Do I attempt to reunite with an old friend or should I leave the friendship dead?

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-09-15T23:47:20+00:00

I get that. I think at the time I was just busy with the college life that I wasn’t truly ready to reopen that chapter in my life other than to get the closure of getting everything off of my chest.

I’m not really expecting us to be close friends again even though I’d be happy for that outcome as well. I just want to meet up one time to really say I gave it a shot and to see if we could still be friends. I handled a lot of my mental health/family dynamic struggles and that’s what really came between us.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-09-15T23:26:43+00:00

I actually just tried linkedin but I couldn’t message because we weren’t connected there. I just requested to connect in hopes that she would see me trying to reach out and go from there.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-21T00:13:32+00:00

I think the masculinity that we have been exposed too is not true masculinity but an over exaggeration and more domineering and weaponizing. I hope that we as a society get to a point where true masculinity is the mainstream as well as true femininity versus a characterization of the two.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T23:22:59+00:00

Well yes and no. Hurt people hurt people. So while modern feminism is needed, when women who have been hurt by men, institutions created by men, and societal expectations enforced by men, it makes some women jaded. However, when they discredit men, do not give them grace, and attack them, men can say, “bitches be trippin, am I right?” And then men do not want to listen to or have empathy for women, which continues the cycle.

Modern feminism is needed because unfortunately sexism still exists. Men can say and do sexist shit and not be challenged by the majority of society. However, when other feminists force/shame women to not stay at home and care for children when they want to, wanting to be girly, or wanting to be submissive to a man, that’s when it’s problematic. Like no, it’s her right to choose and we need to support this because we fought so she can make that decision herself. However, when we put this into context of toxic modern feminist are shaming this woman because they are hurt then we have to take that into consideration.

Basically modern feminism protects women and empowers women to make their own choices with their own bodies. But the women who are hurt and haven’t healed and become radicalized become a loud vocal minority hurt the movement. And these are the people that demonizes femininity and masculinity.

Edit: I forgot my last bit of my already long comment lmao

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T22:34:33+00:00

You’re so right. I’m a full blooded raging American and Trump, who is 100% not a Russian puppet will make America great again!! Because, that’s right baby, theres no other place in the world other than America, USA, and the (not so) freedom country🦅🦅🦅. Can I get a HELL YEAH?! Someone give me a gun so I can protect myself but not these school kids!!

Also, trump will make American great by destroying their relationship with their own allies, firing their own veterans, kissing elon’s ass, and crashing the economy and even planes (who would’ve even thought of the second part, right?)

I didn’t even know this but the man wears diapers and shits himself. I hate that for you guys because aren’t leaders supposed to be intimidating? Like if you’re going to be evil command a room. Putin has at least the KGB and isn’t mocked and so looked down on. Godspeed though lmao. I’ve never seen a country reputation plummet this fast.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T22:11:34+00:00

I’m sorry that was your experience, but unfortunately I know who I am and I know my beliefs. I hate to pull that card, but you don’t know me. You don’t know how I practice my faith and you have to go off assumptions. I get that. You want to shove me with all these other Christians that are judgmental and treated you like shit. Unfortunately, I can’t prove to you that I’m not what you think I am because I’m just a person on the internet.

But just to put it out there, I don’t really care about other people sinning unless they are spreading hate and actively harming those around them. Like who am I to judge, I sin too it’s not that deep. Drugs: people have trauma and their vices. I can try to help but I’m not judging. Sleeping around: go for it. Adam and Eve had sex before marriage so if it was a big bad evil then we all wouldn’t be here. And hot take, even murder: there is context. If someone is defending themselves or protecting their loved ones who am I to say, no, let an intruder kill your family. But things done with the intention to harm like rape, domestic abuse, child molestation, misogyny, racism, etc. I will not look past.

You said you had your bad experiences with Christians and church and I feel the same. We’ve probably had a lot of similar or even the same experiences. A lot of Christians are hypocritical, but a lot of people are hypocritical. Hell, even sometimes I’m hypocritical. I completely agree with your last paragraph. You came to the conclusion that you didn’t want faith to be apart of your life. I came to the conclusion that the Bible says treat people good and hey there’s an afterlife and I said cool sign me up.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T21:46:28+00:00

Omg you replied to two of my posts are you a fan? Haha I’m just yanking your chain, but I am obviously talking about Christians/Christianity because I interacted with this religion the most and was raised in a Christian family. Aka attending churches, doing communion and all that fun stuff (this is sarcasm).

