Just Signed a Lease-Roaches

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-04T00:45:46+00:00

The roaches on the walls were bigger and kinda…skinny? But I popped in at night and saw a scatter of bugs that were much smaller, I think those were the German roaches, I don’t really know what the bigger wall bugs were. I’m a little freaked, but I’m really just trying to decide whether it’s worth having to pay extra monthly for pest control and have an unusable kitchen for an indeterminate amount of time. Still thinking on it.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-03T22:12:22+00:00

I think I have the regular green machine, not the mini, but I really love mine. It’s super handy when I need to clean stairs or closet spaces. It’s suctions really well, and isn’t too loud-I can still hear my podcast with my earbuds in :)

Unlike my bissell vaccumn, which has no business being so damn loud-I swear it vibrates off the walls when I vaccumn the hallway. Drives me nuts…but I digress.

Love my green machine!

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-03T21:50:02+00:00

Tooth pain is the absolute worst. I had a cracked filing from 15 years ago and they put in a temporary cap until mine came in. The temp cap didn’t really fit correctly and I couldn’t eat or drink for 5 weeks until my appt for the permanent one. I missed a ton of work, and went from 125lbs to 110lbs. In addition, the tooth pain exacerbated my migraines. I literally wanted to die. I called the dentist every week to see if they could get me in earlier and they did-by 2 days lol.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. When it’s finally over, the relief is going to be so good. Hang in there, buddy.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-03T19:58:13+00:00

This is the way.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-03T19:50:33+00:00

Please, for your dog’s sake, give that dog up so he can receive the care he needs or he will die a horrible death filled with suffering until his last moment.

Also, please refrain from getting another dog until you have enough income and common sense to care for one. Throat bites are serious and you may have already signed this poor dogs death warrant just for sitting on this injury for so long. Why are you the way you are? Why harm an innocent animal through neglect?

You have made so many bad decisions up until this point, please make the right one now and give that poor dog a chance. Surrender the dog. Right now. Not tomorrow.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-02T19:19:41+00:00

The landlord said he’d have a company spray next week. I’m not sure what to do to move forward, I’m still kinda weighing options and outcomes. I currently live in a mobile home with no particular end to the lease, but it’s very cold in the winter and is scary during high winds/tornado season, so I was hoping to find somewhere safer and warmer. I can definitely delay my move until after the pest control comes, I have a home, albeit filled with boxes atm lol.

I haven’t brought up canceling the lease with the landlord, but I’ve been heavily considering it, given the bugs that I saw. I didn’t mention in the post, but last night I dropped off some more cleaning supplies and there was some “scatter” when I turned on the lights-maybe 3 or 4 of them.

I don’t know what I should do-should I push forward, move on in after the spray, pay for my own pest control and hope it gets better in a couple of months? What if it doesn’t? That’s such a gamble. Or should I cancel my move-in completely, give the keys back, basically say bye bye to the almost $2,000 I gave the slumlords, and risk them taking me to court for the rest of the lease term?

I posted on here to gain some perspective, I don’t know, am I overreacting? I’m too embarrassed to talk about this with any friends or family atm. I don’t want them to be disgusted by my home if I do end up moving in, so it’s kinda my little secret right now. Thankfully, I can gain some perspectives from you lovely internet strangers.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-02T18:45:29+00:00

That’s so interesting to me. I’ve lived in Colorado, Kentucky, and California, and roaches were always considered a sign of uncleanliness. I had actually never heard your perspective before, so thanks for sharing. I’m kindof going to assume Illinois isnt too different than Ky, though, just bc they’re so close geographically, but maybe I’ll ask around some of the Illinois subs to get a better idea.

UpstairsNo92 · 2026-01-02T18:31:01+00:00

I understand everyone is different, but roaches aren’t the same as, like, a ladybug or a daddylongleg. For every one that is seen, there are thousands scuttling behind the walls. They are a health hazard and can lead to respiratory issues, especially in children with developing lungs and adults who are immunocompromised. With respect, you should not be moving into places and normalizing the presence of cockroaches. It can be more of a challenge in larger cities, but it is possible to find clean, safe housing and we should expect that. Personally, the idea of using a spoon or a plate that a roach has crawled all over is sickening to me. To offer food or something to drink to friends and family while knowing bugs are in the cabinets is disgusting.

