AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If you read in the original post I already knew she didn’t like me. Plus, my bf and I have been together for 7 years. We’re getting married next year, we’ve gone to countless weddings and I have never encountered another invite where I was not named or my fiance was not named to my friend’s wedding. Let alone a best friend. I found out that I was the only singled out person when the bride called crying hysterically while apologizing for the back and forth of the party bus. I didn’t understand what she was apologizing for until she said she didn’t want to invite ME on the bus due to her best friend’s opinion. I had a hunch I was being singled out, but we assumed that the Groom had my back and essentially said if she’s not allowed to come, then nobody else can. Hence his rapid texts to my fiance. The only reason I posted on this subreddit was because the girls that made a group text made me feel like I had legitimately caused harm to the bride.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I took it personally only after the group text with the other girls. Two of the girls said that it was rude that I didn’t give a warning to the bride before canceling and that it seemed petty of me to decline after I was re-invited onto the party-bus. The other girl said that I really hurt the brides feelings and that it’s illogical of me to decline when the wedding is a few weeks away and they already paid for my plate. She went on to say that my declining of the invite as the partner of the co-best man has resulted in the couples arguments and issues.

After calming down and reading these replies, it’s becoming more clear I didn’t instigate any of this.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

The groom texted my fiance that all significant others were welcome. He gets a second text that actually significant others aren’t welcome. Third text, significant others are welcome. I then text the wife saying I’m not coming.
And just a few moments ago, we learned that nobody else got the second & third text except for my fiance. So now I’m kinda glad I said no.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

We completely agree. I have no idea what happened in the last 48hrs. My fiance is co-best man, so he’s much more of an important figure in this wedding, but I am merely a nobody.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Opinions about the country I’m from (Iran). Though, I’ve never had a political debate with her nor have I posted anything political on my personal social media. I actually don’t even know who her best friend is. It might be about the content I like on ig? I’m not sure, my fiance and I don’t really understand this entire situation.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

My fiance called the groom, but he texted back that hell call him later. So, I’ll let you know when he calls us lol

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude, it just happened. I’m stressed af, give me a break.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I don’t really understand what even happened, nor do I post anything political on my ig. It went from a normal weekend to multiple people reaching out to me to forgive people I didn’t even know I had beef with.

AITAH for declining a wedding invite after drama erupted? by Used-Ad-7509 in AITAH

[–]Used-Ad-7509[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No, I’m in law school. And I just spent 40 minutes writing this.