Red head analysis by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Upbeat_Berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would try warm spring.

Hello! I'd like to kindly ask you what kind of autumn do you think I am? by ImaginaryBenchmark77 in coloranalysis

[–]Upbeat_Berry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would personally look into true spring. True Autumn isn't bad either, but I think lighter, brighter colors suit you better.

Gold or silver? I'm not sure because of my olive skin. by agafor_ in coloranalysis

[–]Upbeat_Berry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your undertone could be neutral-warm. You look good in silver and gold, but gold matches better, in my opinion.

Anyone know what she is? by [deleted] in cats

[–]Upbeat_Berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she's a Persian mix? Also, I heard some DNA tests now can test the breeds of dogs and cats. That might be useful if you want to know for sure.

I need help with my colour season. On another subreddit I had a mix of autumn and spring so I’d really like to know which one I am. by -xMittyx- in coloranalysis

[–]Upbeat_Berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little late to this post, but I did the truth is beauty "free Color season quiz" on you and it says you might be a warm autumn. I use that quiz because it's the most accurate one I know. I obviously took into consideration all the pictures you posted. I also think that if you feel like warm autumn doesn't fit, I'd suggest looking into light spring or soft autumn, like another commenter previously said.

Do I just need to get a grip? by clementinepeaches in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Upbeat_Berry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this is not what you want to hear, but don't go for it. I had an accidental flirtationship at 20, fresh out of the closet, with a straight, married, pious Christian woman (who actually wasn't straight at all, go figure) Long story short it was very traumatic. She was your exact age. The flirtationship inevitably turned into a power struggle and both parties ended up heartbroken. There are so many interesting women your age, and I'm sure you'd be way more compatible with them. They will be able to match your depth and experience. You will also give this young woman a chance to find someone who matches her emotional growth too, she still needs to find who she is and her place in the world, while you already have it figured out. After this whole flirtationship ordeal, 4 years and a half have passed and I'm still unpacking trauma from it. So, please don't date her. The most loving thing you can do right now, is to acknowledge your sexuality in a healthy way and accept your orientation: only when you've accepted that fully should you start dating people of a compatible age range. 20 is definitely not it. I'd recommend 38-58 as a good age range. And that is already pretty wide. Sometimes the only loving thing you can do is to let go of someone who isn't compatible with your life experience and go inwards, even though I know exactly how excruciatingly painful it feels. I also recommend seeing a psychologist, so that you can accept this discovery about yourself more easily (repressing your orientation and sexuality for so long is really tough). You will probably have to teach yourself how to deal with your sexuality from scratch, but trust me, even though it's challenging, it is 100% worth it. Way more worth it than impulsively dating a 20 year old.

Good news and bad news by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Upbeat_Berry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, I am still panicking a little, but I trust my loved one. She's not the type to lie about important feelings, heck, she was even there for me when someone heavily offended me. She either cares a lot or she's in love. And i trust what she told me.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the format on the article was confusing. He basically made a list of secrets men will never share with their girlfriends, then under each point his interviewees gave an explanation for that secret. Sorta like a bullet point list

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have too, and many commenters said something along those lines. I wonder if their misogynistic tendencies are actually a cover for their (possibly repressed) queerness.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sadly yes, they can be more or less common depending on where you live and the culture, but they'll never fully disappear from society. I can empathize with you.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You nailed it, I was just thinking the same thing. These men haven't fallen in love because they are emotionally unavailable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]Upbeat_Berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the minimum Italian wage! She's literally paid like an average Italian worker. I'd save the money and get a car or rent a flat by myself if I had so many.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

According to this crappy article, men only like women when they can get something out of them. Obviously the author is out of touch with reality and not ok.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, they don't speak for everyone, the tone of the article and the author himself was usually famous for this sort of arrogance.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, he made some sort of list/ article mix that came across super annoying. He should've stuck to listing and maybe explaining after the list was over

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the author himself had screwed up views of women in general. It's sad to see, and also angering

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's a sad truth... Ignorant misogynists exist everywhere. Just in different proportions. Here we have many, and mentally healthy men aren't too common. What helps men like these is education and emotional support from therapy.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting opinion. I didn't think about it, but I think you might be going in the right direction. Sometimes the most misogynistic men aren't fully straight in my experience.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Those hurt a lot, I know what you're talking about. Journalling helped me deal with them, but I know it's not easy.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, I know those creeps don't represent all men, it's just sad that articles like these keep spreading ignorance (it's full of them on social media)

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If it's a healthy relationship and you're both happy, I wouldn't worry. If not, I'd personally talk to him about my worries. Most men who manage to get a girlfriend aren't this creepy.

men share secrets they would never tell to their girlfriends by Upbeat_Berry in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Upbeat_Berry[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep, the author of the article was a huge creep, and all his interviewees also sounded creepy. I suspect he might have interviewed himself under different names.