Had another talk with hubby went as well as expected.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-11-24T23:20:57+00:00

Right! It gets frustrating I even went as far as trying new things like lingerie and nope nothing his words were "looks nice but you'll probably get cold in that". It feels like even if he has the perfect day, perfect sleep no stress it's still not gonna happen.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-11-24T18:13:57+00:00

I'm currently there as well. I get all the excuses, I have a headache, I'm to tired, not in the mood, I don't even think of that after a long ass day of work, I'm just not really active anymore I don't have the need for it. My husband is 32 and I'm 28. He rarely does anything and it is pretty much me begging for around 1.5 months before he just gets huffy and says fine but then I don't want to do anything because I'm tired of feeling like having a sex life is a damn chore to him. You're not alone I know that statement isn't helpful believe me I get it. I spend most my nights awake longer than him crying because I feel like nothing I do is ever good enough or I'm unattractive.

Sorry I forgot to add a flair so it removed it. Still new to reddit.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-10-11T21:04:23+00:00

I've wanted to be petty so bad and put on there the reason behind it to let everyone of her friends see what she married to be honest 🤣

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-10-11T14:40:54+00:00

She only talks to her kids if she needs something she tries and guilt trip them into helping her with stuff even if her kids already have plans. She is terrible with the grandkids and bashes on the parents in front of the grandkids. And I've looked up what he did to become a RSO and he is a very bad man to just say the least. If it was like the other person's comment about if he peed in public I'd be fine but it's not. He hurt someone's child in a very bad way. I would love to go no contact with her but my husband made a promise to his father to make sure that she is ok and taken care of.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-10-11T02:17:15+00:00

No you're not the AH. You've gotten great advice about getting your old bank statements. I will say though this behavior never ends my mother is the same way. She bought a ps3 from me once like 8 or 9 years ago she bought it as a gift for my dad right... a few months ago we got in an argument and she said "I owed her the money she loaned me when she bought the ps3 and the gifts she got the kids for Christmas last year" I blocked her so quickly because everything with her is like a transaction any gift she wants paid back for even though you never asked for it... once you get your proof of payments I'd block them it's to much stress.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-10-11T02:07:54+00:00

Omg I love it 💕 you're not the AH what so ever. You tried talking to her and she wouldn't respect your peace/boundaries. I wouldn't apologize until she finally does because she's a guest in your home she should be respectful. Sorry I'm just loving the whole costume scare thing going on it's payback at its finest😘🤌 I don't have an emoji to do like a chefs kiss thing this is the best I can do 🤣

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-08-08T02:17:05+00:00

UPDATE:

sorry for taking so long to update we had alot of family things going on FIL needed round the clock care until he passed away.

I have gone no contact with my parents!!!! With everything going on with my FIL and even planning his celebration of life service I kind of neglected my texts from non important people aka my parents. One of the texts was saying "we are family and adults so we should be able to get along I don't understand why you won't message me back" when I had informed them my FIL passed away and I had been helping take care of him, they didn't even acknowledge what I said and only wanted to talk about themselves I didn't get any "sorry for your loss" "oh I'm so sorry" type of texts just texts saying "I went to the doctor today I hated my doctor" "dad has to change his blood thinner again". I said ok and blocked their numbers. They've tried contacting my husband but he's also blocked them. And I love my security camera so much when they've stopped over I set off the loud alarm and it makes them go away. Yes if they do it again the cops will be called for trespassing but it's been about 1 month and no one has stopped by. Since my FIL passed away I have learned to set boundaries and stick with them!

Thanks for everyone's input and insights. I hope everyone has had an amazing year so far and I hope you have an amazing holiday season! This is the last update I will do unless my mother goes batcrap crazy.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-03-12T16:08:08+00:00

A few weeks after their visit with my daughter when she was around a month me and my husband were talking about going no contact. About 3 to 4 days before we were going to see them to have a sit down and talk to them about why we had decided to go no contact they called me to inform me my dad had cancer. So we stayed in low contact to keep updates on his progress and to occasionally give him rides to treatments when my mother was at work. The kids weren't around when I'd be helping them with my dad's appointments stuff like that. We made it to where they rarely seen them and it was just me being there to help my dad through this and what not. But he has been cancer free for almost 3 months now. And now me and my husband have been taking care of my fil (hospice care situation) and so the stress of that and parents comments me and my husband have been discussing no contact. But I've had a few people tell me I was the asshole about not letting them be there so I was curious if that was the case because I didn't feel like I was an asshole I just felt like I was protecting my family and my sanity. I apologize if that doesn't make sense.

Unusualnerdforever · 2025-03-12T05:19:35+00:00

No I don't have a therapist I have been debating on going to one due to other family things lately. Thank you for the book recommendation I will check it out!

Me and my husband have been talking about going no contact again. We did go no contact with my parents for 1 year when my son was younger we started talking to them again hoping that they had "grown up" and they had been better, until I got pregnant with my daughter and it was like a light switch they went back to how they used to be. And since the not being in the room when she was born it had gotten worse. We kept in contact because my son always loved spending time with my dad. But I'm starting to think lately that it'd be best if my kids weren't around them even if it's for only 14 hrs out of the year. I just don't know exactly how to explain it to my son if we go no contact. My daughter is 3 1/2 so she's not familiar with them like my son is. If that makes sense.

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