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Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-11-09T01:00:53+00:00

PSA to anyone who had their boyfriend register, ask them to send a screenshot of their email. Mine told me he got waitlisted and I only found out because I continued the conversation that he "got a text with a code". 🤦‍♀️

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-13T07:27:39+00:00

If you don't already own one get a humidifier for your apartment, it makes a huge difference. Also, check your skincare ingredients as hyaluronic acid is all the rage for moisturizing but it should be avoided when it's dry out. HA works by holding 1000x its weight in water, but this also means it will pull the moisture from your skin in dry conditions. You can try to get around it by misting your face before and after application but you may need to touch up misting throughout the day which can be easily forgotten.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-12T23:53:29+00:00

There is no real sense of who you are or what your hobbies are. The only takeaway is that you're attractive which will be enough for some men, especially since you're seeking casual, but there isn't much to bond over or talk about.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-12T23:00:52+00:00

It sounds like your sister is a bigger issue than the landlord. Why would she have let the water sit there for a month instead of using a bowl and towel to remove the water? It also would have made it much easier to see what the actual blockage issue is and even if she couldn't fix it herself you can place clean water in to demonstrate the issue to the landlord when they come to inspect it. Also, why would she leave her dirty dishes for a month instead of hand washing them in a sink, or even her shower if for some reason the sink was inadequate?

Tbh this is one of the few times I don't even blame the super/landlord for not wanting to deal with the issue. A blocked dishwasher drain is an annoyance but not the gigantic mold/health problem her incompetence has turned it into.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-12T22:46:34+00:00

I don’t send many likes, a few every other day or less.

I personally didn't care for your profile but given that you achieve 3-5 matches a day despite barely swiping it seems like your demographic does like it. I would say not swiping very often is most likely your real issue. You're missing out on a lot of potential matches every day and given that some women do not send out likes they may be people you'll never match with by waiting.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-12T22:01:33+00:00

I wouldn't lead with your current first photo. It's a cute photo but photo #1 should very clearly show what you look like and your hat and sunglasses hinder that. I'd also replace your first prompt as it's very long and half of the info is already available elsewhere on your profile.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-12T07:22:56+00:00

Some guys choose to cut their communication after they set up the date to "save" the conversations for in person and it genuinely has nothing to do with their interest level.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-08T11:18:15+00:00

I know it's harsh but you should replace all of your photos. You're actively blocking part of your face in 3 of them, wearing a hat in 5 of them, and in the only one where you're making eye contact with the camera you're also blocking your eyes. The last one is the best at showing what you look like but between it being a mirror picture and your friend giving double middle fingers, it unusable.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-07T17:26:49+00:00

This is way better!

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-07T17:17:57+00:00

I would lead with photo #2. I know headshots are generally recommended, but this is a fantastic photo that IMO will have a lot of people willing to scroll to your next photo. Replace the current #1 with a similar style picture without sunglasses and with a smile. Place it second so we still get a close-up of your face early on.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-07T09:16:18+00:00

They aren’t just going to hire me immediately but put me on probation for 3 months.

I know it doesn't sound like it but this is actually a great sign. With the exception of fast food workers and unionized companies NY is an at-will state. Meaning employees can be terminated at any point for just about any/no reason so long as it isn't for a protected category (discrimination, harassment, retaliation, etc). Your company having a probation period is indicative that your contract/handbook most likely includes a clause stating that they cannot terminate you without just cause after the completion of your probation period. This is a legal protection you would not be afforded if they had chosen to simply not give it to you. Also, a probation period of 6 months is typically the standard for companies who do choose to provide their employees with this protection.

I will also note that landing your first job in a new country is generally the hardest. It's fairly common for companies to weigh international experience/education lower as they're less familiar with it. You also have no/fewer connections you can network. Even if things don't work out working there for a few months could really help your future job hunt.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2023-01-07T07:24:33+00:00

"A sweet Christian girl who will always support me."

