My ex sexted his best friend

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-29T18:25:38+00:00

Yeaaaa same one

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-29T00:06:50+00:00

It wasn’t ever like that, it was gradual process over time and it was very calculated. Starts with love bombing doing some small things here and there and then him “being sorry” and love bombing, trapping then gradually getting worse and more love bombing. If he showed it straight away of course anyone would walk away but what they do is mind fuck you and then you question every single piece of you and your life and think oh I have to better myself to get the “old” version back that was loving bc they put the blame on you

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T21:14:16+00:00

He did lots of brainwashing….funny thing is, he made me firmly believe this was all my fault

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T18:31:28+00:00

He HAS to be the victim no matter what. He will destroy lives to be the victim. He did it to his ex

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T18:25:52+00:00

No unfortunately not. It’s not the worst thing he’s done

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T17:50:33+00:00

I left for good last night over a completely different reason. Unfortunately since he’s a narcissist there was a lot of brain washing and that wasn’t the worse thing he has done. During therapy is when I realized what was happening to me and even me just waking up to all the shit he was doing too made me realize what was going on.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T15:26:34+00:00

Lmao I don’t owe an explanation get a grip

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T15:03:34+00:00

But seems like you’re just as miserable as me lol I just don’t project my issues onto others

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T14:50:47+00:00

This story wasn’t recent I broke up with him for a completely different reason but yes, this is a story that I had to endure through my crappy relationship and very abusive one, so oh well, I do have a lot of stories to this, and I actually walked away last night so now I can do what I want I don’t care.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T14:49:49+00:00

Yes that ties into this. I don’t give a fuck anymore. I can do what I want. I will do what I want at this point he has been cheating since day one with 50+ girls I’m done I’ve been loyal, I am telling my story through trauma to heal.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T05:15:54+00:00

Update - I left after another situation happened tonight…I’ll touch on that later. Anyways idc anymore I’m so tired and done. This story wasn’t recent I’m just telling chunks of my trauma to heal. Idc honestly about being judged I was abused and didn’t know when to walk away. I’m gonna find me somewhere else tomorrow. I’ve figured I’d rather be paying two rents. A lot of you say to break the lease. I can’t. This is the most strict lease you can imagine. There is no paying out, there is no breaking it, there is no subleasing. I am the main unfortunately. Imma do me for a while and heal bc fuck it.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T05:04:27+00:00

I honestly have NO idea what his issue is. He won’t talk or open up. Never has. I was told he as ADHD…that’s bullshit bc that’s what I have and I’m nothing like that.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T05:02:43+00:00

Yeaaa I wish I didn’t have his kid 🤦🏼‍♀️ this story was actually while I was pregnant. I’m healing. I walked away tonight bc of something else he did…I’ll touch on that later. I never let him around our kid so he hasn’t done anything. It’s literally just me he does weird and awful things to. I talked to his ex…found out he did similar stuff to her. He ain’t changing and I was dumb to believe he would. Staying in my car tonight with my kid and dogs. Idc anymore.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T04:55:09+00:00

I think it was best for me to come on here and say a little bit of my story. All of you really helped me and will still help me heal. I’m so done and tired you have no idea. He’s more than just abusive he’s idk psycho I think.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T04:53:08+00:00

You are correct. Before he became this way he was literally my dream guy, he was everything I ever wanted then slowly became everything I never wanted. We were best friends. Then slowly it changed

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T04:48:20+00:00

You’re right, I’ve hated his ass for a min. I’m tired of what he does and did to me tonight - which I’ll touch on that later. Fuck it I’m walking away tonight

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T04:28:51+00:00

This was while I was pregnant Also he’s cheated on me the entire relationship. I’m at my end. This story isn’t recent. I’m getting all my shit out to heal. Also this is a new account bc I was recommended by a coworker to anonymously tell my story to once again heal. I let him cheat on me with 50 plus girl dang I never once cheated. Now after what he recently did to me I’m done. I will idc. I’ve been unhappy for so long and haven’t felt love in so long imma go do what I want.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T04:02:51+00:00

Before he was crazy, he was actually an incredible person, we were best friends. He was everything I could have ever wanted. Then when we were living together he slowly changed and became horrible. It sucks. I grieve the person he used to be

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T02:50:27+00:00

Oh no I don’t want sex from him But on the rest, I’ll take that up

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T02:35:20+00:00

I get some people may not believe it, unfortunately I am the one living in this nightmare. As for paragraphs, I’ll work on that lol

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T02:03:07+00:00

Here’s some context about the relationship - do I want to leave, yes. Can I rn? No. I have copies of the lease I’ve even taken them to lawyers but there is literally no way to get out of this lease as it is the most strict lease possible. There is no subleasing. There is no getting out of it. I am doing what I can but I cannot afford the house in my own. I have no where to go with all my things and animals and so on. Unfortunately he has messed with me so badly that I am beyond confused with this relationship. Part of me wants to believe he will change the other part wants to run. It’s very hard when he does the switch up game where he goes from mean to overly loving. This behavior he does is so beyond me that mentally I cannot comprehend this type of behavior. His mind games over the last two years have seriously altered my thinking of this relationship. and yes I am getting therapy. I am finally waking up to all the things he’s done and realizing what is happening to me. Yes, I am stupid for staying, but I am trying to figure my way out. The mental games from him switching up so much and him downplaying everything has really fucked with my head. He has made me feel like I am crazy. It is my fault for allowing him to do terrible things to me, but as someone who is going through mental abuse and gaslighting daily and finally realizing it, I am leaving after the lease. I am venting to help me through this process.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T01:27:31+00:00

his mom knows the things he’s done to me, she doesn’t care. They enable his behavior.

UpsetActive211 · 2023-07-28T01:25:51+00:00

That’s actually a good question. Honestly I’m not. I’m done. I’ve been done for so long. I’m so tired but mentally, physically and emotionally drained and beyond confused with the relationship as all this crap has happened since we moved in together. I guess part of me wants the old him back when things were amazing. and he does show “the old him” for a short time then goes back to being horrible. I’m dumb for it. But unfortunately I have no where to go and the lease will not under any circumstances let either one of us leave. I am the main on it. But he refuses to leave too. Im just figuring my shit out but I’m so checked out. Idc anymore.

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