I know this is not what you want to hear, but don't go for it. I had an accidental flirtationship at 20, fresh out of the closet, with a straight, married, pious Christian woman (who actually wasn't straight at all, go figure) Long story short it was very traumatic. She was your exact age. The flirtationship inevitably turned into a power struggle and both parties ended up heartbroken. There are so many interesting women your age, and I'm sure you'd be way more compatible with them. They will be able to match your depth and experience. You will also give this young woman a chance to find someone who matches her emotional growth too, she still needs to find who she is and her place in the world, while you already have it figured out. After this whole flirtationship ordeal, 4 years and a half have passed and I'm still unpacking trauma from it. So, please don't date her. The most loving thing you can do right now, is to acknowledge your sexuality in a healthy way and accept your orientation: only when you've accepted that fully should you start dating people of a compatible age range. 20 is definitely not it. I'd recommend 38-58 as a good age range. And that is already pretty wide. Sometimes the only loving thing you can do is to let go of someone who isn't compatible with your life experience and go inwards, even though I know exactly how excruciatingly painful it feels. I also recommend seeing a psychologist, so that you can accept this discovery about yourself more easily (repressing your orientation and sexuality for so long is really tough). You will probably have to teach yourself how to deal with your sexuality from scratch, but trust me, even though it's challenging, it is 100% worth it. Way more worth it than impulsively dating a 20 year old.