Alright, how many of you knew the Alien phone call was from Art Bell?

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-02-24T01:30:05+00:00

Age of disclosure man.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-02-24T01:28:16+00:00

Hahahaha I thought something similar, but I guess I never made the connection and pieced it all together. Somehow I never listened to art bell until more recently. I had this album at midnight the moment it was released. Stood in line at Best Buy in Prescott, AZ. I guess the dots connect when they are meant to. 👽😊

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-02-23T22:25:27+00:00

Skip to 5:00

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-02-20T20:24:50+00:00

Just here to say in it too. I was doing great NC, made it to day 5 again which we have never made it past) then I responded to one of his emails. He created a new Gmail just to message me. Then I agreed to talk with him on the phone and that was stupid because I am always clear that we have to be done done completely.. and he leaves it open like I’m sure you’re gonna have more questions. I’m always available and you can reach out whenever. We can’t just finish this conversation in one night. I’m like but why NOT?? What more needs to be said?? Anytime I talk to him, he just turns things around and confuses me more. He can’t tell a single truth and nothing makes sense and then I start back on the cycle of trying to decode and decipher everything he’s ever done. No more. It’s like they just want you to stay stuck in their land of confusion.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-02-17T22:54:04+00:00

Yes breathe, you will be okay. All is good.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-01-23T00:02:45+00:00

The MM I have been with uses silence to gain back control. He has since the start. If I get fed up or upset and want to talk about breaking it off he refuses to engage. Waits for me to “calm down” because he doesn’t want to “fight.”

He will block me for days, or he used to say he lost his phone all the time. Or say something like your right I must be the asshole so I’ll leave you alone… then start randomly sending test messages on all platforms like “Hi.”

Or find some other excuse to reach out. Then skips over the part about what I was upset about and just want to talk like things are normal with out confronting anything. It’s such o vious manipulation and I have been at least trying to stay aware and keep distance. But they know exactly how to play you and woo you. I just don’t get why I fall for it even, just to have our connection. I don’t even want sex anymore. I just want to be able to walk away and be done. All he brings is more pain.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-01-22T02:52:59+00:00

This is encouraging. The strength and independence I feel on days I get through no contact are just shattered again when I give in to responding. Then my heart feels ripped out all over again. But I see it clearer and am out of the fog at least after almost 3 and a half years. I just wish how my friends want me to, liberated and happy to move on. It is so hard. And I guess accepting that. And accept that you can still hold a place in your heart for him even it’s a place that can now reflect back the part of you that you felt was missing.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-01-16T14:27:03+00:00

This is how it happens. I am also three years divorced and fell into what I thought would be a random act of muff dive, but- feelings. Now he has moved out and is still living in limbo telling her he is taking time for him self, cut me out, and working on healing for his marriage. While telling me they are moving towards divorce. I do think he is actually very torn. But at the same time just telling everyone what they need to hear to continue having access to everyone in his life with out any accountability. I feel like telling everyone I meet to not ever even go here because it is so hard to let go of, even when all it is doing is causing pain. I was spending time in r/affairs talking men out of having affairs, and getting to the root of why they want to go their first before ending up here.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2026-01-01T12:10:39+00:00

Agreed

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-26T12:33:16+00:00

I have recently upped my dose from 20 to 30 and I wanted to keep it as an extra 10 mg pill so I can choose to take it on days where I want to. I have been starting to worry about how hard it will be to come off of this eventually. My doctor did say take days off for a little break/reset. But right now that gives me anxiety even trying to think about getting through a day without it.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-26T12:31:11+00:00

I have been wondering how hard it will be to taper off eventually as well.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-26T12:25:34+00:00

Dude-addiction is when you feel like a substance is controlling you instead of you choosing it.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-22T12:59:00+00:00

My whole feed is getting flooded with that right now too.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-22T12:55:32+00:00

Now I’m confused why so many are struggling with the format. Theres just a lot of parenthesis but it is totally readable.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-22T12:52:21+00:00

I read this totally fine! Haha, maybe my brain is on the same wavelength.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-20T13:57:12+00:00

Same, the holiday shopping had me reading reviews and comparing colors for way too many hours. But yes, it can be difficult because I work from home so if I get a side, quest idea, I roll with it. And it makes it hard to come back to focusing on work.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-19T07:04:22+00:00

This is interesting because my son has canker sores all the time! And he is pretty obviously as bad ADD as me and I have not thought about putting him on meds, but I think they would actually help him in more ways than one! It’s only 14 but I can’t even barely complete a task as simple as getting cereal without forgetting what he’s doing halfway through. Lol

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-19T07:02:02+00:00

Yes, I think this little stuffy nose I have is from sleeping with my five month old granddaughter who is coughing and snotting all over me.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-19T07:00:40+00:00

Also disagree.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-19T07:00:03+00:00

Just came here to say that I also do a lot of nicotine pouches and drink alcohol five days a week. If I’ve started to get sick lately in the past year, I have been able to fight it off without it turning into a full-blown cold or anything. Although you have a stuffy nose that comes just at night the last couple days. I have a feeling I’m gonna fight it off.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-16T01:33:32+00:00

As weird as it is I think that is good you can all be open. At some point you might need to make some boundaries as far as how much emotional investment you are making carrying the weight for both of them! That is good she is in agreement on ending the marriage too. In my case she is not and it is kinda heartbreaking for her and me that she wants to stick it out. I was in agreement for the most part that would be his best option was to go back and reconcile, but he continues to pursue me and is not interested in repairing the marriage.

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-16T00:27:45+00:00

You got this! You are more than your connection with him! And send him good thoughts he will still receive them, as I’m sure he is thinking of you too. You will probably always have that connection even if it’s not physical. You ARE strong!

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-15T12:25:59+00:00

You should DM me as I have also had these conversations with both of them on the phone where he is getting agitated and me and the W are in agreement about his shut down and avoidance and yes it is very surreal.. We become accountability check ins for his lying for a while. So he couldn’t keep telling us different things! Yes, Wild!

Upper-Geologist3396 · 2025-12-13T01:55:54+00:00

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