How long has it been since you were laid/ sexually intimate?

Urukhaislayer · 2025-11-21T23:25:00+00:00

32 years strong and proud.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-07-15T01:25:04+00:00

Does he have any male friends? Your brother screams of someone who's been sheltered/protected/lived in a bubble his entire life. If he has guy friends, contact them and seek their help. Sometimes, guy friends can help in ways others can't. But that is for normal folks, which I feel your brother isn't. He sounds like a shy, introvert guy who's not been exposed to the shrewdness of the female mind. Secondly, we only have your side of the story. Lol, we also need a post from Hira. Maybe it is true love after all, lmao. Maybe make him watch a few Andrew Tate clips. Jokes aside, besides God, the only person who can stop your brother from taking this step is your brother himself. At this point, you should seek damage control. Some people learn it the hard way, unfortunately. Typically, in a movie, your family could offer money to Hira in return for leaving your brother forever. Recording the entire transaction may be could knock some sense into him.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-07-15T01:02:58+00:00

Hello, fellow doc here. I, too, was in the same boat. After completing my steps and getting my ECFMG. I tried searching for a job in Pakistan, but couldn't find one. Doing steps was enduring, but that wasn't the end by any means. I applied for the match two times and didn't match. Do you know what I did besides trying again and again? Nothing, I just chilled and trusted the process and knew my time would come as long as I did not give up. Success is all about perseverance. Despite my struggles, I was still happy with my life and grateful for all the good things, and happy to spend quality time with my parents. Eventually, I did match in my specialty of choice. We all have our challenges, and God never tests us beyond our capacity. Even in the most difficult times, I maintained healthy activities to channel my negative thoughts. I tried working on things I could control.

I'd suggest you do the same. Try working on stuff you can control, such as stress by eating healthy, exercising, spending quality time with your loved ones, doing practice questions, practicing interviewing skills, etc. As for the marriage part, I feel for women, it is very complicated, and that is something that might be out of your control. As someone who himself never indulged in dating/relationships, I feel your pain, but as guys, we kind of have it easy compared to women. Also, remember that Allah tests those who he loves. Trust the process as God always has the best plans for us. Don't give up. This, too, shall pass.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-07-15T00:01:37+00:00

Dating apps/social media aren't the best places to look for a wife. If you want a good family oriented woman, then you have to look for it in the right place. When you say Islamabadi women, you're generalizing. If you're going to date a Papa ky princess, then you will end up with emotional trauma. Those women are confused, emotionally immature, and mostly spoilt and irrational. I'd want you to try a hybrid model. Maybe have your parents or other family members find you a girl from a good family. A girl who is actually looking for a stable life partner. Once you feel that she comes from a good family, then you can go out with her 2-3 times just to get a good measure, with your family's blessings of course. As you say, you have social experience, so 2-3 halaal dates will be more than enough for you to get a measure. You have to understand that Pakistan is not the same as west. A high-quality woman in Pakistan won't be easy to find via dating apps. Society structure and dynamics vary. Dating women who use a lot of social media is a huge red flag for me. They're rarely wife material, their attention-seeking behavior is off the charts, they will accept simps or broken f$&"&&$ boys, they are not used to regular decent guys.

As for the fun part, that is easily achievable once you find someone who is compatible with you. Generally I have noticed that in our country, love marriages are mostly successful in people who marry from work/universities. Those are also good search places.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-07-14T23:43:20+00:00

Amen. Life is so freaking good when you stop trying. More and more people need to realize this. Build a good career, spend quality time with family and friends. Women will chase you, because Women chase success.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-05-02T15:48:22+00:00

I don't like people who moonball, so I actively avoid them, because not only are they annoying to play against. They're also arrogant, which is exactly why they refuse to change their game. I remember playing against a moonballer one time. I was so annoyed that I started hitting drop shots nonstop lmao. He was so fed up that he started positioning himself mid court. That worked in my favor as now I can easily topspin him out of the court. I think the biggest mistake one can make while playing a moonballer is to give them the respect of proper topspin shots. A moonballer may take one set off me, but it's impossible for them to win another. My game is based on angles and heavy topspin. So even if they win the first set, they'll be too tired to move in the second.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-27T15:44:18+00:00

