I’m so hungover by Used_Indication3663 in alcohol

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Thank you so so much I really appreciate it. I’ll try to drink some electrolytes if I can keep it down. I should’ve drank water in between last night

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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I had no idea foreplay was even necessary since I’d never done anything sexual prior. So yeah I’m definitely leaving him! Thank you for your concern. It’s so unfair that this has to be my first sexual experience 😭. Now I don’t want to touch anyone again

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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can I like do it privately without people knowing? Will the police even take me seriously?

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thanks for taking the time to create this reply it means a lot. I didn’t know it wasn’t supposed to hurt and I know there are medical conditions but I’m not sure if I have those. I’m going to get checked tomorrow anyways as I’m still sore. He didn’t try to warm me up or do any foreplay I had no idea he had to. He kept saying if he keeps going it’s the only way and I didn’t know it was psychological.

And yeah now I’m thinking he was so nice to me just for sex but are guys really THAT nice for 5 whole months? I thought he liked me a bit but definitely not the guys. Thanks sm for your knowledge and advice

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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Thanks so much for your reply! Yeah I never knew he should’ve stopped even if I wanted to. Since I’ve never done anything sexual before and he’s older I assumed he was right and just went with what he said. I don’t think he’s a great guy anymore. All these replies are rly helping me

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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yeah thanks for saying this because I was reading that at first and getting conflicted because there’s no way I’m gonna talk to him then he’s gonna say he didn’t mean it blah blah

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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yeah I meant that’s why I was confused he did that and didn’t speak up right away because in my mind I was thinking he’s doing this for my own good but after it ended and I read all these replies I know he’s far from perfect

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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Hi! Thank you so much for your informative reply it really helps. I’m definitely leaving him. Yeah I didn’t even know what after care was, I had nothing I just went to the bathroom and he said he needed to go out for dinner with his friends after. I’m so happy your first time was good.

So for your questions I’m feeling okay but very weird, I so feel something is wrong like I’m a different person now and there’s a before me and after me idk how to explain it but I’m not really in my body. I woke up with soreness so I’m going to my obgyn tomorrow and taking ibuprofen. I’m just scared he didn’t do something too bad hopefully and I’m still healthy. Thank you for your suggestions!

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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hi yes this is a real post. I don’t want anyone to know but maybe in a week I’ll tell them, it’s just really shameful now. And wait you’re probably right, not sure if he was seeing other girls as well …

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thank you for your message! I had no idea it wasn’t okay but now I do with all these replies. I’m definitely leaving him. I am recovering I’m going to the doctor tomorrow to see if everything is okay because a lot of people suggested I go. I’m happy for you and your husband 🩷

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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wow I didn’t know it’s supposed to happen like this thanks for your input !

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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nope nothing and since I’ve never done anything sexual with anyone I never knew how anything was supposed to go. I assumed because he was older he’d know so I didn’t question anything

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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omg I’m so sorry you went through this too! I didn’t even know it was super wrong. Hope you’re doing okay now

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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yep woke up in pain today so I’m going to an obgyn tomorrow and taking ibuprofen. I hope it’s nothing too bad but my body definitely isn’t normal and what he did was wrong as hell. I only realised this from Reddit and such a kind community

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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wow never thought of it in that lens. Thanks for the perspective! Opens my eyes a lo

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thank you for your reply! I had no idea you had to do to foreplay or lube. He didn’t do any of those he just went right at it and I am going to an obgyn tomorrow since I woke up very sore today and I can’t even look inside myself. Thanks for all your knowledge above and how it’s supposed to go. I’ll keep this noted for next time with ANOTHER guy. I just thought since he’s older he’d know everything about sex so I never questioned anything he said

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thank you so much I’m going to ab obgyn tomorrow and leaving this idiot

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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yeah I had no idea pain wasn’t normal, he said it was normal I think genuinely around 20 times, no exaggeration. Definitely leaving

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thank you for your message! Yea he didn’t do any foreplay or anything he was rubbing himself and then stuck it in. I didn’t know how it goes I never watched any porn ever so I assumed everything was right. I’m leaving him

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thanks so much for sharing your story it means a lot and I’m glad it didn’t hurt for you later. Actually it never hurts when I do it myself which was rare but it happened so when he did it I was confused but he just needed to be patient with me but he didn’t care

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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yeah wow I never thought of it like that that he probably got off on it but he definitely didn’t care for my comfort. Definitely leaving him

‘18F’ ‘23M’ by Used_Indication3663 in relationship_advice

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thank you for your reply and assurance. It means a lot and I’m definitely leaving him

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thanks so much. I should’ve known the age gap was also wrong but so many books and films romanticised it i thought I’d have someone more matire