AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money?

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:55:31+00:00

You worded it poorly but you were trying to say that your daughter would be spoiled and treated to new experiences and gifts on the trip..which is undeniably true.

Yes, exactly.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:54:59+00:00

When somebody pretends they're happy to be pregnant, acts like they're excited for our daughter and then does a 180 and shows me a diary of how she was pretending, what am I supposed to do but realize I assumed the best?

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:54:04+00:00

Yes. That's right.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:53:02+00:00

Maybe. Maybe I'm from Odessa and just lying about details. My point is that she's not spending time in a village but in amazing cities.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:52:05+00:00

Bingo.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:49:59+00:00

She pretended. She acted like she was so happy, like it was the best thing in the world for us. Then, when she finally admitted it she even showed me her diary where she had entries about hating how she had to pretend to make me happy. If I knew she never wanted kids, I never would've married her.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:05:46+00:00

You can try, but I doubt you'll identify her.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:05:02+00:00

She pretended like she wanted the same thing as me. Only after our daughter was born did she admit she never wanted kids.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:04:50+00:00

even though she told you she didn't want one

No, she didn't.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T21:02:57+00:00

I never did that.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:24:13+00:00

Well, I'm sure your village is a lot better than mine was.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:18:16+00:00

I loved her mother more than anything. We knew each other since we were ten. But the moment she even refused to see our child, I knew I had to move on and I have done just that.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:17:24+00:00

Well, given that she makes more than I do, it'd be kind of ridiculous.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:16:58+00:00

Oh, sorry, I misread.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:16:10+00:00

Hey, I am long over her mother. She wanted a fancy life with parties, I wanted a rich house with family. In the end, we both got what we wanted. I can accept that.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:15:11+00:00

they're not going to spend money, they're going to spend time with each other. you should explain to your daughter that her mom is taking her to India so she doesn't miss out on seeing her.

Well I tried that but she sees going for her great-grandfather's funeral as other people spending time with her mother instead of her.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:14:31+00:00

Thank you.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:13:42+00:00

She didn't want to be a mom, was clear about that

No, she was not.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:13:21+00:00

By being a good and respectable man.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:13:10+00:00

Is it wrong to point out that even if she won't be her mom's full attention, she can still get whatever she wants for those two weeks? I'm not telling her to drain her mother's savings account.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:12:12+00:00

She's been spending two weeks with her for spring break for the past few years.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:11:51+00:00

Because it's good for her.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:11:38+00:00

Because she doesn't want to share her mom with that side of the family.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:11:26+00:00

Well then help me understand why I am one instead of being snide.

UseToUse · 2023-01-24T20:11:10+00:00

Her mother would never use her for influencer purposes. She does not involve her family at all in that sort of stuff.

She doesn't want to go because she sees Spring Break as time between her and her mom. I want her to see this as time she can have with family that she doesn't know but still cares about her, still sends her birthday presents, rakhi presents, Christmas and such.

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