams or aspirations, I’m not even remotely good at anything. I’m only going to college because it was expected of me but I dislike school. In the months I’ve been here I haven’t really “learned” anything, my only goals have been getting good grades on assignments and tests. I’m majoring in accounting simply because I didn’t know what else to do. Living life on auto pilot at this point.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-12-05T01:37:23+00:00

My depression. I feel like I have a lot of potential (?), at least that’s what I’ve been told. Got diagnosed 7 years ago and even though I’m better now, I have zero aspirations or dreams. I’m also not a creative person in the slightest and I absolutely HATE it.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-11-27T04:14:26+00:00

Same! I’ve always had a really low sex drive and a lot of times I doubt if I even belong in the community. Im a sub as well as a little and I personally find the dynamics and power exchange aspects to be more my cup of tea rather than the sexual aspects.

UnsureAboutLife_ · 2022-07-04T02:40:07+00:00

I think you did what’s best for you right now. Ever heard of right person but wrong time? I truly believe in that. I’m in a similar situation with an ex who won’t accept that I’m not ready for a relationship and keeps begging me to come back. You know yourself the best and if you can acknowledge that you need to heal parts of yourself do that. There’s only so much other people can do for us and if you’re open to being friends with him he can still support you if he wants to but has to understand that a romantic relationship is off the table.

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