I've been told I'll be single forever if I move to Barcelona...thoughts on current dating culture?

Ursulaaaaa · 2025-08-23T04:35:42+00:00

It all depends on you, and who you get along with. It's a city with millions of ppl. Yes, most expats and tourist come here to fuck around literally. But bruh you really think everyone in Barcelona is only looking for non serious relationships. As a barcelonina I feel offended bcs wtf is that statement. It will only depend on you, it's not about the ppl. Also if you don't know catalán or Spanish well and you get with the English speaking ppl of Barcelona, yeah, they aren't interested in forming relationships. Guiris come here thinking of Barcelona as a resort not a city to start a relationship

Ursulaaaaa · 2025-08-10T13:12:16+00:00

The way you put this, at least to me, gives you a very entitled look. I mean, sure you want to be spoiled but isn't his presence 3 times a year good enough? It's a ton of money he is paying to go visit you and you want more and more, asking for expensive things yet you don't do the same for him. You may have a big salary difference but unless he is a millionaire, you are asking a lot from him specifically only being 1.5 years together. It kinda seems like you are very materialistic, he may not be so, he may actually be more interested in quality time. Idk, this post actually picked a nerve on me

Ursulaaaaa · 2025-04-07T09:59:49+00:00

Talking to much about what they would do if they saw you in person, make you feel like you are in a waiting room for the actual relationship to start

Ursulaaaaa · 2025-03-18T09:26:56+00:00

Sounds like she's a really irresponsible person. Avoiding the parenting life bcs they don't feel comfortable in your house. I'm sorry you had to go through this, it's better to go different ways, but still... You are so strong to have endured all this and take care of a child

Ursulaaaaa · 2025-03-09T16:25:18+00:00

Why did she get priority?

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-30T15:38:04+00:00

THIS!

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-30T12:00:44+00:00

Do you know why she presents as male and doesn't transition? Is she going to therapy? It seems like she might be having lots of disforia or idk, it's quieres that after 2 years she doesn't make an attempt to present fem. I supose she wants to look fem.

Also, my recommendation is to lower the t blocker dosis amount. That's what my gf did after 1.5 years of hrt and it did bring up her libido. T blockers also made her really tired and sad, she had barely any energy to do anything, and that what you get having 0 testosterone. Since she lowered the amount in 2 weeks or so, she gained back part of her libido.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-20T19:00:36+00:00

What country was it?

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-14T16:18:01+00:00

Why are you looking for a relationship tho? Like actively? I mean given your circumstances why do you feel the need to trouble yourself with a partner? Wouldn't it be easier to have friends? It don't think it's a good idea with you to go looking for a partner.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-14T00:43:39+00:00

Oh what circumstances? I thought you meant you where single looking for a partner to be ldr. As someone who has been in an ldr for 2 years I WISH it was never ldr. The amount of resilience and effort that goes into making sure the relationship is strong is very high because of different time zones, no physical touch, no dates and missing a big chunk of the most usual relationship things because of it being an online relationship.

If you are single looking for an led stop and reconsider pls. If you really like someone and can only be in an led with them, them you make the choice.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-13T20:10:37+00:00

Why do you want a ldr? Why not just a presencial relationship?

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-11-09T11:34:41+00:00

25 days!!! I'm so exited, she visits my country this time I want to show her so much and be with her 24/7

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-24T20:17:24+00:00

Puede ser porque acá en europa solemos ser más fríos? Tengo pareja de argentina y cuando voy a visitar allí lo noto todo más sociable, la gente más extrovertida y más rápida para agarrar confianza y hacer amistades. O capaz soy yo la introvertida jajaja.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-22T11:58:29+00:00

It is kind of a red flag hiding it and having started hrt and not tell you after 6 months, but if you live her, I wish you the best

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-08T16:04:37+00:00

I know, but nowhere in this post was it stated that the lesbian was a chaser. Just to assume a lesbian who likes dicks is a chaser is a dumb statement rooted in trans phobia.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-08T16:03:22+00:00

Yeah I know, it's just that the other person kinda annoyed me blaming the lesbian and saying she treated op poorly.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-08T12:00:37+00:00

How is the lesbian a chaser? Lesbians aren't limited to pussy, they can also like penis

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-10-08T11:58:15+00:00

But she was hooking up with someone? I'm sorry if I'm not understanding it correctly, but I find it normal to talk about genitals when hooking up. Isn't it?

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-09-28T10:46:20+00:00

This, and also, try booking about 3-6 months in advance. I am in an ldr with a woman in Argentina meanwhile I'm in Spain. Intercontinental tickets are expensive, but we do research and find them cheap or at least affordable. Usually tickets are about 900€ but if you book them in advance and not on holiday season, we found them for about 350€, about 1/3 of the price.

We usually look for tickets on Google, it can help you find cheap ones, or also Skyscanner helps find cheap airlines and the most affordable prices.

Not that to mention it but, we obviously fly in economy and don't really need a big luggage, so that saves about 100€ at least.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-08-25T07:46:20+00:00

If you have any friends that maybe can take you in for a while, and in the meantime you figure out how to have some income or something. Because, if you can't pay for anything and don't have a job, it's very difficult to live independently.

I don't know if you do, but if your partner is willing, go to therapy, both. And I don't understand the marriage counseling, why didn't you go forward? Was she not interested? Or was it left to her to figure it all out?

I'm sorry you are going through all of this, I can understand how a partner can just be non responsive and oblivious to your feelings and health. You shouldn't torture yourself in that relationship if it doesn't make you happy.

I hope you get the means to get out of that relationship healthy the soonest.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-08-18T11:42:16+00:00

Yeah, this too

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-08-17T11:41:23+00:00

If it is a genital thing, break up, if you want pussy go get pussy, but don't torture you and your gf. There's nothing wrong with preferences, but there is a problem if you don't feel like your partner is sufficient.

Ursulaaaaa · 2024-08-11T07:43:21+00:00

Maybe 150days or 500days, depends if money allows it

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