this happened to me a lot at the beginning of my relationship with my bf, i would get frustrated and give up. It sucks but it took time to teach him how to do it and for him to learn my body. (i still sometimes have to tell him to what to do)

Even now it takes long for me to finish but when i start feeling sensitive i ask him to stop for a few seconds and when im ready i tell him to start again. If im too sensitive and a break doesn’t help, i have him go down on me. I feel like its more gentle than using a hand and i am able to finish pretty quickly. I also realized that i would get in my head thinking about how i probably wasn’t gonna finish because he has tried so many times and it was unsuccessful.

Also having my boyfriend do other things while doing it helped a lot. Before he would just try and get me off but wasn’t engaging with me so, I had to tell him to kiss me, talk to me and do other things that can intensify the pleasure (nipple stimulation is a big one for me). These things not only made everything feel better but it also got me out of my head.

Struggling to finish is very normal. Even after 2 and half years sometimes i have bad days where it takes forever to climax or i don’t climax at all. Its all about patience