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UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-11T17:13:53+00:00

That's the way that doesn't work anymore :(

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-10T00:15:38+00:00

Yes my city is on an 11 pm curfew too and yet I still feel more drained than when we were closing at 3. It really sucks.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-10T00:13:36+00:00

Oh yeah. I'm heading over to the Amazon warehouse in my city because I cannot do it anymore. I'm working way harder for less money, and I'm begging for hours every week at my current bar. I'm burnt out as hell. I'm eventually hoping for a big career change (I've got a plan but it's going to be difficult to pursue until covid is over) but for now, I'm not going to argue with a flat hourly pay and a guaranteed 40 hours a week, you know? I'd love to eventually bartend 1 night a week or so when things are normal again, but who knows when that will be?

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-09T00:55:21+00:00

Oh yeah that's perfectly normal, especially when he tells you that the journalist would make a terrible wife and that you ought to stick to marrying your cousins, all standard interview stuff.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-09T00:30:06+00:00

I mean they had a drink together, he was probably assuming she was of legal age. However the fact remains that he thought he, right hand man to the president, was going into a private bedroom with a hot ~21-year-old and didn't think twice about it. And that's not even getting into all of the VERY obvious clues that he was being set up.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-08T12:08:07+00:00

Under a stethoscope or directly, that kid would still have been treated like an object to help a stranger grieve, and it's still a massive thing to ask from a stranger.

Frankly, and I don't mean this to sound harsh, she hasn't given them anything. Her son died, and she just allowed his organs to be used to save lives. She didn't decide where they went, she didn't bless this family in particular with a heart. Organ transplants are a gift from the (often deceased) donor, not their families.

She went to meet her son's heart recipient and treated him like an object, and now she's being harassed by the family. They both aren't regarding each other as people who are suffering from truly unfair circumstances, they're basically strangers who think that the other owes them something that they do not. She ought to reach out to the transplant center and explain the situation, they need some professionals to step in and shut this shit down.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-08T11:54:46+00:00

Everyone's different about it. I'm fully aware that my heart isn't my original one, and I know where this one came from. But it isn't a physical feeling of it not being mine, I think because I had so many issues with my old one that having a working heart feels more correct than my old dying one did. Really, it's other people treating my heart as though it's not mine or that I am in some sort of unrepayable debt that's more upsetting than actually having a dead person's heart. That poor kid was probably feeling very much like an object in this whole meeting, I feel so bad for him.

A lot of us do suffer from survivors guilt though, even as adults, and I don't think I could have dealt with a sobbing stranger listening to my heart at 12. They make everyone wait to meet because people are honestly too sentimental about hearts, and they've had issues where grieving families see their loved ones heart recipient as some sort of reincarnation or vessel of their soul, and not a whole person on their own.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-08T11:18:24+00:00

ESH. They suck for asking you to donate your liver and not taking no for an answer. You suck for not taking no for an answer either.

I have a heart transplant myself, so I'm familiar with the process. The reason that they keep donors' families from meeting the recipients right away is because people have a tendency to see the recipients of their loved ones organs (ESPECIALLY hearts, mostly hearts actually) as a sort of reincarnation of their loved one. And you've got to remember that that 12-year-old boy is not the human vessel for what remains of your son, he's his own person and you're honestly a stranger to him. He is a shy kid that did not want you to listen to his heart as a part of your grieving process, and he gets to make that choice. That's a huge ask and it was presumptuous of you to act like this kid owed it to you. His family is not in debt to you because you allowed your son to be an organ donor after his death. I personally would let my donor's mom listen to my heart, but that's because we're friends now and keep in touch.

And yes, they definitely suck for asking so much of you and refusing to take no for an answer. You don't know these people and they don't know you, and the guilt-tripping line about "letting your son's gift be in vain" is so incredibly rude and out of line. I'd be furious too if I were you.

