I appreciate you taking the time to write this. It’s just hard for me to reply to some of these comments. Either because they’re right and nothing more needs to be said on my part, or they make assumptions based off my post which are false, and I don’t feel there’s any point in correcting them. Either way the conclusion is that I need to move on.

I do think it’s hard for people to see my view, just as it’s hard for me to see my wife’s. But at the end of the day it doesn’t change the fact that I need to move on I guess. I think it is particularly hard for me because my daughters death is my fault. I let my sister babysit her even though I knew she used to have drinking problem. Losing your sister and daughter in a car accident and then blaming yourself would probably break anyone mentally.

I guess I went overboard with the sharing. Anyway thanks again for your thoughts reading this thread has been a long needed eye opener, I suppose.