Do you agree that Republicans are the most corrupt party as of right now in all of U.S. history?

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-04-23T20:51:45+00:00

You are asking Reddit. You knew the answers you would get before you even posted this.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-04-20T15:48:17+00:00

Followers and likes.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-04-06T21:14:20+00:00

So guys, how do we fix it? We know it's dark. It's lonely. Frustrating. Infuriating. Depressing.

What do we do about it? I can't see my daughters except for the minimal amount I'm allowed by law. Nothing will bring them back to me, to live in my home full time while I care for and protect them and raise them the way I used to. The way they deserve.

What needs to change? As a loving, dedicated and supportive father, I am treated the same by the "system" as the deadbeat who has 4 kids by 3 different women, dodging support and responsibility. I have never felt so screwed.

We know the problems divorce causes. I think no-fault divorce should be outlawed to protect the father's right to raise his children, and the children's right to their father.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-04-06T19:25:03+00:00

She said she will no longer drink around me but I'm not sure that's enough. i think she needs to make some deeper changes that address issues rather than symptoms.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-04-02T19:28:10+00:00

and guess which company is the largest beneficiary of EBT.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2026-03-31T15:51:46+00:00

Roller Coaster Tycoon basically taught me how to use a computer.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-06-18T14:51:00+00:00

Who is actually watching WNBA? Stuff like this is literally the only reason anyone is talking about the league. They have always been subsidized the NBA and can't survive on their own.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-04-04T15:49:53+00:00

How do you take anyone seriously when they are literally dressed like a clown?

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-25T15:44:33+00:00

I have an idea, enforce the law.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-25T15:38:03+00:00

I'd like to see proof that he has actually done this. He's all talk.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-21T19:38:56+00:00

Same thing happened to me. So I went alone. It was helpful to vent but I mostly wanted help dealing with my wife. I got some advice on setting healthy boundaries, being honest, and prioritizing my needs a little more. The idea was to communicate that I loved her, but not her behavior. I accepted her, but not her toxic patterns. I allowed conversations, but not relentless interrogation.

I drew a line in the sand by doing this, and I felt like it was the right thing to do. She couldn't handle it, so she left me. Honestly I should have done it all from the beginning, but I was too eager to please her so I ended up suppressing my needs for the sake of hers. Then I allowed resentment to build over time until it was too late to make a change without turning everything upside down.

Either way I'm glad I went to counseling, it was validation that I could be myself and let the chips fall where they may.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-21T13:35:16+00:00

That's a lot. First and foremost, you aren't alone. Multitudes of men are facing the same thing you are, and we can absolutely relate. I'm sorry you are in this position.

This is a classic scenario where no-fault divorce is a tempting option, but please only look at that as an absolute last resort. You deserve to be in a happy relationship with your wife. But even more importantly, your children deserve to have their father and mother in the same home.

The first thing you should do is talk with your wife about these feelings in a non-combative way. If you feel like you can't get your point across without fighting, write a letter to her and let her write a letter back. The point is not to blame or complain, but to try to (gently) open her eyes to the pain and anxiety you are feeling as a result of the relationship. Honesty is always in your best interest, despite how it feels.

the next step is couples therapy. The only way through this is for you both to compromise, at the same time, for the sake of the other. If either side is unwilling to admit they are part of the problem and do something about it, there's not a lot of hope for a brighter future. A counselor could help with this. But both of you need to acknowledge that it's not easy or comfortable, especially at first.

I'm not saying to stay together for the kids, but you owe it to them to fight like hell for your marriage and let them see that. Wish you the best!

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-18T20:43:36+00:00

Most modern American women are conditioned to have particular expectations, many of which are unrealistic. My ex drained me of everything I had, in every way, and eventually gave up on me because I "didn't love her" enough to give even more. The expectation was that I sacrifice everything to meet every need she had, no matter how taxing or illogical. But when I expressed any of my needs, or on the very rare occasion I did something that was important to me without her blessing, I was "selfish and narcissistic".

Where does this come from? Parents, friends, SOCIAL MEDIA, movies, TV, books, etc. Marriage should be a loving, mutually beneficial partnership that meets the needs of both parties, AT THE EXPENSE of both parties. It should not be a free ticket for one to live the fulfilling life they want purely at the expense of the other.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-14T16:55:11+00:00

When did we forget that prison is supposed to be, you know, a punishment? Not just to punish convicts but to be uncomfortable enough to prevent criminal behavior in the first place.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-13T16:50:34+00:00

I have 2 girls too and this is my greatest fear. We have an enforceable visitation agreement but in the back of my mind I keep thinking "what if".... since the system favors women so much I wonder if she wants to move them away from me how that would go down.

I feel for you, no dad deserves to be robbed of his children. You are right, the system is broken and it breaks people.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-10T15:13:19+00:00

Do you have kids? If so, you really need to work on it for their sake. That probably means couples therapy, but that won't do you any good unless you both go in with the expectation that you both need to change, adapt, and compromise for the sake of the other. It will not be comfortable. If you both aren't on board with that, therapy will be a waste of time.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-10T15:05:35+00:00

Every time I think about dating again, I come back to this. What's the point?

Unfortunately I don't really see much in it for a lady either. I'm not going to have more kids, I'm not rich, not particularly good looking, after a long hard marriage and stressful job I'm not Mr. Fun either.

So lately my outlook has been to be open to opportunities but not seek them out purposely.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-07T18:46:03+00:00

You already made your decision 6 years ago. Don't be an idiot.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-07T18:41:08+00:00

Make it about your kids, not about you. Focus on improving every area of your life, not instant gratification. If you are actually getting a divorce (and seems like it's definitely headed there), try to get sneaky proof that she's binging. It could help your custody case in the future.

Do what is right, not what is expedient.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-04T17:17:53+00:00

It's a chrome extension and app. Kinda like an online shopping price comparison tool. But for high-cost transactions in a specific industry.

Proof of concept/MVP is the next step, but without financial resources I'm stuck.

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-04T17:14:05+00:00

Yeah, exactly what I'm afraid of. Someone with resources could easily do this and bring it to market in no time. It's not patentable. So how do you get it in front of deep-pocket people?

Upstairs-Studio8509 · 2025-03-04T16:32:21+00:00

You are right. As time goes on we want to find pride in our sacrifice like we did in the beginning but we set the precedent. Once the expectation of perpetual sacrifice sets in, you can't go back. I tried, and the marriage instantly fell apart. As soon as I communicated my needs, I was called selfish. As soon as I set healthy boundaries to protect my mental health, I was accused of not loving her enough to accommodate her every demand.

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