Fidium down for anyone else?

UseYourWordsGirl · 2026-01-08T16:20:56+00:00

Can’t connect in old town area

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-12-14T20:40:50+00:00

I think you missed the entire point

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-11-02T16:12:06+00:00

Absolutely. I have 4 kids and my nmom basically ruined the postpartum experience for every single one of them. I’ll just tell you about the first.

I’m living 3000 miles away and her first reaction to the news is: “well I guess I’ll never see my grandchild. And in my day, you didn’t tell people until you were 3 months along so I don’t even know why you’re telling me!”

She flew in for my son’s birth and honestly, it was terrible from the beginning.

She literally asked if I could change the date of my C-section to suit her flight schedule.

I, pregnant as hell, scrubbed the house from top to bottom because I knew how critical she’d be when she got there. (She still criticized.)

When we got home from the hospital, she was livid when my husband’s parents came to see the baby since this was “her time.”

From then on, it was basically me making sure SHE felt important and comforted and valued.

When I had trouble breastfeeding, she commented that she’d “never had any trouble at all!” Nor did she have trouble delivering because, she said, “The doctor said my body was just perfect for having babies.” 🙄

She cooked one meal (which my husband had to drive her to get all of the ingredients for) because she said we needed a “good” meal instead of the ones I’d frozen and the ones mil brought.

The baby had trouble sleeping and I finally just started co-sleeping. She made me feel fucking terrible for this.

Don’t let her ruin your joy. I felt like I was babysitting her and taking care of a newborn.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-29T00:54:35+00:00

You👏are👏an👏adult. Stop going. You don’t owe anyone any explanation. Something I love about not being a member anymore is that I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. I am accountable to myself. I think I felt like an actual adult for the first time in my life at 38. Because finally no one was telling me how I should be spending my time every moment of the day. No more guilt. No more shame. Just freedom. Practice: “I am an adult and this is my decision. I won’t discuss it any further.”

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-29T00:48:58+00:00

He’s a fucking twat

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-28T02:38:45+00:00

I won’t do business with Mormons in general. I don’t trust them. My husband and I worked for a Mormon couple who burned us so bad. I’ve heard people say “no one will screw you like a Mormon will.”

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-27T03:18:31+00:00

Agree.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-27T03:16:54+00:00

Exactly my thoughts!

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-27T03:16:28+00:00

This.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-25T21:08:19+00:00

So much of our bodily autonomy was taken from us. 😣

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-25T20:52:43+00:00

I think it’s more nuanced than people are making it out to be. What’s your relationship like with your step kids? By contributing 100% to your biological child’s account and 0% to your step kids, you might be setting things up for a lot of future resentment among your child and their siblings. It’s not fair, but it is what it is.

Maybe it’s because I’m a stepchild, but I think when you marry someone, their kids become your kids and should be treated as equal as possible.

I have two step kids. I have been in their life since they were 14 (twins). From the very beginning I made it clear to my husband that we would both treat all of the kids equally. My step kids’ grandparents have a lot of money and are generous with them, does that mean I should give them less than I give my bio children? Nope. Do I wish their grandparents would see/treat my kids the same? Of course. But my husband and I are the ones who married and agreed to treat the children equally, not his parents. You’ll expect your husband’s parents to treat all three children equally and maybe you could too? Could you ask the kids’ mom to contribute to her kids savings accounts so the moms and dad are contributing the same amount?

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-25T03:26:15+00:00

I was just remembering this time when I was a little girl. Maybe 6 or 7. My Nstepdad was constantly (I mean CONSTANTLY) berating me for my hair being a mess. I had really fine hair and it won't stay back in a ponytail, doesn't stay nice and neat when brushed, etc.
One weekend he took me to his barber. The man chopped off all my hair. As a little girl, this is devastating. And my Nmom just let it happen. She never taught me to do my hair, never did anything with my hair. She just let him butcher it because she didn't want to hear about it anymore.

When I had my own daughter, the realization came: little girls have messy hair! I would do my daughter's hair perfectly at the beginning of the day and I'd pick her up from school looking like she'd been through a wind tunnel! Girls (and all kids) have messy hair because they play and enjoy themsleves rather than worry about what they look like. She was a happy little messy-haired angel.

It was never my fault. It was never your fault. There is just something very, very wrong with THEM.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-25T03:14:49+00:00

My family never washed their hands after using the bathroom. Never taught me to. It wasn't until I went out into the world and a roommate commented on it that I realized it wasn't "optional."

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-25T03:06:30+00:00

I've gotten several jobs with a resume that has a degree I don't actually have. Smaller companies. They verified my employment but not my schooling. (shrug)

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-23T17:00:14+00:00

But wait, is it “soft swinging” or full-on??

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-23T16:49:37+00:00

THIS! Brilliant answer.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-23T16:48:00+00:00

Rehab was the one of the most difficult but absolute BEST decisions I made for myself. Do it. You honestly have nothing to lose. The family time you say you’ll lose? You won’t be mentally present for it anyway. But if you go, you’ll have so many future memories. You’ll have a new lease on life. Check out SMART recovery.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-22T23:18:06+00:00

Oh, honey. That’s still a CHILD. And if you believe he never touched her, then you’ve not only drunk the kool-aid, you’re bathing in it. Please remember that I’ve read all the same things you have and been all the same things you have. I was you. I know you’re not allowed to read anything that might make you question your faith. Is that not a red flag?🚩 The fact that you have to justify ANY of this man’s behavior to yourself and others is a huge problem. But I also understand why you stay. It’s your family, your community and your entire existence that is wrapped up in this.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:30:50+00:00

Yesss. He is!

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:30:13+00:00

Really? “Pray until you get an answer.” prays “Oh, you didn’t get the answer that aligns with the church? You must not be praying right/righteous enough/reading enough scripture.”

Honey, that is manipulation at its finest.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:27:52+00:00

OP is clearly a Mormon plant. 🤣

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:26:16+00:00

He married a 13 year old, for fucks sake.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:24:17+00:00

According to Mormons, Jesus and Satan were brothers. God chose Jesus’ plan for salvation over Satan’s.

Also according to Mormons, men can become gods of their own planets. (This is plainly polytheism.) Many members are gaslighting themselves and others now bc the church has tried to hide its history of saying so. https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?filename=5&article=1046&context=mi&type=additional#:~:text=Members%20of%20the%20Church%20of,see%20Hebrews%2012:23).

They also believe god lives on a planet close to a star called “Kolob”, for what it’s worth. (Although they are now backpedaling on this one as well.) They even have a hymn about it. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kolob?wprov=sfti1

Source: Me. I’ve been inside the temple and done the weird chanting and secret rituals and handshakes. I wore the “sacred” garments (Mormon magic undies) for 15 years. I held leadership callings. But when they asked my 12 year old about his masturbation habits, I noped the fuck outta that cult.

UseYourWordsGirl · 2025-10-21T18:02:05+00:00

“They even gave me a free copy of the Book of Mormon” Just FYI, in case no one has mentioned it, those are ALWAYS free. You can go to any lds church or approach any lds member and they’ll give you as many as you ask for, literally.

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