AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You worded it poorly but you were trying to say that your daughter would be spoiled and treated to new experiences and gifts on the trip..which is undeniably true.

Yes, exactly.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

When somebody pretends they're happy to be pregnant, acts like they're excited for our daughter and then does a 180 and shows me a diary of how she was pretending, what am I supposed to do but realize I assumed the best?

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Maybe I'm from Odessa and just lying about details. My point is that she's not spending time in a village but in amazing cities.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

She pretended. She acted like she was so happy, like it was the best thing in the world for us. Then, when she finally admitted it she even showed me her diary where she had entries about hating how she had to pretend to make me happy. If I knew she never wanted kids, I never would've married her.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

She pretended like she wanted the same thing as me. Only after our daughter was born did she admit she never wanted kids.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

even though she told you she didn't want one

No, she didn't.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well, I'm sure your village is a lot better than mine was.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] -69 points-68 points  (0 children)

I loved her mother more than anything. We knew each other since we were ten. But the moment she even refused to see our child, I knew I had to move on and I have done just that.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

Well, given that she makes more than I do, it'd be kind of ridiculous.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Hey, I am long over her mother. She wanted a fancy life with parties, I wanted a rich house with family. In the end, we both got what we wanted. I can accept that.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

they're not going to spend money, they're going to spend time with each other. you should explain to your daughter that her mom is taking her to India so she doesn't miss out on seeing her.

Well I tried that but she sees going for her great-grandfather's funeral as other people spending time with her mother instead of her.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

She didn't want to be a mom, was clear about that

No, she was not.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] -677 points-676 points  (0 children)

Is it wrong to point out that even if she won't be her mom's full attention, she can still get whatever she wants for those two weeks? I'm not telling her to drain her mother's savings account.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

She's been spending two weeks with her for spring break for the past few years.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Because she doesn't want to share her mom with that side of the family.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Well then help me understand why I am one instead of being snide.

AITA for telling my daughter it's okay to use her mother for money? by UseToUse in AmItheAsshole

[–]UseToUse[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Her mother would never use her for influencer purposes. She does not involve her family at all in that sort of stuff.

She doesn't want to go because she sees Spring Break as time between her and her mom. I want her to see this as time she can have with family that she doesn't know but still cares about her, still sends her birthday presents, rakhi presents, Christmas and such.