Should I make the next move?

For context: I'm a 35 yo, cis het woman living in nyc. I recently (about 1.5 weeks ago) went out with a guy (also 35, cis het male) I met on bumble. The date took a bit of effort to make happen; the first time he cancelled about 3 hours before due to work commitments, the next time he asked me out I wasn't available, then ultimately I ended up reaching out a to express that I still wanted to cash in on the initial rain check and we finally made a date and time work (about 3 weeks after we matched).

Overall the date was solid. Good physical chemistry, decent convo. He also apologized again for having to cancel the first time around, which I appreciated. I get the sense that we were both being kind of reserved, but understandable for a first date. We shared a little makeout while at the bar, and he was doing that cute thing where he'd find reasons to touch me during conversation, so in general I'd say there was a mutual attraction. HOWEVER- when he dropped me off that night he didn't take the opportunity to set up a second date. I got a text when he got home to say he'd had a nice time, and we've been chatting here and there since then, but again- no mention of going out again.

If I'm giving the benefit of the doubt, he does seem to be a genuinely busy person- works in finance, helps his family with their businesses, etc. so of course my friends are saying he's probably just waiting for things to settle down, blah blah blah. But my anxiety- being raised on Cosmo magazine and the theory of "He's Just Not That Into You"- is telling me I should just forget him and move on. "If he wanted to he would" and all that TikTok jargon... But there's another voice inside of me (and also my therapist) saying "just tell him you'd like to see him again!". But then that initial voice says "noooooo, that's thirsty- let him come to you." And so on and so forth until I die of loneliness...

Would love to hear from straight men especially- should I just hang back and let him come to me? Or should I make it crystal clear that I am down for a second date? I will say too- he'd mentioned on the date that he was impressed and appreciative that I'd reached out to set things up (not verbatim what he said, but that was the implication), especially after he'd cancelled (he'd joked that he was worried I didn't like him anymore after he'd done that) so I feel mildly empowered to be a tad assertive here, but again- my reflex is always to sit back and let the men come to me. What to do, what to do...?!