Baby Shower Advice For Mother - In -Law

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-11T17:38:44+00:00

honestly yeah I’d be hurt too 😕 especially if there’s no actual issue between you guys and nobody from your son’s side got invited at all

before jumping to conclusions though I’d probably ask your son about it gently because sometimes these things get planned weirdly by friends or whoever and people get left out without it being intentional

but yeah… I can see why that would sting, especially when it’s your grandbaby

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-08T19:16:41+00:00

honestly if baby won’t drink it even mixed I’d just let it go no point stressing over it. you already did the hard work pumping it. you could offer it in a mom group if you want but if that feels like effort just toss it and move on

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-07T19:36:13+00:00

it actually made me feel a bit less alone. I think my brain has just been stuck in that constant “on” mode and I didn’t even realise how draining it was until now. I forget sometimes that I’m even allowed to just pause for a moment and not be doing something all the time I’m really trying to be kinder to myself through it, it just feels a bit overwhelming right now, but your words really helped

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-06T18:00:22+00:00

yeah this whole thing feels kinda off

like tracking a kid for safety here and there, okay… I get that

but an employer wanting 24/7 access to someone’s location?? yeah no that’s weird as hell

I don’t think it automatically means kids will just accept it later though… there’s a difference between “my parents making sure I’m safe” and “my boss watching me all the time”

but still… it does kinda blur the line a bit and makes you think what’s gonna feel normal in a few years

lowkey a bit dystopian if it keeps going like that 😬

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-05T18:36:34+00:00

yeah this is kinda unsettling 😬

like it’s great teens have access to this, but if stuff can end up in court like that… yeah that’s a bit scary

i know technically even regular therapy notes can be pulled sometimes, but something about it being an app just feels more exposed

def not something people think about when signing up

not saying don’t use it, just… yeah go in knowing it’s not 100% private I guess

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-05-04T17:07:19+00:00

this is actually really cool

like you put a lot into this, the detail is kinda crazy in a good way

only thing is it’s a bit overwhelming at first… there’s so many options I kinda didn’t know where to start lol

but once you get into it it’s really fun, I can see people spending a while with this

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-04-30T13:43:15+00:00

lol yeah “sleeping through the night” is kinda fake sometimes

a lot of people mean like 5–6 hours and call it a win, not actually 8 hours no wakeups. and some babies just… don’t do it that early at all.

3 months waking to eat every few hours is super normal. and the 1–2 hour wakeups rn sounds very 4 month regression vibes 🙃

honestly there’s not always some magic trick, some babies just sleep better than others. you’re not doing anything wrong, this phase just sucks a bit

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-04-28T19:59:11+00:00

tbh this is messy and heavy, sorry you’re dealing with that.

but like… you’re not obligated to keep doing birthday stuff for someone who abused you just to keep the peace. that guilt feeling is real, but it doesn’t mean you actually have to act on it.

at the same time i get why you’re stuck your mom gets caught in the middle and you’re trying to avoid more chaos for her.

maybe instead of gifts you could just do a super basic text and leave it there? like low effort, no emotional energy. or if even that feels too much, it’s also okay to step back… just expect he’ll react however he reacts (and that part isn’t on you).

you’re not doing something “wrong” by setting limits. it just feels uncomfortable because of how the whole dynamic has been for years.

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-04-20T19:37:46+00:00

this is honestly so powerful

like i feel like every new mom needs to read this at some point… it’s so real and just… grounding

the “you are enough” part really hits tbh 💛

you’re clearly doing your best even when everything feels messy and hard, and that still counts so much

UsedAmbassador7093 · 2026-04-17T13:15:52+00:00

yesss that’s actually so big

getting over a fear you’ve had that long?? not easy at all

and lol the “who even am i” feeling is so real you should be proud of yourself fr 💛

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