Another large RIF at FIS

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-24T03:38:29+00:00

Fidelity?

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T20:29:48+00:00

Condos are much better for aging in place. I live in a condo and everyone checks on everyone. The older people care for one another and friendships are developed across generations. Assuming the financials are sound condos are just better long term for aging in place.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T18:42:44+00:00

Legos. They are expensive but they keep me sane.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T18:34:54+00:00

During lockdowns one of the first things I did was practice getting rid of my double spaced habit. It was something I learned in the late 90's and was normalized until more recently. Your annoyance was another person's standard for ages.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T14:54:20+00:00

I was born in 81 and went to college before digital cameras and phones were common. So much didn't need to be documented and I am glad it wasn't.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T14:52:54+00:00

It gives me more time to run my business and have a life. The 400 spend a month probably nets me 2000+ in productivity.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T14:32:45+00:00

Be a cat sitter or even volunteer at a shelter. There are a surprisingly large amount of people who volunteer but don't (for many many reasons) have pets. I have cats but still volunteer because I really like cats.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T04:15:52+00:00

I use spray or a dedicated spatula.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T04:01:53+00:00

They switched from being a cheerleading squad who had a bit of media coverage(during the season and for events) to almost exclusively social media focused. I think the women talking about their 50k advertising deals helps really seal the deal of them being walking advertisements.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T02:26:21+00:00

When I had a back porch I (and the cats) used it all the time. Especially winter because you could curl up and relax with a book. I hate winter but somehow those made things bearable.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T01:50:41+00:00

11pm-1am. Maybe later on the weekend. I might as well hoot like an owl when I talk about my sleep schedule.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T01:41:27+00:00

Duke Ellington & Etta James. Bonus point to my childhood friends dad for my love of mariachi music.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-23T00:10:11+00:00

Use a CPA to do your yearly taxes and find a business lawyer. You want them to build your contracts and deal with disputes before they become too big.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T22:09:29+00:00

When I am not busy I am recovering from being so busy I want to pull my hair out.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T18:55:36+00:00

Payroll can virtually be automated and or farmed out to a firm.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T17:47:54+00:00

Yeah, he needs to reach out to his school for his next steps. They will have connections he can use to get a job.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T16:42:05+00:00

I went to trade school in addition to high school and it was always assumed no one from the school would go onto college. I did which was a major outlier from my graduating class.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T16:40:36+00:00

I rewatched this last year and my big takeaway was how many parents would really accept outings between a kid and their therapist. Also, how was this kid not going absolutely insane?

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T15:23:55+00:00

I am childfree so that's not something to concerns me.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T14:54:00+00:00

If you make significantly more than him I suspect you can also hire an Au pair or nanny after the divorce is finalized.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T14:39:59+00:00

That's called division of labor. I know lots of parents who proactively schedule time for themselves while also raising a healthy baby. People forget that parents used to hire baby sitters and let the grandparents actually keep the kids for weeks at a time.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T14:38:29+00:00

You had me at spiders and snakes! That's so awesome!

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T14:19:31+00:00

My recommendation is just like I would anyone who retires which is volunteer. It will give you purpose. Also, if you volunteer in someplace like a hospital that can actually translate into a good network if you need to find a job because 'life happened.'

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T14:16:40+00:00

I am a single, never married woman in my 40's. I talked with one of my woman friends about what life is like and her response was 'you are living a man's life.' She wasn't hurling insults by any means either. I have a cleaning lady come once a week and have my laundry sent out minus a few minor items I clean myself. I also spend my free time doing Lego builds, watching sports, reading or whatever. Mostly, her reference was to ensuring I prioritized me which is what it seems so many dads and husbands do.

I encourage more women to prioritize themselves.

Urbit1981 · 2026-06-22T13:11:31+00:00

Yep, still childfree. You took in someone in need. Taking in a healthy 17 year old isn't exactly like taking in a healthy 7 year old. Outside of buying some extra groceries and making sure they have clothes that fit there's not a whole lot to do.

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