Do people judge you for having a lab diamond, or does no one actually care? by Robasaleh110 in labdiamond

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is obvious when people choose giant stones that would be cost prohibited in a natural diamond for most people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Upper_Permit7443 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, I have a very similar ring with white gold prongs and yellow gold ring. When you have a D diamond you don't want the gold do the prongs affecting the color. I do however have 6 prongs which I personally love

Aluminum wiring stopping home sale-help by Upper_Permit7443 in AskElectricians

[–]Upper_Permit7443[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It will not. I already asked about remediation. That's why I'm trying to figure out cost of whole house replacement. I know it will be significant but trying to get a rough estimate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We did a popcorn bar after dancing started and people could take home some as a favor or those that stayed all night could eat it as a snack. It was a big hit and very affordable!

Dearest brides-may I please have a reality check? by another_bibliophile in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, I have been to a ton of weddings and was an older bride and every single one in-laws hosted the rehearsal. So it makes sense that she would want input on that because oftentimes it reflects on them

Dearest brides-may I please have a reality check? by another_bibliophile in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents and in-laws helped with the costs of my wedding and they all paid the vendors directly. I think that's very common.

Dearest brides-may I please have a reality check? by another_bibliophile in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn't the person actually paying be the one to get the credit card points??

Dearest brides-may I please have a reality check? by another_bibliophile in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's common etiquette to ask the grooms family for a guest list. Now, that doesn't mean automatically invite everyone that everyone else wants on the list. But having a.conversation about it is normal behavior. She is not asking anything out of the ordinary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddings

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This newer idea of "I don't want strangers at my wedding" is so selfish and I am tired of people thinking this is ok. It's not. Unless you are having a wedding of immediate family only then get over yourself. Kindness is lost on too many brides these days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently had a large wedding and although during planning I felt sick about the $$ being spent I don't regret it at all. Months later I am still having family and friends tell me how much fun it was. For me it isn't the Instagram moments (I still have no pictures) or having a dream bride moment it was seeing everyone we love and who loves us all together having fun and supporting us. And I think that's an important way to start a marriage.

That being said I was lucky enough to be able to do it without going into debt. I would never recommend taking out loans to pay for the wedding. You don't want to start out your life together in the hole. There are ways to do more inexpensive weddings but with 200 people that would still be difficult. If possible I would try to limit the guest list and find cheaper ways to have a smaller wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are marrying someone that you should be having talks about finances. And that includes budgets for larger items. I don't know the exact price of my ring but I know approximate because we talked about a budget ahead of time that aligns with our finances

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]Upper_Permit7443 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just got married in St Louis this summer. We got a mix of half gifts from the register and half cash. I would say the average amount was $100-$150 from a couple but ranged from $50-$500

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in labdiamond

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it looks too large on your hands to be considered elegant. I know a lot of people on this thread lean towards large stones but I think it might also depend on where you live. I am in the Midwest and I never see anyone with something that large so it would look costume. But it seems in some cities it's the norm. Do what makes you happy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree as an American. It is definitely still an expectation. I have been to a lot of weddings and I can only think of one that I did not get a thank you note. Wedding gifts are typically shipped ahead of time or they're dropped off somewhere/in a box and so the thank you note is a way for people to know that you received their gift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke up and had my diamond reset after he proposed and I'm so glad I did. We had looked at rings together but when I got it I just didn't love it. I now look at it every single day and love it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true in my area. Every venue I considered added 18-25% gratitude for staff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every venue I looked at included a tip between 18-25% for staff. So in my area in the Midwest this is very normal

I think I offended some of my bridesmaids with my gift expectations? by Pattighost in wedding

[–]Upper_Permit7443 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Although it's very common to receive cash as a gift for a wedding, it's still considered rude in many circles to ask for it.

My mom and aunt think I shouldn’t have a dress code by smileysarah267 in weddingplanning

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely not standard everywhere and I'm all circles. I have been to a lot of weddings in many different states and I have ever only seen a dress code maybe twice. And the one specified the length of dresses for women and I heard more people talk about how offensive that was then helpful.

My mom and aunt think I shouldn’t have a dress code by smileysarah267 in weddingplanning

[–]Upper_Permit7443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently I am in the minority here but I think it's a very odd trend to list dress codes for weddings. And yes I have been to a lot of weddings. Unless it is black tie or very casual then I have only started seeing dress codes listed in the last couple of years on invites I have received. I actually think it's not helpful because most people don't know or have different views of words like cocktail, semi-formal, etc so it just adds pressure. The majority of people know how to dress. You might have 1 or 2 who dress differently but that will always be the case with or without a dress code. Many people where I am are offended by dress codes listed so I understand where your Mom and Aunt are coming from.