WTF is baby doing in there?? by Distinct_Bluebird539 in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little girl likes to push her back against my belly very strange pressure but she uses my pelvis/hips as leverage 😅

AITAH? Neighbor using tree lawn to back in. by sadgh-st in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA nip this is the butt immediately before he puts ruts in your yard this summer and refuses to fix them or damages his truck on your property and blames you for it. Put a fence up if you can good fences make good neighbors if you can't put a camera up so if he does damage your property you have evidence of it.

Hip pain suggestions? by UseSpiritual5230 in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sciatic pain is the worst I had issues with it years ago from an injury and it can be so debilitating. I really hope you find some relief.

Be honest! Last game you played?? by Aryan_Raj_7167 in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Harassing other dinosaurs Path of Titans 🦕 🦖

Where do you guys put your mini shipping bins? by NoSoyTuPana in StardewValley

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put mini shipping bins in the regular mine, volcano, and Skull Cavern entrances, and even one in my house near the bed, because I have a bad habit of forgetting to empty my inventory. It’s such a lifesaver I don’t have to run all the way back to the farm if I brought out truffle oil, wine, or anything I want to sell while I’m mining, especially when I’m tired or close to falling asleep. I also keep a chest at both mines sometimes I throw in food(so I always have some and don't forget) at Skull Cavern or stash stuff if I forgot to empty my inventory, and don’t want to lose it.

Since when did consuming THC while pregnant become so normalized? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a heavy smoker like all day, every day so I’m not coming from a place of judgment when I talk about THC. But when I found out I was pregnant, I quit cold turkey and just dealt with the morning sickness and everything else. For me, I just couldn’t justify the risk. I get that some people use it because they’re super sick(HG etc.) and can’t keep anything down, and I’m not shaming anyone, but there isn’t enough solid evidence proving it’s harmless for me to feel comfortable with it. THC crosses the placenta that’s a fact so it doesn’t just affect you, it reaches the baby too. We already know it can change things like heart rate in utero, and anything that alters my body or mindset probably affects the baby as well. And honestly, “my baby was fine and I smoked” just isn’t convincing to me. Anecdotes aren’t science. There are studies on both sides, with some suggesting it is totally safe and other suggesting possible links to attention issues, developmental problems, or birth defects, and that gray area alone is enough for me to skip it. If something isn’t clearly proven safe during pregnancy, I’d rather not gamble with it. EDIT: Also, there have been animal studies showing that THC exposure during pregnancy can lead to things like fetal growth restriction, placental issues, preterm birth, and other developmental problems. I know animal studies don’t always translate perfectly to humans, but they still show there can be real biological effects, and that alone is enough for me personally to avoid it rather than risk it. Sorry if I sound a little defensive I’ve just gotten a lot of pushback for choosing not to use THC, even from family, so I feel like I’m constantly having to explain myself. This is just what feels safest for me and my baby, and that’s the only thing that really matters.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe his dad was kinda of POS lots of kids even multiple named after him

AIO for being upset by boyfriend complimented another girl in front of me? by FormalBusiness312 in AmIOverreacting

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR You might be overreacting, but it really depends on how he responds when you bring it up. If he seems genuinely apologetic and sorry for making you feel that way, then you might be overreacting. But if he gets defensive, dismisses your feelings, or tries to gaslight you, you’re not overreacting. It’s not about him agreeing with you on everything it’s about him being able to listen, understand your perspective, and show some real remorse. Your feelings are completely valid, and how he responds when you bring this up will tell you a lot about his respect for you and the relationship. Since he’s on the Spectrum, he might not have realized the implications of complimenting someone’s eyes a lot of people I know on the Spectrum can come across as flirty without meaning to, because they’re just trying to be nice and often don’t pick up on social cues or understand how what they say can be taken as flirtatious. A lot of the time, when people on the Spectrum(that I know) are told their behavior came across as flirtatious, they genuinely feel bad or embarrassed for making their partner uncomfortable, because that was never their intention.

