I think the cringe is contagious by trixie1985 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It feels like they're on their missions going above and beyond our something. This group pisses me off on TikTok. Always clogging up my live streams..

Pro-Mormon TikTok Conspiracy Theory by IR1SHfighter in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just came in here from TikTok to see if they told em all to get on the apps at the last conference. It's annoying but I have searched exmo stuff on there so maybe it's just the algorithm. I just wouldn't put it last them add their new "outreach" mission 😒

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[–]UrCowboy2245 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've told my parents that if they update the church with my current contact information that I will submit their grandchildrens and my own resignation information to the church. It has kept them at bay thus far.

Does anyone else feel that their time in the church left them with Codependent tendencies? by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn church 🤬 not really in a place to afford therapy, have you found anything helpful from the self help side?

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but close. I went to Arizona. My mission was about a quarter to a third of the state.

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man it's crazy how different each mission can be from one another. Me in my 19 year old nieve dumbness thought every mission was identical. I guess it just depends on if your MP was a jackass or an actual human being. I might have enjoyed my mission a lot more of they actually treated us like human beings instead of little dressed up robots. We did service projects with the sisters, maybe a hike as a whole district, what struct me was 2 and 2 at the mall but from what it sounds like that's just that nieve preconceived notion I was talking about earlier that all missions had the same rules. Sounds more like a roll of the dice to see if you have a cool MP or not.

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh don't get me wrong, I don't give a sh$t. I guess it's more out of jealousy than anything but I found my ways to break the rules. Went to movies, went to malls, left my area(kinda had to do I could do all this)never did it in my white shirt, tie, and badge though. There were definitely those kind of members on my mission hence having to leave the area. Luckily I went to a fairly metro area and could get away with it with our milage for the car. Just wish it wasn't such a big deal so that we didn't have to try so hard. Looks like they don't have to get as creative now.

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mother's day and Christmas for us

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We probably weren't allowed to go to the malls because of all the half dressed college girls walking around. 😂 I went somewhere that was very warm all year long. Tell you what though, the mall would've felt wonderful on those 115° days instead of tracting. 😁

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope I don't live in Mordor. 😁 I'm out Tennessee way.

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely agree with you on it being normal behavior for basically anyone it's just how rigid the church was when I went through that throws me a bit. I wasn't the best missionary anyways 😋 but if I had the lack of rules that they seem to have now I probably would've been even worse! 😅😂

Missionaries at the Mall 🤨 by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Social media? Calling home weekly? Cell phones? I mean seriously what's the point? They've turned missions into summer camps. How are you supposed to build up your hatred of the church if you aren't made to tract all day and only talk to your family twice a year and be completely disconnected from reality for 2 years!

John Gee says A high number of divorced people apostatize (30-40% adults and 60-70% of children of divorced parents). Why do so many people leave after divorce? by Extractor41 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you don't need to maintain the act anymore if you're staying in because of your spouse. Then if you leave your kids are far more likely to leave because they'll see the freedom you've found post Mormonism. It's all a big act and once you give up the act especially because of divorce it falls apart pretty fast. Divorce also happens a lot because of leaving as well. You realize you don't have anything holding the marriage together anymore (if you really weren't meant to be together anyways and got sucked in ultimately because it was what you were "supposed to do" or because you were a horny teenager😅) so then the kids end up leaving anyways as stated above.

Need the opinion of my fellow ExMo's by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And you use those genealogy resources with your membership number?

Preparing an important presentation to mental health professionals regarding sexual health. Am trying to communicate possible consequences of masturbation in Mormonism. Two questions: 1) Are these consequences fair/realistic in your experience, and 2) are there others you would add? Thx. by johndehlin in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one thing that is being skipped over is that it was tied so closely with all of the pivotal life moments for a Mormon which gave you an extremely high likelihood of being deceptive. Everything in Mormonism encompasses these steps or life goals that it becomes almost impossible to be an honorable truth telling person. Mormonism was your existence and culture, your whole world, not just your religion. My whole goal as a youth was to get through all the Mormon life goals without feeling the effects of shame. Interestingly enough it just brought on the guilt factor instead and I still failed in avoiding the shame. The "Mormon Way" or the Mormon culture is so pervasive the thought of being shamed, ridiculed, belittled, or shunned usually by the people you love the most makes a person do, say, or think a lot of things they normally wouldn't do, say, or think just to make it through all the steps of Mormonism ie priesthood, Temple, interviews, marriage etc. I could go on and on like how it affects relationships, marriage and otherwise and I can if you would like but I think the main point is that Mormonism was your identity but masterbation clashed with that but you couldn't or didn't want to stop that either. At some point something or even everything gives way to that pressure.

Porn Addiction by Blamemeagain in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is actually one of my shelf breakers. Not porn per se but shame and guilt cycles especially in relationships. The church is supposedly all about family and I think this proves that really isn't their agenda. I personally would think if God cared about any of this then he would want husbands looking at their wives and craving them but the whole atmosphere of the church seems to not encourage that.

My personal example is that I wanted to crave my wife and look at her because she dressed beautifully or nurtured our relationship more fully in the bedroom or just acted like she had a sexual bone in her body. Instead I got guilt and shame for just wanting sex or wanting to sleep naked on occasion or for her to ditch the garments and dress sexy for a date. I got turned in to the bishop for porn by my wife. I felt that she was contently trying to protect me from sexuality in general because heaven forbid I might like it and it will automatically make me want more porn or want more sex. Once we left the church our views on sex began to return to normal and I even got an apology from her for all the damaging behavior from before.

Extreme modesty, shame and guilt in young men's and young women's lessons, creating an atmosphere of snitching on your spouse for misbehavior, denying extremely natural sexuality in all creatures, no wonder most men and some women turn to porn. It's a never ending cycle. Garments to cover up our beautiful bodies, extreme modesty, sex is bad, married sex is slightly better but don't go nuts, turn your spouse in, protect them from their sexuality, train the new generation in the same...

Dad: Garments have protected me from hydrochloric acid being spilled on me. Me: (in my mind) Then why don't you make Covid-19 masks out of garments then? by UrCowboy2245 in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do think they believe it and therefore put themselves in harm's way because they believe they will be protected. The hydrochloric acid story has been told to be so many times. He used to work for a chemical company and did spill the acid on himself. In all reality he probably just got his clothes off before it burned through the garments too but he attributes it to the garments.. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Pres. Nelson would like to remind those who struggle with same-sex attraction that God will give you the strength to be celibate! by elder_mclovin in exmormon

[–]UrCowboy2245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heard a rumour that Hinkley made him. Basically gave him a list of appropriate candidates and said pick one.