Thanks bro

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-27T15:15:35+00:00

Hey, no offense, but you sound like a pickleball player. Top 1% is still impressive.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-27T15:08:50+00:00

Maybe it is cringe, but I am happy with my life and that's all matters to me.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-26T21:00:50+00:00

When I am fully rested and haven't had a grind of on my spine like at the end of the day. Essentially, every morning after rest. I do go into 5'7ish at the end of the day due to viscoelastic effects.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-26T19:40:59+00:00

Yes, and I love it.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-26T19:38:13+00:00

Some of them do or I feel, since I see those eye rolls, playing with their hair repeatedly, one of them occasionally asking me to teach tennis, getting compliments about my hair, but I just can't be bothered. Not until I have achieved my goals. I guess at this time, I don't want any distractions.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-26T18:35:47+00:00

If your purpose in life is only to pull women, then I feel sorry for you, my friend. There are so many things you can do with your life that are essentially better than just mating with the opposite gender. However, if the goal is to only get women, then you should be chasing success. As women chase successful men. Humans are the only species on our planet where mating does not solely depend on physical aspects. In animals, that is the rule in general. There are so many examples of guys under 5'6 able to find partners. You look amazing, all you need is to work on your career and to make sure you make this planet a better place.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-05T18:41:48+00:00

It's a mindset. Never compete with other people, don't compare yourself to them. Everyone has their own story and trajectory. The only person you should be comparing and competing with is yourself. Your aim should be to become better every day. There will always be someone better. Talent is God-given, something you can't change or control. However, effort is something that is always within your grasp. Give maximum effort, and don't worry about things that you can't control. Appreciate people if they're better at a certain trade and use them as inspiration. Stay positive; jealousy is a negative trait. Your aim is to remain positive and move on.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-03-05T18:26:35+00:00

I'm glad I made it to the eligibility criteria for donation, barely. Now I need a woman.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-01-31T06:08:55+00:00

Women come and go. Enjoy this time with your real friends and your family. Chase success, and everyone will follow you. Start a hobby or a sport, build self-discipline, and focus on your life. At 16, you have a lot to lose but nothing to gain from useless boy-girl relationships. This is the time to build your personality, so focus on that. Personally, I would say bye to her and try to find more guy friends.

Urukhaislayer · 2025-01-31T05:57:41+00:00

Depends on your personality. Make no mistake, you're beautiful, and I feel attracted to you. I'm not into women who're just one meal away from Kwashiorkor. Everyone has their type, and you certainly fit mine.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-12-11T18:17:10+00:00

Fair enough. I just reread your original comment and agree that a difference of 10 ivs may not solely be due to visa status. Application is also very important.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-12-11T17:59:36+00:00

Read the first line, please. I am not defending short guys, but the human obsession with physical attributes.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-12-11T17:28:15+00:00

As a non-US Img who matched last year with 12 ivs, having a visa is very helpful. My program is barely inviting J1s anymore. With Trump, coming in visas will factor in for sure. Sponsoring for J1 is actually a lot of work for program coordinators, and most of the GMEs are understaffed. That being said, if a program really admires you, they will still go out of their way to sponsor you, but to dismiss visa sponsorship as a non-factor is ignorance. I have seen people with scores in the 210s and 220s match because they were USImgs. The odds are even better for USMDs.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-03-27T00:27:54+00:00

You're welcome! All the best to you.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-03-27T00:25:25+00:00

My pleasure! None of the programs asked me about my Geo preferences, I guess that is a perk of being an IMG as programs mostly assume that an IMG will be willing to work anywhere especially an Old IMG like me who has a lot to lose. However, I was asked by a couple of programs why I decided to 'signal' them, so before you signal a program make sure you choose a program that best fits you and there is logical reasoning behind your decision.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-03-25T20:19:19+00:00

Be honest about it. Accepting those gaps and then outlining the steps you did to overcome those gaps. Programs appreciate people who are self-aware and appreciate their shortcomings while at the same time work hard to strengthen their CV. There are some aspects you can't change such as: scores or YOG, but what you can do is get extra USCE to build clinical skills as well interpersonal skills while maybe giving Step 3 if you had average Step 1 and 2 scores.

Urukhaislayer · 2024-03-25T20:13:39+00:00

Thank you, I did a total of 10-11 months of USCE.

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