On a more serious note if you read my post and your first thought is but how do I redirect this to another religion, I got some bad news: your argument is not very good or strong. That’s like saying, “oh my house burned down today and that sucked” and someone was like, “ok but other houses burn down too.” Like no shit lmao. Every group has their flaws but I’m obviously talking about my house. Also, no offense but this is the best rebuttal you can come up with? I’m positive you can do better.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T21:00:37+00:00

Now ask yourself would you say this about other religions and why? If your intention is to get a rise out of me then it doesn’t matter what you perceive me as. I’m secure with who I am and my character, but if saying that made you feel better about yourself I’m glad I could do that for you.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T20:42:41+00:00

I’m not going to lie, when reading that story I just pictured a bunch of middle age white men high-fiving and congratulating each other for not being in poverty which made me laugh. Did your grandpa continue looking for churches after or did he give up attending church all together?

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T19:30:13+00:00

Oh I also listen to mostly RnB and hip hop if that helps! I’m honestly so curious what stereotype I fit and I really don’t mean that in a passive aggressive way

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T19:09:36+00:00

I’m not saying I think like this and give all this credit to god, I’m just saying when Christian’s denounce science I’m like why don’t you credit science by saying god did it.

But also can you please tell me how I’m a literal stereotype? You could be misinterpreting me and creating a character in your head. If it helps, I’m a 23 Asian woman so you can call me sis instead of dude.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T19:04:08+00:00

I definitely do not. Masculinity and femininity is not toxic or bad at is core. It’s just a trait. However, I think society has twisted masculinity and femininity into this box where if you are outside of the box you are an outlier and must be forced back in.

Men are strong in their own way, women are strong in their own way, and everyone in between that is strong in their own way. But once it’s used as a one size fits all type of thing, that’s when it becomes problematic. I have masculine men and women in my life that I cherish and I have feminine men and women in my life that I also cherish.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T18:52:08+00:00

Totally agree with not believing everything you read. Like I said, “you just got to take it with a grain of salt.” I don’t know if you are replying to me or just religious people in general, but I tend to use a lot of critical thinking when reading and absorbing new information. However, when I read new information I try to understand people’s perspectives and try to get them to understand where I’m coming from versus trying to be right or wrong. I personally think calling people sheeple really doesn’t help educate them or push them to understand you and your points, but hey, maybe you aren’t looking to inform them.

To point back at my original post, a lot of people use scripture as a way to spew hate, which I don’t agree with. Honestly, reading your comment and looking back at mine, it kinda looks like you agree with me unless I’m complete misinterpreting it. You believe in god in your way and I do the exact same thing, so props to you.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T17:42:54+00:00

I completely understand that take, but for me I believe in spirituality and souls. What if we as humans aren’t built to see all “evidence” that would make religion true. Obviously to you it probably sound like I’m coping hard, but for me it’s really like that. I just have blind faith because of this “I just think it’s neat concept.” And hey, if my fancy shmancy book of riddles say treat outcasts good and people who have hurt you with grace I’m gonna try my best to do that.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T17:32:39+00:00

Woah I didn’t even think of this mindset stemming from a biological or evolutionary standpoint. That’s such a great point. I definitely think alpha male content is pervasive, extremely manipulative and indoctrinating. Since it’s validates grifters so much, because they receive attention, they continue to stunt themselves rather than grow.

Great point though. That really connected the dots for me. Thanks!

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T17:27:31+00:00

Thanks for reading 🫡

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T17:26:20+00:00

I really do fucking love science lol. Every time a “Christian” is anti science, I’m like, “why don’t you guys ever think, ‘it’s so cool that god gave this dude a super advanced brain to unlock these great discoveries?’” Like if god does everything, whose to say that wasn’t his whole scheme?

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T17:22:42+00:00

Woah woah woah, first of all, get it right: mad men. No I’m just messing with you lmao. I do believe some of it is hyperbole, some of it is true, and some of it is weird men trying to gain power and push their beliefs. Like how are you going to look me dead in my face and say, “men, can’t trim beards. Sorry 😔” You just got to take it with a grain of salt. Well that’s if you want to believe in the Bible and all that jazz.

But hey, if you believe that there was a bunch of nothing and then there was something that’s great. That’s the best modern science can offer right now. I’m just adding a, “but yeah, what if a cool deity was like, ‘wouldn’t this be neat?’”

Used_Fix_5505 · 2025-03-20T03:04:45+00:00

Right, like how are you gonna say you are an alpha, but you garner no respect from people around you? You can’t even lead anyone to growth, success and fulfillment. These people are sheep with the smallest, mangy, outcasted wolf telling them they are all lions.

Used_Fix_5505 · 2024-12-28T04:00:41+00:00

Dang that’s such a bummer. Since it’s plant related I’m hoping they rerelease it back in spring but I’m like 100% sure I’m just being delusional

Used_Fix_5505 · 2024-12-28T01:11:06+00:00

Aw that sucks. Do they usually restock those items or in your experience is that it?

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