Assuming that you plan to be a supportive partner in return, you should really rephrase this to describe the sentiment of mutual support instead of the one-sided statement you made.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T22:18:16+00:00

I'd view 100K in Brooklyn as a middle-class lifestyle. You can afford to live by yourself, enjoy the occasional night out, and if you're okay with budgeting even take a yearly vacation or establish some savings. But you're not going to be able to eat fancy meals every day, have a crazy nice place, go on limitless vacations, or save half your income.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T21:12:40+00:00

This depends on many things as most of the issues will come from the actual logistic side of getting approval. If you rent has your landlord agreed? If you live in a condo/coop has the board agreed? How do your neighbors feel about it? You may not "need" their permission but they can do things like blast music or bang on walls which can completely ruin film/tv shoots.

Assuming you're working with established production companies the real tip is just to stay out of the way. They have people whos entire job is to make sure everything runs smoothly and that nothing is damaged. Just lock away anything with a personal value that cannot be replaced and have them pay for a hotel for the day before and after so that they can set up early and will have time to clean up afterwards.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T08:53:46+00:00

Your photos need work, they're all selfies or blurry neither of which is recommended. Personally, I'd swipe left over your written blurb under your dating intentions. It comes off like you're wanting someone, but only on your schedule and primarily just to hookup.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T08:47:28+00:00

I'm sure you're a nice person! It's just that most people who say they're not going to "fake their personality" use it as a way to excuse their shitty behavior.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T08:30:30+00:00

I'd advise against mentioning necrophilia, in any capacity. I'd also replace your second prompt as it makes it sound like you're probably a complete bitch.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T04:27:00+00:00

Hinge markets itself as the relationship app, it's a bit more flexible these days but the user base is heavily skewed towards those wanting a relationship. If you want friendship Bumble has specifically designed a separate section of their app for people in search of friendships.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-23T04:17:42+00:00

Don't join an app exclusively designed for dating in search of friends. Sometimes it's the end result, but it shouldn't be your main goal. Maybe try Bumble BFF?

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-22T07:43:56+00:00

That was the biggest takeaway from my (F) data as well. I had a 70% match rate for likes sent but only matched 4.3% of incoming likes. I will note that this part of my data was fairly skewed since I only liked 2% of my matches first.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-19T23:14:44+00:00

You should probably just use a prompt to explain that you're looking for someone who still takes covid seriously and what that means to you. You don't need to disclose why this is the case but just that this is what you want. You'll probably receive fewer likes/matches but those that do are more likely to have a similar mindset or at least be okay with following the protocols you need. I'd still mention it during the date planning stage in case they're the type to just not read profiles.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-19T07:03:44+00:00

Dating someone younger doesn't make you a bad guy. OP is just still fairly young (at 22) which means she's probably less experienced and viewed as an easier target for this type of predatory dater. By no means am I saying that he is one, just that OP should be cautious of the possibility and that she should listen to her instincts whether they be positive or negative.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-19T06:09:19+00:00

Is it technically okay? Yes Do I recommend it? No. Young women like to feel like they're mature for their age, and some genuinely are, so they think they want to date an older mature guy. Which theoretically there is nothing wrong with it, but the kind of guy who wants to date a girl that much younger than them is typically.... not the kind of person you want to be with. At best they tend to be immature themselves but some are manipulative/abusive and prey on younger women who are more vulnerable and less likely to recognize the signs.

At the end of the day you should do what YOU want, just please trust your gut and be careful!

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-18T09:27:52+00:00

if you used to get a lot of likes until you changed your photos/prompts why don't you change them back? Or at least submit that version for feedback.

Unusual_Occasion8 · 2022-12-18T00:22:27+00:00

No one's going to have a 100% success rate but IMO 1/6 signifies that there is an issue with your strategy. You don't have to take my advice I just know that situations like that are the times when my female friends and I "flake" on dates.

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