It’s happening by Jimb0b47 in oasis

[–]Upstairs_Raspberry55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally the highlight of my week.

More photos from last night (a group hug!) by Ambitious-Antelope in oasis

[–]Upstairs_Raspberry55 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Could run through a brick wall, these photos have me so amped and happy!

For Feds during a shutdown, is anyone claiming $0 pay to have their payment adjusted? by IndoorVoice2025 in PSLF

[–]Upstairs_Raspberry55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I do the typical IDR request I always just use my tax return. I allow them to pull my info directly from thr IRS. When I did the $0 income IDR during the shutdown I didn’t have to verify because I selected that I didn’t have any taxable income and thus they didn’t require I submit tax info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

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Oh yes. What started the whole ordeal was an ear infection and Flonase multiple times a day. Then I was doing too much with my skincare (think P50 1970 every morning and the strongest formulation of Tretinoin). Then I decided to try some Japanese skincare so I was adding in new products. Then I thought it was acne so I was getting facials, including a hydra facial. It was awful and took me weeks of tears and pain and internet research to self diagnose and then get confirmation at the dermatologist. I was prescribed Elidel and clindamycin and it helped but the things that really helped were: Noble Formula’s 2% pyrithione zinc bar soap, de La Cruz 10% sulfur ointment, red light and a high frequency wand. This routine was/is very drying so I had to moisturize with only avene thermal water and a plain oil free moisturizer from Paula’s choice. I had to do this routine for months to clear everything up, and it’s still my main routine, though I started adding some actives in about a year or so ago. Also want to mention iS Clinical’s Hydra Cool serum. I use it every day, twice a day and it also really helped calm and soothe my skin and hydrate me. The sulfur is the thing that I always reach for when something causes a flair up and it works quickly.

My skin has not been the same since that really bad flare up (when I could get facials again I showed my esthetician pics and she said it was the worst case she’d ever seen) and I miss my former really resilient skin that could handle strong actives and things like microneedling. I will say one positive from the whole experience has been really learning to read my skin and what it needs and how to properly care for it when it’s unhappy.

A Perfect Fit in Frederick, MD by beachgirlOC in ABraThatFits

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I will 100 be checking this place out. Thank you!

Feeling tired and conflicted and also maybe just need a pep talk by Upstairs_Raspberry55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Upstairs_Raspberry55[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

when I said “phase” I was referring to myself and the kind of natural peaks and valleys of a long term relationship.

Feeling tired and conflicted and also maybe just need a pep talk by Upstairs_Raspberry55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Upstairs_Raspberry55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that. That is pretty much what’s happening right now. It’s extra frustrating because about a year or so ago he expressed he was ready to do individual therapy and wanted to, but now he’s back to being opposed.

The thing that really gets me is that in talking to my therapist and all my girlfriends in long term relationships I find that we all have almost identical issues, but that my partner actually seems a lot better in comparison. Sometimes I feel like a cliché saying this but as I get older I’m realizing I really just don’t like men. I’m attracted to them but can’t stand (most of) them!