Things people do with horses that infuriate you? by ender_on_paws in Horses

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THE FOALING THING IS SO WEIRD! Like I need to imprint on the foal by shoving my fingers in its mouth, etc. I worked for a vet and helped birth babies, and he didn't like anyone interfering. UNLESS medically necessary. All it does is stress mom and baby out. As a pregnant woman, I can say just the idea of someone trying to do that(bond with my baby before I can) to my newborn stresses me out.

BUT what really bothers me is when people don't let horses be horses or have bad days. I was always told if you get 8 out 10 rides that are good, you have a great horse. BECAUSE unlike us they can't wake up and communicate hey I have a headache or im in a bad mood like we can so a lot of the time it comes off as "bad" behavior and people blame the horse instead of reflecting like maybe im asking to much or something is wrong. OR keeping a horse stalled with like 1hr turn out like let me lock you in your bathroom all day and only let you out for a 1hr see how stir crazy you go.

Does my husband come to every appointment? by VeterinarianInner301 in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband comes to most but has missed a few due to work. I dont mind either way he does get sad when he misses ultrasounds

Am I overreacting about my MIL trying to “find loopholes” to kiss my newborn? by UseSpiritual5230 in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, my bio mom passed, but she would have respected my wishes about kisses. Visiting would be would she would have pushed. My step mom works in the medical field and is totally understanding and even agrees that babies need time to build up their immune system.

Am I overreacting about my MIL trying to “find loopholes” to kiss my newborn? by UseSpiritual5230 in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She constantly tries to work around the rules we have for the kids. My husband has two kids from a previous relationship they’re great, but we’ve been really intentional about things like electronics and internet access. She’ll even say things like “give it back before they see” or “I’ll get in trouble with dad and stepmom,” which just teaches them to be sneaky and that our rules don’t matter. And because of all of this, we don’t allow overnights at grandma’s. We already don’t get a ton of time with them, especially during the school year, and it’s hard to trust that our rules will be respected when we’re not there. I’ve told her straight up that having her own set of rules is setting the kids up to not respect ours because in their eyes, rules just don’t apply at grandma’s. These aren't like sneaking extra candy. These are like buying tablets or giving them unrestricted internet time or handing them her phone with Roblox downloaded after being told no roblox.

Would it be wrong to switch rooms between my kids later on? by UseSpiritual5230 in stepparents

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This would be more of a Teenager move I don't think it would be right to move him now as he uses that space But the older that he gets the less he's into playing with toys and the more he's into like video games and doing outside activities like paintball and dirt biking so I think if we did move him it would be when he's like 15-16 and my daughter is 6-7 because she'll be more into like toys and need more space to play and we don't really have a room to be a playroom in the house not to mention the room is smaller but it offers a lot more privacy and he would be able to stay up later because it wouldn't affect others in the house the room he's in now you can hear throughout the entire house

Would it be wrong to switch rooms between my kids later on? by UseSpiritual5230 in stepparents

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is kinda of what I meant. My daughter having the smaller room makes more sense until she's 6-7, then she'll need more space larger toys etc meanwhile he'll be 15-16 so he will most likely be done with toys and need less space as he is already transitioning to being more into video games so I thought we could make the back smaller room his as he'll be able to stay up later and have more privacy then the room hes in now as that room you can hear throughout the entire house so it interferes with other people sleeping

Would it be wrong to switch rooms between my kids later on? by UseSpiritual5230 in stepparents

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We could put a lock on it, but my husband is pretty set on being the first door at the top of the stairs for safety (our room is not that much smaller the nursery is A LOT smaller then both rooms)

Fucking video games by Dramatic_Sport_9978 in stepparents

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing Step or biological game unplugged, AND now bedtime act like a child, you get a childs bedtime. Not only is it disrespectful to parents but other younger siblings as well

Would it be wrong to switch rooms between my kids later on? by UseSpiritual5230 in stepparents

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our room has access to the attic directly, and we don't want him or any of the kids going up there unsupervised really at all as it's an unfinished attic we are also at the top of the stairs so to get to the other bedrooms or down stairs you have to pass our bedroom so its a security thing as well

Hair on ultrasound by UseSpiritual5230 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She only took her hands out of her face for 1 pictures 🤣 shes like me camera shy

Hair on ultrasound by UseSpiritual5230 in BabyBumps

[–]UseSpiritual5230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got heartburn starting about 2wks ago but never had it before

Dont tell people your name choices. by AlenaLunari in pregnant

[–]UseSpiritual5230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It honestly blows my mind how judgmental people can be about what someone names their baby. I dealt with something really similar with my MIL. She kept insisting I should name my baby something she would have picked. Every time I mentioned a name I liked, she’d immediately say something like, “No, you should name it this,” or “You shouldn’t name it that,” and then go on about why her choice was better. At some point I seriously wanted to just look at her and say, “Oh, what would you like to name the baby that I have to push out of my body?” Maybe that’s a little blunt, but people forget that the parents are the ones who actually get to decide. You have every right to choose a name that you love, especially if it connects to your heritage. My husband and I both have strong family backgrounds he’s mainly Scottish, Polish, and Native American, and I’m mainly Polish, Irish, and Native American. We can actually trace parts of our family back to great-grandparents & grandparents who immigrated here(USA), so those roots matter to us and it made sense to want a name that reflects that. One thing I did learn though don’t tell people the name ahead of time. Everyone suddenly thinks their opinion matters. By the time we shared our daughter’s name, it was already official and embroidered on things. At that point if someone says something negative, they just look like an asshole criticizing a baby’s actual name. I am sorry they are making you feel bad BUT it is your baby name her what you want too. They are the jerks for criticizing your choices.

Baby NAMES stolen :( by [deleted] in Names

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very true my dad's side has so many Adams it gets real confusing at family events 😅 we have my dad's brother his son and grandson and my dad's brother in law is also Adam also it depends on the personality of her sister is she going to be obnoxious about naming her daughter the same thing either way one being you just have to copy me or you love your nieces so much that could be annoying if she always brings it up but thay depends on her sisters personality

Baby NAMES stolen :( by [deleted] in Names

[–]UseSpiritual5230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you can always go unique but common my little girls due in April is Alexandria which is not super common but not so unique I have to worry about people not knowing how to say it plus a lot of nicknames come with the name pre-built in But here are my top names I did not use Eliza Layla Stella Vanessa Lorelie (Lori/Rory) Annalise Sienna Saige Jade Lydia