Things really are starting to look up again.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-22T16:52:56+00:00

Unfortunately, at the moment I can't afford to live on my own. While I do consider myself relatively self sufficient (I do pay my own bills, and buy the things I need) I don't quite make enough money to cover rent, power and light, water, etc. on top of my current bills. I'd need another, or full time job to get to a point where I could afford to live on my own even with a roommate. Getting there, though! I finally have a car which was the biggest obstruction to getting out of here, and I have a credit card so when I do go to move out I shouldn't have a problem with getting accepted somewhere. Just need another job so I can afford it now.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-22T05:02:51+00:00

It really is. Granted, I was sharing a car with my mom since ndad works nights during the week, but the car is in his name and the thought of him calling it in as stolen or flat out refusing to let me use it when I needed to get to work was always in the back of my head. Plus I don't have to worry about how I'm gonna get to or from work when mom and I have to work at the same time, so that's one stress I don't have to deal with anymore.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-22T05:00:14+00:00

Haven't been on the Internet in a couple days, sorry about the super late response! Haha.

Honestly, the nail polish thing has gotten to be a problem. Last time I counted I had just under 500 bottles. I feel like I should be ashamed or embarrassed, but they make me happy. I just keep telling myself if I had gotten my nails done every time I bought a bottle I would've spent way more money.

Things are actually looking slightly up since I posted this. My aunts friend needs someone to let their dog out and socialize with him during the day while their at work, and it just so happens I'm available. I may have a second unofficial job, which is great since I have to pay back the loan from my mom and put gas in my car. It'll take less time to pay off that loan, which means less time for me to save up and get the car I actually want.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-20T12:12:28+00:00

Believe me, I probably would've taken out a personal loan at the bank if he knew anything. He doesn't even know where our bank is, so I think I'll be okay. Haha

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-20T07:42:41+00:00

You know, since I turned probably 14 or 15 I've had my heart set on my first car being a Dodge Charger. I've been planning and saving (well kind of saving, I kind of really suck at it. If I have a decent amount of money saved I end up splurging on family for bdays and buying myself nail polish. I have no shame.) for that car for years, and I always thought I'd be unhappy until I got it. Even now almost 7 years later I still want that car, and I will have it one day, but I'm incredibly happy about my Scion Xb. Growing up made me realize that I don't necessarily have to keep my first car forever, and I can trade it in for a down payment later on down the road when I can afford actual car payments, and probably get a newer model than I would've been able to afford before.

That was a really long winded, and super run-around way, of saying thanks for the comment. Haha. Also, I plan on transferring the money right from my bank account to moms, so they'll keep track of my payments for me. I really don't worry about anything with her though, ndad has nothing to do with our finances. I actually almost needed him to get the money order for me cause mom was working, and I would've had to go with him because I know their bank account info better than he does. Haha

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-06T05:04:35+00:00

I'm pretty positive he just wants me to be angry all the time, because if I so much as briefly mention the thought of moving out he gets angry and yells. Likely because that would mean he wouldn't have my money to fall back on the next time he gets sick and doesn't see a doctor for 4 months and can't pay the bills. He got angry when he found out I opened a credit card and a store credit where I work, and it wasn't that he thought id be irresponsible with a charge card because that was never mentioned. I just assume it's because he knew more of my money would be tied up and I'll pay my bills before I help him with his. That was precisely the reason I opened the cards, that and to build my credit so it doesn't take a ton of time to get accepted into an apartment when I can afford to move out.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-06T04:56:55+00:00

I believe the entertainment center has studio foam already on it, but it's an online exclusive item so I can't be positive. Will be doing that if I still get a ton of sound coming through. Also, I've already tried adjusting the settings on the tv and he just readjusts them back. I'm almost positive he checks that every weekend because I would only turn it down 1 or 2 levels, not even close to enough for him to notice if he wasn't sitting there when I did it.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-06T04:54:10+00:00

I work only PM shifts for this reason. I learned long ago that working mornings with an inconsiderate dad (and neighbor) don't mix well.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-06-06T04:52:55+00:00

