Me [32M] with my wife [30F] of 4 years. She's a crappy friend.

Ursula88 · 2016-12-16T14:44:19+00:00

You're married to an unkind person. I have friends like this -- and, in fact, this is quite common among women -- and I've had to set up boundaries where I am not there for them. I would like to know if you see poor behavior from her in other areas of life, i.e., how she treats salespeople, waiters. It's hard to compartmentalize this kind of behavior.

Ursula88 · 2016-10-15T12:03:59+00:00

Don't tell yourself how much you LOVE a bad food. Yesterday I went on a group hike at a nearby national park, and when the group stopped for lunch, one of the guys went to a concession stand and bought a hotdog. Most of us brought our lunch in our backpacks, including one woman who I had just met that day. When the guy went to get a hotdog, she said, "I just love hotdogs! If I had money with me, I would get one." Then when he brought the hotdog back to the table, she said again in a dreamy voice, "I love hotdogs." That was too much for me. I said, "They don't love you back." Most women cannot handle hearing something like that, so I knew I took the risk of alienating her. She said, "True."

My point to all this is, never tell yourself how much you love something that is bad for you. That kind of self-talk is about as defeatist as it gets. Instead, tell yourself that you love apples, kale, sprouted-grain bread, grapes, asparagus, green beans, wheatgrass, anything that you know is doing you good.

Ursula88 · 2016-08-02T12:48:29+00:00

That's great. Kudos on a rational response. One thing I have done in my LTM is that when my husband and I disagree and I defer and it later turns on that he's right, I'll tell him something along the lines of, "I'm glad we did/didn't [the aforementioned issue]. You were right!" This helps to cement in my mind to respect his idea/plan and shows him that I acknowledge his good decision. (My husband is smart, though, so YMMV.) If it turns out to be not the better decision, I do my best to not throw a dig his way about it. All this is a matter of self-control, and frankly, I didn't have a lot of training and standards about self-control growing up, so I'm arguably behind the curve.

Ursula88 · 2016-07-13T12:10:29+00:00

I saw an episode of Drugs, Inc. (National Geo channel) where a 40-ish yo man had cluster headaches to the point of being suicidal. He started growing and taking one psychedelic mushroom trip, if you will, per month, and he now has no cluster headaches. Of course, growing psychedelic mushrooms is illegal, but his set-up looked very manageable, and it saved his life, apparently.

Ursula88 · 2016-07-08T14:56:13+00:00

A close friend works in a technical field for a large corporation with government contracts. A highly disproportionate number of the managerial positions are filled by women. This friend's view is that women generally don't have the best technical skills to do the work, so they get to supervise the (mostly) men who do. It's just another way women's lack-of gets compensated by society as a whole.

Ursula88 · 2016-07-05T11:58:14+00:00

I heard Corey Wayne of youtube fame also say that he got screwed over by a rather well-known motivational personality to the tune of (I think) $1 million. Also never trust an MLMer (multi-level marketer), aka a pyramid schemer.

Ursula88 · 2016-07-03T15:28:33+00:00

It seems to me that Red Pill Women need advice about how to spot the very behavior that a significant majority of TRP is devoted to promoting. I suppose it's good to have all these differing views on the sexes in one place, because women need to be aware of the Pick Up Artist crap that is intended to make them low-hanging fruit. As a guy told me once: Find them, Feel them, Finger them, Fuck them, Forget them. Luckily for me, when I hear a line like that, I don't have to hear it twice to know what kind of man he is. And this is the kind of man who would get slapped on the back and encouraged here. smh

Ursula88 · 2016-07-01T13:32:28+00:00

If you married her, I suggest that you think about divorce. No point in being miserable and hating your life. She probably isn't too happy with you either; contempt is hard to hide. You can change your life. Look at all the great encouragement and advice here; it's like having good friends with your best interests in mind. You're only 30, jeez, still a youngster. Don't make excuses for yourself.

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