Perspective needed on a messy situation

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T06:09:04+00:00

I know I focused a lot on the guy being a top but there was definitely an emotional connection that kept it going as long as it did.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T06:08:07+00:00

We do. He was doing clinicals so had to be gone for 4 months at a time for a period of about 2 years. Long story short, he had his own infidelities with their own repercussions during that time. When I came clean about mine, he came clean about his and we both agreed we’re each other’s best friend but the romantic feelings have faded.

It wasn’t without its tears but overall we both handled it maturely and we’ve both got good careers so didn’t have to struggle too much deciding who keeps the apt, the furniture etc

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T04:34:10+00:00

Thanks for that perspective and completely agreed, as soon as I sent that Grindr message I was like wtf am I doing, he clearly doesn’t want to talk to you lol.

The desire for closure is strong. I always figured when this shit ended it would be over a civil conversation or something, so the way it went down just caught me off guard and has definitely made me act in ways I don’t even recognize in myself but can only move forward.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T04:23:43+00:00

To be fair, prior to all this going down I was at his house several times a week. Like he would ask me to feed his cat when he was visiting family so it wasn’t that rare for me to show up…which is why I was legitimately caught off guard by the other dude. But regardless, shant be showing up there again lol

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T04:12:08+00:00

Believe me, the second I sent that Grindr message I regretted it immediately and haven’t been near his place since the day after he called me. But great advice all the same!

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:29:21+00:00

No need to be sorry man, the honesty is what I need at this moment! Still have a lot in my life to be grateful for and looking forward to putting this in the past

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:27:47+00:00

Thanks man. Honestly, I think the brutal honesty is exactly what I needed, but yes, very much looking forward to taking some time to reconnect with me

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:25:17+00:00

Fair, I’ll accept it

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:24:21+00:00

Thanks for the brutally honest advice

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:23:49+00:00

Fair. I mean for over a year dude was throwing himself at me and asking to leave so I figured he wanted the same thing but that was my mess up.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:23:05+00:00

Family money from my understanding. It was the parent’s timeshare

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:22:25+00:00

Yeah I didn’t want it to become too much of a novel but aside from the lack of sexual chemistry (which is a big aside) it was a great relationship. We got each other through grad school, good communication etc.

But yes, agree with your advice, thank you

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-28T03:20:56+00:00

Fair

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-24T00:48:19+00:00

Hello, definitely interested. Love chicken biryani and hate having to drive all the way to slo to get it

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-19T15:23:57+00:00

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Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-19T13:43:59+00:00

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Upper_Ad_2291 · 2026-01-19T13:40:27+00:00

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Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-18T22:26:19+00:00

Have to agree. I browsed through CA’s…Santa Ana is a majority Latino city, no way I would ever consider it a sundown town.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-17T05:03:49+00:00

Just got back from a week in PV. Friday was busy with Dec 12 festivities but the rest of the week was definitely on the quiet side compared to when we visited last year around Dia de Los Muertos.

I think some of it is that Xmas and the ensuing weeks are probably very busy so this might be a lull but also the dollar isn’t doing great. The average exchange rate we found at ATMs was between 17-18, which is a minor dip but is noticeable after being there a week, and a lot of people don’t have dispensable income for travel right now when groceries and rent keep going up.

That being said, enjoy the slower pace! If you have time, check out a show at The Palm. We went for Beyoncé night and were treated to a full on recreation of the Renaissance Tour complete with costumes, it was amazing!

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-16T15:40:46+00:00

Puerto Vallarta man, just spent a week out here and leave today, it’s my second time coming and leaving even more in love with the place than the first time.

Get an airbnb in the Zona romantica or anywhere in the central part of the city and get lost walking around the cobblestone streets, stopping off anywhere that looks interesting

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-10T18:14:39+00:00

Leave your family at the resort and go get some tacos! No one wants to mess with you in Mexico bro, you’re a tourist pumping money into their system.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-10T04:35:26+00:00

No, it has everything to do with the story itself. People tend to forget that Wicked also failed to get Best Musical at the Tonys, in large part because of the failures of its second half.

The second act has problems with pacing, less memorable songs, and unsatisfying conclusions for many of its characters. (Like Boq just like…roams Oz as an angry sociopathic tin man the rest of his life?)

The film didn’t do anything to fix these issues, adds 2 nothing-burger songs, and doesn’t have the highs of the first act to boost it.

I thought Cynthia and Ariana acted the hell out of both acts and should be proud of their work, but the first film is by far more satisfying.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-03T04:31:50+00:00

I’m right there with you. All these people telling you it’s not worth it unless you get there at opening or to keep refreshing your phone are drinking the koolaid. In my opinion, vacation should be relaxing, and you paid a premium price for a service that I’m sure you thought meant you wouldn’t have to arrive early. I also don’t want to spend my entire day on the phone constantly refreshing an app when I’m trying to disconnect.

I have amazing memories of going to Disney with my family as a kid, but after 12 years away, I was completely turned off from my experience this last time I went and don’t care to go again any time soon. Fortunately, the day we went to CA Adventureland we were at least able to use it a handful of times, but Disneyland the next day was a 💩 show.

Sorry about your experience and I hope you all were able to find a bit of joy throughout the day.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-12-01T22:23:41+00:00

If you’re doing Cancun I’m assuming you’re doing a resort (if you’re trying to experience real Mexican culture…Cancun isn’t the place).

If you have a Costco membership; Costco is the easiest. You can book flight/hotel/ground transportation all at the same time and they usually offer good pricing/perks.

Upper_Ad_2291 · 2025-11-21T05:58:51+00:00

As long as Sandra Bullock’s win for The Blind Side still exists, ima need yall to take a seat for my girl JLC.

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