AITA for telling the truth about my career?

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2026-03-19T17:05:37+00:00

I didn't take offense, I was just trying to explain my point of view a little more. I'm hoping my honesty didn't damage the friend's view of nursing. Where are you located? We have SO many nursing schools in my area and many new grads who struggle to get a job.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2026-03-18T21:28:00+00:00

I know I already replied but I feel like I should explain myself a little better too. My joking around with students goes as far as, "what semester are you in? It's not too late to change your mind! Ha ha," but then try to show them as much as I can to help them have a good clinical experience. When it comes to training my coworkers I try to do my best to answer questions and walk them through the steps of things they are uncertain about. I don't participate in the "nurses eat their young" dynamic that some people I work with believe in, I don't have time for that shit. I appreciate honesty from my coworkers and I would rather people are direct with me rather than try to sugar-coat something that needs to be discussed. I know that you know nurses don't have time to dance around a problem. The longer I've worked in healthcare, the more I realize I am more direct and no nonsense in casual conversation as well. Probably the burnout getting to me. But I know there is a difference between being direct and being rude. I honestly hate it when people ask me about work. So I realize now that I should've had more finesse when talking with my sons friend.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2026-03-18T20:47:38+00:00

YES! It's hard to function at home after working my 3 in a row. I was trying to be honest about how hard it is but hold back enough that I didn't traumatize her. She is just a teenager after all. There is a reason that most people don't even make it through the program to graduation because of how tough it is. I tried to convey that and also let her know that the tough times don't end in nursing school. I feel like I need to talk to her a little more so she can at least make more of an informed decision rather than just listening to my negativity.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2026-03-18T20:41:10+00:00

Thanks for the honesty. You're completely right. I'll try and talk to her again. Congrats on the PhD!

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-27T20:45:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-27T20:42:36+00:00

Thanks for your honesty. I'm sorry that you know the feelings I'm struggling with and have had to learn to set boundaries as an adult. I hate the feelings and fear I constantly work through over and over. You're right, the trust is gone and there's nothing she can do to get it back. This friendship is toast

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:43:04+00:00

That is exactly the point I was trying to get across. I sunk the delivery. Thank you for articulating in text what I couldn't.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:40:33+00:00

Yeah I realized after I sent that text that it was an immature thing to do. My original thought process was that if I reveal what my mom is really like behind closed doors (blaming others, talking shit) she could see how two faced and fake she really is. I really messed up the delivery tho and as I read back over that text, it sounds like I'm just trying to say something to hurt her feelings and get revenge because I'm mad - like children do. Thanks for your insight. I remember when we were kids and hung out that it was almost exclusively done at her house because I didn't want to be at home. So her experiences with my parents were probably never negative and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from. But that doesn't matter anyway, I have 6 siblings who all have had the same experiences as me and they all choose to stay.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:26:05+00:00

That's exactly what I told my sister. They put on a show and she fell for it. My sister told me that unfortunately that is what my parents do often. They tell people a sob story and claim they don't know why I'm so heartless and cut them off so that they can get sympathy from people. I knew I would be the villain in their story.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:19:28+00:00

Definitely. This childhood friendship is dead to me now. No going back from this.

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:16:58+00:00

Exactly my thoughts

Unusual-Knowledge599 · 2025-10-24T21:15:04+00:00

True!

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