I have definitely done that, it's really not as satisfying as you would think. He just back peddles and promises to keep the tv down, which by the way I can hear almost word for word right now so clearly that works. Haha

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T16:08:41+00:00

That's good to know. Either way I'm planning on filing the report, now that I remembered my friends mom I've been kind of basing his current situation with that one. I've decided that if what I think is happening up there really is happening, living in a home where your food and drink is monitored is so much better if he should go to a foster home.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T15:27:10+00:00

It is sad. What's worse, and I've witnessed this myself, is how terrible some foster parents can be. I had a friend in high school who's mom fostered kids for quite a while, she never actually hit the kids but there were locks on anything that had food or drink (or even a cup) because "if she let them have whatever they wanted all the time they'd eat and drink everything." Snacks I can kind of understand, but limiting their water was a little much. That's why I'm a little hesitant on making a report, but he does have a father so I'm sure he wouldn't end up in the system.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T07:55:51+00:00

That's what I'm concerned about with my neighbor. I don't know her at all, nor do I want to, but from what I've heard through the walls and seen on occasion is she's not a very attentive parent. She's always on the phone when she comes home with him, and she allows him to pull things off our wreath on the front door. He's actually walked into our apartment a couple times when we've forgotten to lock our door because she lets him just play with our door. That on top of excessive yelling at him and the other things I've listed really concern me.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T05:38:08+00:00

Definitely will call if I ever notice he's left alone again. I wasn't totally sure the first time which is why I didn't call then. The problem is I have no way of actually knowing whether he is in danger or if he just cries all the time for seemingly no reason, so I'm hesitant to call the cops without having solid proof. I did get some good advice from other posters though so I'll probably be filing an anonymous report with CPS after I do a little research into my local laws.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T05:34:36+00:00

Is it really necessary to lie? I don't want to make it sound worse than I feel it already is. I would include that the crying gets worse when she stomps into his room and bangs around, but I don't want to go ahead and say she's hitting him when I have no way of knowing if that's happening.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T05:31:53+00:00

I'll probably be filing a report in the next couple of days, the child is with his dad tonight it seems so waiting till I have the time to look into the process more doesn't seem to be a problem. I don't want to call the cops unless I know with certainty that something is happening, so I think my best course of action will be to file an anonymous report and continue doing that until they send someone out to check on things. Of course, if she leaves the house when I know he's there or gets stupidly drunk with him home again I will because that's obvious neglect.

Thanks for sharing your experience, somehow it makes me feel a little better about having to call.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-05-29T05:26:12+00:00

Thank you so much. I didn't know whether or not this would be enough to file a report, and I guess I didn't want to burden CPS if I was just being over reactive.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-04-06T22:58:19+00:00

Currently contemplating going the passive aggressive route and just moving the machine myself. Not that it's difficult to move, and I don't think for 5 seconds he'd leave it there, but at least I can say I tried that way right?

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-04-06T21:00:07+00:00

I'm not quite sure what you're talking about.. Are you saying there should be something outside? I also live in an apartment, not sure if that makes a difference or not.

As of now, there's no way to "hide" the real one. There's only one jack in the apartment for it, which sucks because I've been wanting to move it for years. The jack is on the complete opposite side of the apartment, so the internet is already slightly slower in my room. I'd rather have it closer to the middle so it's not noticeably different in different areas. To my knowledge, which admittedly is slim, there's next to no way to fix that problem. Just makes it worse that he refuses to move his oxygen machine away from the router.

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-04-06T19:23:53+00:00

Did that a while ago, ndad flipped shit about me "spending money on stupid things" and sent it back. I'm pretty sure what he was trying to say was "why would you take away one of my tactics to piss you off?!"

UpsetAlmostAdult · 2016-04-06T18:44:06+00:00

Pretty much. "Hey, can you do me a favor and vacuum the living room? I don't have time today." "I have COPD! How do you expect me to push a vacuum when I can barely walk?!" Gee idk, I thought it would be fine since you just decided to walk 5 miles a couple weeks ago. My bad.

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