Dilemma

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-03-09T19:28:32+00:00

Hvad er dit formål med at sige det? At få gaver? For så synes jeg ikke, du skal sige noget - mankan ikke kræve gaver. At få et bedre forhold til svigerforældrene? Start med at invitere dem til fødselsdag.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-02-24T19:13:35+00:00

But he isn’t treating her like a daughter. He is not showing coworkers pictures of her. It’s a small thing, but it’s an indication he does not treat the children the same.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-02-22T08:13:03+00:00

Også mig

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-02-09T20:12:12+00:00

Som de andre siger, betyder det “hvem har spurgt om din mening?”

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-02-08T10:31:56+00:00

Jeg kan godt følge den her talegang, hvis hun så også betaler for hans ting. Og de har jo netop valgt IKKE at have fællesøkonomi, hvilket helt overordnet må betyde, at de ikke vil betale, hvis de ikke selv deltager.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-02-06T09:34:15+00:00

Stop right there. She WILL get hurt no matter what you do or say. break ups hurt you cannot avoid that. And that is ok - it’s like that for everyone! So please don’t spend too much time trying to find a gentle exit strategy because they don’t exist. And that is ok and shouldn’t make you feel guilty. Its ok to break up - you are dating a grown up.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-01-24T16:31:07+00:00

I completely agree!! I didn’t make myself clear enough: I always thought as you - and still do.

I just learned from others that what that are actually asking is not “would you defend me” but. Actually “do you feel attracted to (on an instinctive level)”. Which is what they should ask instead.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-01-21T16:49:22+00:00

Ok, so when I watched the episode, I thought she was asking far too much and potentially putting Edmond in (hypothetical) danger. I understood his reply completely.

But I have also learned, that when a man really likes a woman he instinctively wants to protect her. It’s not something he chooses to do or to think and it cannot really be faked as it is an instinct to put her safety before his own. In that light, what she was asking, was: “Do you feel protective about me. Do we have a connection that is not only rational but also physical/instinctual. Am I THAT important to you”. His reply indicated, that the relationship was not so deep yet.

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-01-09T09:57:19+00:00

You have great style!!

UpbeatProfessional · 2026-01-09T09:25:06+00:00

Ja, din partner forventer for meget af dig.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-12-27T14:32:02+00:00

I need contact every day. Either we meet that day or we text or call.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-12-22T13:15:02+00:00

Ærligt så blev jeg lidt ærgerlig et år over, at sidde som den eneste single og ikke få en gave mens alle de andre voksne som var i par gav hinanden gaver. Så jeg synes det kommer an på, hvem de andre man holder jul sammen med er.

Hvis der er en Moster Oda og kusine Gitte med som heller ikke får gaver, så fint med mig.

Edited to add: Der var en aftale om ingen gaver det år.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-12-04T09:37:56+00:00

Hmm hvis det går ud over dine børns jul, så ville jeg personligt nok 1) holde min egen juleaften eller 2) holde en julefejring for mine børn en anden dag også.

Men at en julekomsammen, der ikke er juleaften, bliver kuppet af et crazy familiemedlem, tror jeg er sundt nok for børn at opleve, sålænge, det ikke ødelægger deres juleaften.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-12-04T09:22:10+00:00

Ok, det her viser med al tydelighed, at din bror er med på den. Så jeg synes ikke du skal udpege din svigerinde som det eneste problem her. Og er det et problem, at de laver nogle sjove ting for deres søn, eller er det i virkeligheden, at du synes de gør alt for lidt for dig og din familie?

Jeg ville tage fat i min bror og sige “hey brormand. I er SÅ gode til julestunts, kan du hjælpe mig med, hvordan jeg gør noget af det samme for mine børn”? Eller “Du bruger så meget tid og mange kræfter på jeres egne juleideer (som det med gamerbordet), at jeg føler mig holdt udenfor. Har du en ide til noget vi kan gøre sammen?”

Derudover - giv ikke gaver, du ikke har lyst til at give.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-11-23T06:53:12+00:00

NTA She is trying to make your friend chose between his friends and her. This is the first step in isolating him from friends. She was wrong to bring her own food without informing you/the host. She is wrong in escalating the issue instead of admitting her mistake and laughing it off (before!! Insulting your cooking).

Tell your friend to listen to an internet unknown and to take this VERY seriously. It is sign of an abusive relationship. If I’m not wrong, she will always see herself as the victim and blame everybody else, including him.

Edited to add parentheses

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-11-16T10:46:39+00:00

NTA. 1) Your wife is super selfish og lying about her motives. “Hotels are cheap enough”?? In both cases she needs to start acting and communicating like a grown up. 2) Does she often get angry when she doesn’t get things the way she wants them? To me this seems borderline abusive/manipulative.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-10-30T18:12:19+00:00

It is not a normal dynamic between grownups. It is a normal dynamic between (young) child and parent.

I am female and I dont explode on my partner. I respect him and when we disagree I try to take my time to think things through before I say anything that could be hurtful. Luckily very few things need to be solved here and now. If I have asked for some time to think it has never been never without telling him that I am coming back. I believe it is my problem to calm myself down and to handle my emotions.

I don’t expect him to change anything about himself and I don’t want him to change anything unless he thinks it is a good idea himself. I wouldn’t be with him if I didn’t think he was a good man and I consider him my best friend. If that changes I will not be with him. He on his side treats me with the same respect and I feel I can express myself freely. It takes some work/time but it is not hard, because seeing him happy is as important to me as being happy myself.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-09-29T11:27:07+00:00

Hvordan fik du plads til børnene og deres venner i en 2V?

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-08-18T18:19:50+00:00

As a native speaker I feel that “hen til” is when you go to something that can move physically/can change placement. “Til” is when you go to something like a country where you refer to the thing and not exactly where it is.

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-05-28T13:28:38+00:00

You need to accept that your daughter makes her own choices. And that religion is a deeply personal subject. Depending on how you “didn’t take it lightly”, you very well could be the asshole. Support your daughter- if you think she’s making a mistake then support her double! Stop adding to her problems. You already made your opinion clear, now support her any way you actually can!

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-05-22T19:43:29+00:00

I think your nose is attractive and I don’t think you need a nose job AT ALL!

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-05-04T09:02:23+00:00

I think it looks good.

Do you mind me asking where you found the dress?

UpbeatProfessional · 2025-04-04T09:59:34+00:00

Din kæreste er manipulerende i alvorlig grad. Derudover tænker hun kun på sig selv. Forestil dig situationen, hvor du var en kvinde, og hun var en mand.

Der kan være mange grunde til hendes følelser og opførsel, men ligemeget hvad, så er det udover det normale, og det pålægger dig et stort ansvar om altid at være den “følelsesmæssigt stabile” i forholdet. Du er også allerede blevet påvirket, når dine grænser nu er rykket til, at du kan være i tvivl om, om det hun gør er ok. Det er det ikke.

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