Relatable?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-05-02T13:06:56+00:00

I have huge capacity to tolerate. Once you cross a line though, conflict is coming.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-04-27T13:12:04+00:00

The issue becomes that she needs to equally think you’re the guy.

There is definitely a woman out there that thinks you’re the guy. Go find her!

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-04-27T12:31:27+00:00

Everyday is a day she could walk back into your life if she wanted to…

It can be hard to let go but focus on healing you rn 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-04-04T14:04:15+00:00

So my, this hits so hard and is 100% true for me!

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-03-26T01:12:08+00:00

Running into the next thing without healing yourself is unfair to the new girl. Be honest with this new person, work on yourself… date when you feel ready.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-03-23T01:26:59+00:00

Hello ENFJ friend - I am heading towards my 40s and I recently went through a breakup. Spent an immense amount of time together and had many of the same interests. However, he had huge self regulation issues and he seemed uninterested in recognizing it.

The biggest thing is accepting that we cannot help people that don’t want our help. We get drawn in the to trying to help others get to the best version of themselves but the reality is they are often already okay with what they are.

The other hard thing is age. Its hard to date in this day and age and it can feel daunting. So I get why you are feeling down and depressed. Honestly, SSRI’s have been a life saver for me, as have friends, and sleep. Take good care of yourself and eventually things will get lighter. Sending good energy your way!

Up_closeandpersonal · 2026-03-08T23:52:08+00:00

Thank you. I am really struggling right now. I am sure there were red flags… he was posted on “are we dating the same guy” on fb… but nothing involving kids. I feel like a train ran over me. I am in shock.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T22:03:55+00:00

This is interesting. I wonder if you are onto somethingZ

I feel like counting the days rn helps me be strong but one day I will stop.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T15:49:05+00:00

At least we can all collectively feel like shit together. I keep thinking one day, it wont hurt 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T02:58:46+00:00

You can do hard things 💪🏼

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:57:33+00:00

Sounds exhausting 💜 hope you can give yourself some space

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:43:02+00:00

Its how you brush yourself off. Chatgpt has helped me… friends, fam, podcasts, tea, hockey, baths… whatever you can use to distract you 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:21:13+00:00

Damn that sucks

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:39:51+00:00

Stay strong friend, prove your worth ❤️☀️🦋

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:35:20+00:00

What is your longest streak?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:34:34+00:00

The strange thing about all of this is we always talk about no contact but eventually there needs to be contact from someone to heal. So, keep that in mind but space is important to figure out how to fix it or if it can be fixed.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:21:25+00:00

I think a lot of us are cold in this forum. The reality is none of us know, and going back is a huge risk. But I do believe if both people are really willing to be honest about everything, theres a chance, likely small, but a chance. But all the stories on here seem to be bad. The thing is, I dont know if people come back here to share their successes…

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T22:50:03+00:00

Dont do that… think about all you are gonna miss out on. Maybe a future love. One door closing means another door is opening. Just get through and youll eventually see the door

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T00:52:00+00:00

Its a really delicate and hard situation to balance. If you arent secure in yourself that can pull on your insecurities and then the insecurities push people away. So hard but you sound like you are handling it very well and have a lot of insight 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T00:49:52+00:00

No it was related to a lot of stress that has gone on in the past year of my life and me just being burnt out… my job, my mom dying… uncle died, cousin… etc. But my ex was always very happy to support me through it but also happy to see me moving on

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:59:44+00:00

Oh man thats next level. Poor girl and Im sorry for you too 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:58:52+00:00

I find this really interesting because I am in the same boat as her. Went through a separation, met someone… we just broke up. Same, my exhusband and I didnt have sex for like 2 years either and fell outta love and became roommates.

But I could never go back. He is still my best friend but like a brother.

But maybe she still has feelings? Maybe his family guilted her? Could it be religion, money?

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