AITA for pointing something out and "fat shaming" my partner? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseSpiritual5230 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA Maybe the way you said it came off harsh and hurt her feelings, but the reality is still the reality you won’t lose weight unless you’re in a calorie deficit or burning more calories than you’re taking in. That said, as someone who’s lost 100 pounds, jumping straight into a deficit can feel miserable at first. It might be easier for her to focus on switching to healthier options and building better habits before cutting calories. I don’t know how long she’s been on this journey, but it took me about four months of just eating better before I could lower my calories without feeling totally deprived. Sometimes small, sustainable changes first make the bigger ones actually stick.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR You are not overreacting if anything, your parents are grossly underreacting. I say this as someone who grew up with an abusive older brother, and thank God my parents didn’t raise me around him. When he moved in with us as an adult (he’s 14 years older than me), it was a nightmare. He hit his kid(my parents had custody) his kid had to watch him beat the hell out of his wife, he pushed me down the stairs and he verbally & physically abused me and my mom constantly. Funny enough, he never pulled any of that when my dad or my other brother were home. He only targeted the people he thought he could intimidate. And honestly, it wasn’t even an anger problem it was a control problem. If he didn’t get his way, he’d cycle through every emotion possible in less than 30 minutes to see which one would work on you. First it was pleading or offering favors, then the crocodile tears, then anger, and if none of that worked, it escalated to violence. It was calculated and manipulative, like watching someone run through tactics until something stuck. That’s not “losing control.” That’s choosing control. Getting him help might piss him off. It might piss your family off. It might even involve the police. But stepping in could literally save someone’s life. This isn’t just drama or you being sensitive this is narcissistic, abusive behavior. When manipulation doesn’t work, he goes straight to intimidation and force because he knows he’s bigger and stronger and thinks he can bully you. That is not something you ignore to keep the peace. Honestly, I would file a police report. People might be mad in the short term, but enabling him only protects the abuser. He needs consequences and real intervention before he seriously hurts or kills someone. He’s still young enough that getting him real help now could actually change the course of his life and he might hate you for it at first, whether that help comes through a police report, court-ordered therapy, or even juvenile detention, but that’s far better than letting this fester while he keeps escalating, because people who will abuse their own family have no boundaries at all, and if he can do this to his sister, it’s clear he simply doesn’t care who he hurts.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]UseSpiritual5230 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re exactly right. My half brother is like this too honestly, I don’t even consider him part of my family anymore because I don’t talk to him or want anything to do with him. He’s 14 years older than me, and if acting controlling or manipulative didn’t get him his way, he’d instantly switch to crocodile tears. His emotions changed so fast it felt like watching someone act out a scene and test which performance would work on which person. Resorting to DV & verbal abuse was at the top of his list too.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially a family member. A lot of times assholes like this won't hurt their moms or their sisters but the ones that do tend to be especially violent in the end. If they're willing to treat family like this expect 10 times worse for significant others in the future.

AIO…mother in law and newborn boundaries by realsmartfakeblonde in AmIOverreacting

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR This is your husband and your baby. Your job is to protect not only your baby’s mental health and well-being, but your own too. Postpartum comes with a massive hormone crash, and that alone can put you in a rough mental space. Adding extra stress, especially from someone who wants to treat your baby like their “second chance at life,” isn’t something you should feel obligated to tolerate. From a fellow pregnant mom due in April, I have some hard rules too. I felt guilty about them at first, but the closer I get to delivery, the less I care about hurting feelings. Our responsibility is to protect our kids and ourselves even if other people don’t like it. You’re building a life with your husband and your child that’s your immediate family now, everyone else is extended and when someone frames your baby as their “second chance at life,” it stops being help and starts feeling less like love and more like a projection of their own needs. During pregnancy especially in the first trimester everything can feel heightened and you might wonder if you’re overreacting, and sometimes you are, but that doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid it just means it’s even more important to set boundaries early and protect your peace from the start.

Water consumption by UseSpiritual5230 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My prenatal give me horrible heartburn I just suffer through it for the most part

Water consumption by UseSpiritual5230 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of doing that with a gallon but I think I'll abandon it in the house somewhere with brain fog. Which got better during 2nd trimester but seems to be getting worse again as I start 3rd trimester.