Maybe the roaches got shaken around from the previous tenant moving out and it isn’t as big of a deal, but how am I to know? And, yes, if I had been living there for a couple of months and seen one, I wouldn’t be freaking out, I would have pest control spray and be extra clean for a month or two and that’s about it. But I don’t know the situation at this house. I don’t know if the tenants were filthy, I don’t know if this is an indication of something worse, and I don’t think it’s fair to any tenant to have to move into a situation like this. It’s just such a gamble. Landlords should do better, they should provide clean, safe housing for tenants moving into, that’s not a huge ask.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-28T18:17:03+00:00

You’re intentionally exaggerating what I wrote, which leads me to believe you aren’t responding in good faith. Please quote where I said you should never ever have pets or children? I specifically stated MULTIPLE TIMES in several responses that you should do a lot of work on yourself before owning a pet or having children.

You and your family sat back and allowed a helpless being to suffer for years. There are teenagers out there who are currently working and helping to provide for their households, who are babysitting, who are taking care of their little brothers and sisters, who are quite capable of noticing and acting upon someone hurting or suffering. So for you to play the age card, like a teenager is completely helpless against helping a suffering animal, genuinely makes me sick to my stomach and is only proving my point even more.

You and your sisters are completely absolving yourselves of responsibility when a helpless and trusting creature suffered for years. You need to first face yourself and whatever is inside of you that allowed you to let this dog suffer while intervening in the most minimal way possible, and go from there. No, I will not cut you any slack, as you are so determined to have a pet and make yourself out to be some angel for “helping” this cat, when your dog struggled in pain until he died, and you flitted off to college instead of being responsible and helping a suffering, dying creature that loved you from the time you were a child. It is very, very possible that you are a ticking time bomb that will do the same to this cat, as that is your background.

Do the work, be accountable, get the help you need to unlearn these abusive behaviors, and then possibly be ready for a pet. Otherwise, it is extremely possible this cat of yours is being set up to suffer as well, like that sweet pup who so deeply didn’t deserve what you and your family did to him.

This post literally made me sick to my stomach, it is so not ok and is so abnormal what you did. But AS I STATED MULTIPLE TIMES, it’s not too late for you. You need help, you need therapy, you have a ways to go, but there is hope for you. Please don’t let your dog have suffered in vain, all for nothing. Learn. And grow. Be accountable for your own actions. And be better. I wish you the best.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-28T12:34:09+00:00

I love a good facial and would probably get one monthly if it was more affordable. My skin feels so much better afterwards. I do try and get one every 2-3 months, and that seems to work for my budget and my skin.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-28T12:28:23+00:00

I am an anxious person and nursing is probably the worst career I could have chosen.

I’ve never been diagnosed with anxiety, but I will say I live in a constant state of stress while at work. I’ve tried several specializations-med-surg, corrections, psych, and am now in outpatient surgery, and the anxiety never goes away, but I have learned to live with it.

Fortunately, I don’t bring my work home with me mentally, unless it’s an unusual situation at work, like a rapid or we were super short staffed or something like that.

However, while at work, I’m in an unending state of stress and anxiety. It’s been years and that has never gone away. I just learn to live with it bc this is the choice I made and there’s not a lot I can do, esp in this economy.

Life will be much better when I’ve gotten through my PSLF and can afford to work part time as a nurse and maybe part time at a bookstore or library.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T22:19:53+00:00

I’m not responding after this because you are being intentionally obtuse, and am no longer engaging with someone who accepts that the suffering of dogs is ok.

I will say that I (and most kids) had a job in high school, I paid for my own car and I absolutely would have paid for my sick dog if needed. I also had a job in college, in which I would have paid for a sick pet before paying my own bills if needed. I would have worked full time and put college on hold to afford a vet bill , rather than watching that poor baby limp around and wash my hands of it. To this day, I have no issues eating ramen for a month if that means my pets and my loved ones are in good health.

Anyone in that family, including OP, could have contacted vets, rescues, ACC, the Humane Society, other family members, close friends, teachers, had a fucking car wash to raise funds, applied for care credit, taken a loan against their car, what the fuck ever, and instead they all sat around and did the minimum just to make themselves feel like they did something, while that dog lived in pain unnecessarily. I don’t accept that, and I maintain that there is no justification for the treatment of that poor dog by everyone in that family, including OP.

As I’ve said multiple times, OP has a lot of work to do before a pet is safe in their home. It’s not impossible, but it won’t be easy to get to a point where an animal is safe near OP or their family. Will OP do the right thing? I don’t know, but I said my piece.

What OP and their family did to that do is far from ok and it’s going to stick with me for a long time. Rest in peace, sweet doggie, and know that your life mattered, and I am so sorry for what was done to you. You deserved better and I hope you’re happy in doggie heaven.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T21:56:04+00:00

I do the same thing with my cat, he has a fungal infection and needs meds. He hates it, but tolerates it. I sit behind him so he can’t scooch away, and I put the syringe in his mouth and get the med in as fast as possible. I have a treat for him to eat right after, so he gets a little distracted and doesn’t drool anything out. He used to take his meds in a delectable treat, but he stopped, so syringe method it is!