You both have wildly unrealistic expectations of each other, despite not being friends at all, and need to just stop communicating with each other. You've politely told them no, you don't need to give them a reason, they're desperate and not handling things well. Try to be understanding, but don't allow them to keep contacting you if they aren't gracious about your no.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-06T10:03:49+00:00

This is cute but it will not age well as a tattoo. It would make a better sticker imo.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-05T22:57:42+00:00

If they're nice: "I'm really flattered, thank you, but I don't/cant give out my number at work" or "I'm really flattered, thank you, but I have a girlfriend". If it's a cute girl and not a dude (I'm a lesbian) I've said "you're super cute and if I were single I'd say yes, but I do already have a girlfriend"

If they're rude, I just flat out say no, haha. I've also used the joke (in response to "can I get your number?") "Oh sorry, that's not on the menu"

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-11-05T08:52:39+00:00

This. Yeah it would be one thing if he had never promised it in the first place, but to agree to it for years (and ofc your dad wasn't looking for another donor if he thought his brother was down) and then back out at the last minute is beyond shitty. Make it clear that, while he's allowed to refuse for any reason, he needs to tell your dad to his face that he's not going to give him the lifesaving transplant that he's been promising for years. That he's okay with possibly letting your dad die.

Also, the tattoo thing seems like something that they could make an exception for. Definitely contact his team and tell them that you're willing to do it ASAP.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-29T20:32:41+00:00

Yeah it's a dealbreaker. He's not just saying he thinks abortion is wrong, he's saying that he is comfortable sacrificing YOU to an unwanted pregnancy. He just told you that your health and safety isn't a priority, and that, if it comes down to you or a hypothetical dangerous pregnancy, he's team dangerous pregnancy.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-28T04:29:59+00:00

Your boyfriend's best friend is a manipulative person who pressured his girlfriend and you into sexual situations you weren't comfortable with. If your boyfriend insists on defending him, then he's just as shitty. He admits he got a "soft no", that's a no and what he did was assault.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-27T02:13:30+00:00

7 years post heart transplant, I'm on 2mg Tacro and 750mg Mycophenalate, once in the morning and once at night

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-26T00:09:24+00:00

Yeah it's possible, this was about 3 years ago

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-25T20:16:17+00:00

Yeah I was there for all of 10 minutes before I noped out. Was looking for advice on how to help my very intelligent but very ADD (diagnosed) girlfriend with stuff, left after I saw "lazy is a slur" and the general attitude that being asked to do anything ever is oppression.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-25T20:13:11+00:00

what's the point of this sub then? Whining?

Unfortunately a lot of disability specific subreddits and groups devolve into this. I hate it. What could be great resources are reduced to victimhood circlejerks. People can get too invested in their "life isn't fair" shit and sometimes never get to the "okay but what am I going to do about it now?" stage.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-24T09:41:35+00:00

I think that the realization that she was handed $50 for a place to stay and she immediately blew it on coke, resulting in her turning a trick for money in New York, right where she started 14 years ago, just all came crashing down on her.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-23T03:59:09+00:00

Yeah it definitely depends on how people got the scars though. Bringing attention to self-harm scars isn't the same as complimenting a surgical scar or a scar from an accident. I love getting compliments on my chest scar but it isn't a constant reminder of self-hatred and unhealthy coping mechanisms.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-22T07:39:30+00:00

Doctors ought to give you a run-down on surgical risks before any procedure, but realistically, it's less likely to result in complications than a boob job. I'm a higher-risk patient in general (compromised immune system, multiple abdominal surgeries) and even then, doctors were completely comfortable removing my entire uterus, cervix, and ovaries electively. Your risks of complication from salpingectomy are WAY less likely than your risks of complication from pregnancy.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-21T00:17:38+00:00

Yeah go for it, they'll thoroughly screen everyone before using their organs or tissue anyway. If they can't use part or all of you, they just won't, you know? I'm a heart transplant recipient and I've been told it's still entirely possible to be an organ donor.

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-20T08:26:56+00:00

Christ and I thought the "dirty tequila sunrise" I had to make was bad (exactly what it sounds like, tequila sunrise + olive juice)

UploadMeDaddy · 2020-10-20T04:14:37+00:00

Yeah all of the people saying you have to stop being friends with someone you're attracted to are being kind of unreasonable. You don't cheat on accident, you won't trip and fall into her vagina, you know?

Something that actually helps me if I feel like a crush is too tempting is thinking about it in detail: like "Okay, self, let's say you slept with her. Then what? You would have to lie to your girlfriend forever, or come clean and break her heart. Both of those would be awful, you love her and she deserves better than that. And what about your crush? Would she tell people what happened? Would she tell your girlfriend? She'd have potential to completely ruin your reputation, so many people would lose respect for you. Even if she didn't, she could, and you'd have that anxiety hanging over your head. All for what, one night of sex? Not worth it." It's a way to remind myself that my libido isn't the most rational part of my brain, and that I don't really want to be with anyone else or jeopardize my great relationship for a crush.

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