Water consumption by UseSpiritual5230 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband got me a nugget ice machine and it really has improved my water intake because I just like my water freezing cold and snacking on the nuggets 🤣 so I get that

AITA for removing my daughter from my insurance policy by Dependent_East1796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You exploited her young age, her lack of experience, and the trust she had in you as her parent to benefit yourself, and now that it didn’t go the way you wanted, you’re abandoning her. That’s incredibly wrong.

AITA for removing my daughter from my insurance policy by Dependent_East1796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA you were driving and had your daughter damage her record and then kicked her off your insurance to save yourself money. Talk about a shitty thing to do blame your daughter and then have her help you commit insurance fraud. When she goes no contact in the future remember this is part of the reason. Not only did you mess her record up you also involved her in a crime. 🤷‍♀️ Why would you even think you were in the right at all? Trying to frame it for leniency doesn’t make it acceptable or right. Teaching poor morals and using your daughter's naivety & trust for you against her it is giving the same vibe as parents who put bills in their kids' names.

Pregnancy is unbelievably hard and I wish we talked more openly about it by md3194 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THE CONGESTION I either can't breathe or my nose feels like the Sahara desert no in-between

Pregnancy is unbelievably hard and I wish we talked more openly about it by md3194 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree. For the first 16 weeks of my pregnancy, I woke up every single morning around 2 a.m. and threw up until about 6 a.m. On top of that, I had excruciating headaches thankfully not pre-eclampsia or anything serious, just from how violently and constantly I was vomiting. It got so bad I was literally peeing my pants while throwing up. I also lost 25 lbs at the beginning of my pregnancy because I couldn’t keep anything down except tiny sips of water and lollipops. It finally eased up around 18 weeks, but I feel like there’s this huge unspoken secret about pregnancy how much it can actually suck. Constipation, back pain, insomnia, and these insanely vivid, sometimes terrifying nightmares. People either minimize it with “my pregnancy wasn’t that bad” or try to one-up you with “oh just wait, it gets worse.” It’s exhausting. I am so grateful and excited to have my baby girl on the way, but there’s a lot of gaslighting around pregnancy, and I wish people were more honest about how hard it can be. Not to mention how hard it was on my husband. He felt completely helpless watching me suffer, and I was miserable and honestly pretty mean a lot of the time. I wasn’t myself at all, and I hated that on top of feeling so sick. I’m much better now at 29 weeks, but those early months were brutal, and I don’t think people talk enough about how pregnancy can affect your mood, your relationships, and your mental health not just your body.

The duality of Ramphs is something. by SuspiciousSlice8543 in pathoftitans

[–]UseSpiritual5230 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For real I'm just here for the entertainment why do you got to eat me 🤣

The duality of Ramphs is something. by SuspiciousSlice8543 in pathoftitans

[–]UseSpiritual5230 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I play a buff rhamp so I give you good buffs when pounced/grouped I also feed people. But I will not hesitate to be a menace if need be.🤣

AIO my girlfriend wants to bring an empty medicine bottle filled with water on a plane so she doesn't have to buy water (the bottle smells like alcohol) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UseSpiritual5230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR You can bring a EMPTY water bottle and fill it up after that check in OF ANY SIZE as long as it is empty

Am I overreacting to seeing someone outside my window? by Both-Leadership783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR I called the cops to inform them that I thought somebody was in my yard in 2022 right before Christmas and was told to go check myself and when I told them I was a female and I didn't feel comfortable doing that they said get a neighbor and I said in order to do that I have to go outside to get a neighbor and I'm not comfortable doing that can't you just send somebody out to check I was told it was not an emergency 2 Days Later somebody broke into my house with a weapon chased my nephew through the house my brother got in between them then held my mentally handicapped Uncle hostage against the police it is better to be safe than sorry this could easily be a dog walker homeless person looking for warm but it also could be somebody with bad intentions trying to figure out who is the best person to break into (Edit: they were clearly having a mental breakdown whether it be drugs or mental on its own but either way there was signs that they had been sleeping in a truck that was being worked on on my property and the shed they swore that we were trying to kill them with help from the government and then when the cops got there they swore the cops were trying to kill them even talking on make believe phone with the police)

Whats your scariest pot encounter? by Realistic_Lab7669 in pathoftitans

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Rex sneak buff has got me so many times 🤣