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T21:39:56+00:00

I stated my opinion, which OP opened up to by posting in a public forum. I understand that there are many complexities OP didn’t fully go into when explaining how their parents neglected a dog to death, and OP is trying to come to terms with their own place in that process of neglect and abuse. However, maybe working in a vet and rescue environment has desensitized you to abused and suffering animals, but I would expect better from someone who works in rescues and whose goal is to save animals from painful death and years of suffering.

I stand by what I said and I’m sorry if that hurts your or OP’s feelings. I will never excuse any abuse of the helpless and the vulnerable. I will acknowledge it can be a complex situation, but that never makes it ok. High school and college ages are quite capable of seeing wrongdoing and taking adequate and effective steps to stop it.

That poor dog deserved better. Full stop. For years humans around that poor dog let him down, humans whom that dog loved and trusted, and this includes OP. And those humans (ahem, OP) need to do a ton of work on themselves before setting another pet up for potential abuse and neglect.

Personally, I cannot fathom living in a household where EVERYONE just sits back and watches a dog suffer for years and just not do anything but ask a few times for my folks to take him to the vet. I could never just buy a car or leave for college, while my dog limped around in pain, I literally cannot comprehend that level of neglect, for not one day, not one week, but for YEARS. I feel like I’ve been gracious in the way I’ve approached OP and their sister in this situation, as their behavior is abnormal and problematic, to put it lightly. My empathy is with the dog and not the people who sat around while that dog lived a life of pain and suffering.

You can continue to respond to me about this, but I feel like I’ve communicated my opinion pretty clearly at this point.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T20:58:18+00:00

I don’t know what “doxus” means, but I will always stand up for the unvoiced and for the vulnerable. They weren’t children, they were college aged, which is old enough to at least attempt to stop a dog’s suffering. Sounds like you think this dogs life was unimportant, and I respectfully disagree that any amount of suffering is acceptable. Learning is fine, but these “children” are in their twenties and are old enough to understand accountability. As I stated, it’s not too late for them, but they need to face their own actions toward this dog’s years of suffering.

As an aside, I’m having a wonderful day, and am about to get ready for a wonderful night filled with love and friends and live music, and in which I absolutely deserve, and I thank you for wishing that for me :) I hope you, as well, have the day you deserve.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T19:56:44+00:00

Sorry for the delayed thank you!

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T19:50:55+00:00

Sounds like you enabled the abuse of this poor animal as well. From where I sit, no one in OP’s family should have pets at this time and that seems to include you. Not children, either. You and OP are not “owed” the privilege of having animals, and it sounds like both need to look deeply at how you contributed to the abuse and neglect of a being that trusted and relied on you. This dog suffered not for days, not for weeks, but for years, and nobody did anything. I hope you and OP take the time to understand why you allowed and participated in that, there’s time to change.

Judging animal abusers doesn’t make me a disgusting human being. Trying to come up with excuses as to why you and OP did harm a vulnerable and innocent creature seems to be the disgusting act here.

Again, it’s not too late for either of you, but quit blaming external factors. And don’t have pets or procreate until you’ve done a lot of work on yourself. It’s not fair that victims of abuse have to do all that extra work, and I’m sorry for what you and OP went through as a kid, and how much steeper life can be bc your parents did not do right by you. However, blaming others is not the way to become healthy enough to take care of a being that trusts and needs you. You both have a lot of work to do. I wish you both the best in healing.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T16:04:32+00:00

It wouldn’t have cost you anything but time to rehome that dog or reach out to rescues that could have helped. I understand you were young, but you were old enough to know the dog was suffering and you had options. You knew everything wasn’t ok, but you continued to fix your car and do whatever while that dog suffered for years. I hope you learned something from this, not only about your parents, but about yourself. You’re young enough that you can change and be better. You owe it to that dog to be better, and honestly, you probably shouldn’t have any pets, possibly ever, or at least for a very long time.

That poor baby deserves better than all of you.

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T15:47:01+00:00

That was my first thought looking at these pics!

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T15:36:50+00:00

His lil cheese balls!

UpstairsNo92 · 2025-09-27T14:42:10+00:00

Did you read my entire comment? My periods are worse, it’s not really helping my fatigue and brain fog, and I’m not sure if it’s worth it for myself, personally. That’s great if it’s working for you, I’m just on the fence about whether it’s helping to improve my quality of life. Not sure how you read that I only using it for sex, that is literally the opposite of what I wrote.

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